State it outright. You don’t need to go into any more detail than you have here. If you just want sex go to fetlife but if you’re looking for a relationship then just mention it in your profile. Just be aware that a lot of us don’t really get what that means. I see it all the time on the apps and I don’t really get it. Like you want to get pegged?

baltimoreguy wrote:Has anyone here ever actually met someone on FetLife?

Doesn't really function as a dating site as far as I can tell. Do you just send unsolicited messages to people?

In particular, any woman saying she's looking for a man seems to be a scammer

I've easily met over 100 people through Fet. You need to get out more. No, it's not a dating site, it's a social networking site.