Zero. It dredges up feelings of growing up poor and having crappy bdays. Plus, it is a few days after Christmas. I hated people saying..." this is your birthday Christmas/present".

Maybe a 1.5. I like to go out with immediate family for a bday dinner (i pick the nice-ish place) and that's it. My 50th is this month and it will be like any other year.

Perhaps a -1. I just don’t care & the fact that my parents & siblings go overboard w/ bdays & Hallmark holidays irks me to no end.
And yes, we do parties for kids. I’m not heartless.

10....special night with the wife

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I guess 5?

I would be upset if my own spouse did not acknowledge my birthday or planned absolutely nothing. For his birthday I always plan something, even if it’s just dinner with our family and a dessert he likes at home (sometimes more, it just depends). And it’s nice to get a gift or two from immediate family, though that’s not at all required.

But I don’t expect a blowout and I don’t care if my friends or other family acknowledge. It’s nice if they do but not necessary.

I will say that I really loathe Facebook birthday greetings. Hate sending them, hate getting them. There is nothing remotely thoughtful about people wishing happy birthday because Facebook prompted them to.

Not at all. I ask my DH and kids for Chinese food and yellow cake with chocolate frosting. They usual make cards and also get me flowers. That’s more than enough for me.

Anonymous wrote:to me personally? 10. I always spend the day alone, doing something I enjoy. Sometimes I go on a solo trip around that time. I have zero expectations that anyone else (including my family) will acknowledge it, and I'm seldom disappointed. This year I got several texts from family, which surprised me because it's so so rare.

Had to look at the date to make sure I hadn't written it. This is exactly what I do! I'm a summer birthday so it always feels weird to work on my birthday. I take the day off and spend it doing something I enjoy-- going to the library, antiquing, biking.
Family usually takes me out for dinner, but that's about it otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:Not at all. I have a hard time with the excessive celebration of non-milestone birthdays or grown adults. I go along with it but whyyy

This!

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I used to think that birthdays weren’t important and was happy with dinner and a.cake. When I had a milestone birthday come and go with no fanfare from DH and when DH forgot a birthday entirely, it hurt a lot more than I was expecting it to. It’s especially maddening because he was complaining that one of our children wasn’t going to be home for his birthday and made a comment about needing to celebrate birthdays more. Right.

I'd say 5 or 6, but I don't expect anyone to do anything for me. I make my own plans, including taking the day off work, dinner prep, cake, flowers and champagne That way I get exactly what I want, and my family can enjoy it with me.