Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 17:58     Subject: Re:Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he doesn't want to live the life you want you all to live.

He's probably going along with it because he's just bending to your will.

Sounds like a lovely relationship..


what life? going along with what? You mean the one with the kid he procreated and needs a place to live that's not a dump or with a dumpy school?
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 17:00     Subject: Re:Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
It sounds like he doesn't want to live the life you want you all to live.

He's probably going along with it because he's just bending to your will.

Sounds like a lovely relationship..
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 15:34     Subject: Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
Omg, don’t buy the house.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 15:32     Subject: Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
Anonymous wrote:Don't buy a house with him before a divorce - he's going to get half your assets and then you'll be stretched too thin keeping the house. Divorce first, then buy based on your new financial situation.


This. Why are you buying him half a house OP?
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 14:54     Subject: Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
He didn’t even notice. In fact he thought he was killing it at home, the relationship and with the kids I was raising. He ignored us and did his lame stuff - overwork, tv, eat - and thought we were getting along soooo well - never talking or doing anything.
What an idiot.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 14:52     Subject: Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
Anonymous wrote:I have been there. IME, my anger was related to think fact that I thought DH would get it at some point and change his ways. Once I realized that was never going to happen, I started acting like a single parent and doing everything myself or asking other reliable people for help or paid out-sourcing. I grey-rocked DH and really only interacted politely and superficially. All this made life 100% less stressful.

Of course, it made me lose all respect foe DH and any sexual interest I used to have pretty much disappeared. I did nog want to have sex with a man-baby. Eventually I asked him to move out.


Same here. Mental disorder ManChild spouse.

3 separate therapists told me to do this as well, if not divorcing asap.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2022 14:05     Subject: Partner (DH) who can't hack it AND is disrespectful
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a rough time. He is very aware of your contempt for him and that causes him to retreat further.
I think I recognize your writing, you’ve been on here before with similar complaints, am I right?


Ha, maybe it was me, maybe there are a lot of us.

So to the immediate prior PP, we are not actually married so I am not worried about the asset piece. But thank you for the advice.


So why do you refer to him as your husband/DH and say that you married him?

Something seems off about this/OP.


DP. I often refer to my unmarried coparent as “DH” on here because it’s easier to write. “Boyfriend” sounds wrong and “partner” masks gender.


Yeah but OP also said “don’t ask why I married him” so something’s not right here.