I don't have children and I don't think I know what it is like to have them. The thing is it's not something I think about, I am not interested.

Part of the reason for not having them was not wanting the responsibility, the day in and day out, the 24/7 of taking care of another dependant person. I knew that wasn't for me. However in knowing that about myself, I don't then think I know what parenting is like. I also don't think I have to know.

Why does it matter, OP? Unless they are providing unhelpful advice to you (which honestly other parents are probably even better at), why should they or you care if they "get it"?

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t want to get it.

+1 lol. Or, we get it well enough, and we said hell to the no!

This. I always think it’s weird when people say child free children don’t understand how much work children are. Him, yes, maybe we do, and maybe that’s why we don’t have kids! Now if you’re talking about a 25-year-old who doesn’t have kids and wants them, maybe that’s a different story. But someone who is 40 inches and not have kids? Yeah, actually, maybe we do know how much work it is. To me it looks indescribably exhausting and I don’t think I could do it

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I don't want or need to get it. I don't care about kids and don't want to be around them. I don't care how much you sacrifice or not. None of it is interesting.

Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

Why do they need to get it?

Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

So? Why do they need to? There's a million things that you don't really understand because you've never done it. Probably doesn't even stop you from expressing your opinion on them, either.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

It is a ton of work but I don't resent people who don't choose my choices and the casading waterfall of consequences. America hates women and we do the majority of childcare so it's not surprising we do a ton of uncompensated labor and there's no support.

Women don't and you are making excuses and married a bad husband. My husband does an equal amount of work and life is about choices. I choose to quit as it wasn't worth paying for child care on my salary. It was my choice to have a child and it was on me to figure out child care. Stop expecting others to handle your responsibilities. You resent being a parent.

The hardest part is that children are like wearing your heart in your sleeve. What happens to them also happens to you emotionally. That is very tiring. Also wondering if you are doing a good job or the right thing.

Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

It is a ton of work but I don't resent people who don't choose my choices and the casading waterfall of consequences. America hates women and we do the majority of childcare so it's not surprising we do a ton of uncompensated labor and there's no support.

Anonymous wrote:I have a puppy so I kind of get it. Jk

Our puppy is far more work than our kid.

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

No, nannies get it. I had no surprises going from being a nanny to being a mother.

I worked as a babysitter, day care and nanny.. the transition to mom was easy because I knew what I was getting into and its far easier when its your own kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I must be the only parent who doesn't find parenting hard (I do not have special needs kids). I found that kids just become a natural part of the family. Or maybe I have easy kids... I think my dog is much more difficult.

No, you're not the only one. I actually think you're the majority. But it is like anything else. The complainers are 5% of the population and they make 95% of the noise. The rest of us are fine and dandy.

If that's the case would you please stop whining? We need free child allowances. We need paid care. We need this. We need that. Do if yourself if you're so fine and dandy.

No, you don't need free child allowances and paid care. You need to get off your fanny and do some work. The rest of us are doing fine. You, obviously not. Get your act together and do your job as a parent. Stop expecting other people to do what you're too lazy to do.

How absurd. Many of us in the “doing fine” camp get lots of paid help.

You get paid help. We've never had paid help... no housekeeper, no house repair (except a rare occasion), do our own lawns and take care of our own kids - no paid or unpaid help... you should try it.

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Anonymous wrote:I must be the only parent who doesn't find parenting hard (I do not have special needs kids). I found that kids just become a natural part of the family. Or maybe I have easy kids... I think my dog is much more difficult.

No, you're not the only one. I actually think you're the majority. But it is like anything else. The complainers are 5% of the population and they make 95% of the noise. The rest of us are fine and dandy.

If that's the case would you please stop whining? We need free child allowances. We need paid care. We need this. We need that. Do if yourself if you're so fine and dandy.

No, you don't need free child allowances and paid care. You need to get off your fanny and do some work. The rest of us are doing fine. You, obviously not. Get your act together and do your job as a parent. Stop expecting other people to do what you're too lazy to do.

How absurd. Many of us in the “doing fine” camp get lots of paid help.

What did you think it was going to be like to have kids? You don't get to have them and complain about it 24/7.

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Anonymous wrote:I must be the only parent who doesn't find parenting hard (I do not have special needs kids). I found that kids just become a natural part of the family. Or maybe I have easy kids... I think my dog is much more difficult.

No, you're not the only one. I actually think you're the majority. But it is like anything else. The complainers are 5% of the population and they make 95% of the noise. The rest of us are fine and dandy.

If that's the case would you please stop whining? We need free child allowances. We need paid care. We need this. We need that. Do if yourself if you're so fine and dandy.

No, you don't need free child allowances and paid care. You need to get off your fanny and do some work. The rest of us are doing fine. You, obviously not. Get your act together and do your job as a parent. Stop expecting other people to do what you're too lazy to do.