Anonymous wrote:Men like women who stroke their ego and who love sex. Turn the lights off, face the other way, and it really doesn't matter.

-signed a woman

Anonymous wrote:If I was ugly and married to a hot guy I’d probably get a little rude too. People like OP are so harsh about a woman’s attractiveness and I’m sure she knows she is constantly judged for it. I’d probably save the food parts of my personality for people who were clearly respectful to me.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

Maybe they’re happy to be with someone who doesn’t value appearance as the whole of a person instead of a plastic, soulless figurinewho think sh they’re better than everyone just because they’re pretty.

Or, Maybe the homely one is a satisfying freak in the sheets.

DCUMland where no beautiful woman can ever have intelligence or substance. I guess that makes all of the Plain Janes feel better.

And no woman could be beautiful, smart and into sex. Impossible!!

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Anonymous wrote:I think we’re all accustomed to seeing couples where the woman is hotter but it’s really shocking when you encounter the opposite. I’ve been at parties where everyone is whispering about that couple all night.

It IS shocking when it’s an attractive male with a plain woman. It doesn’t happen much because those guys typically select equally good looking partners.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, different strokes for different folks. Do you know how many men consider Rossy De Palma stunning?

She’s hot! But I like the crosseyed big nose types because they remind me of a girl in college who was, to this day, the best sex I’ve ever had.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

Maybe they’re happy to be with someone who doesn’t value appearance as the whole of a person instead of a plastic, soulless figurinewho think sh they’re better than everyone just because they’re pretty.

Or, Maybe the homely one is a satisfying freak in the sheets.

DCUMland where no beautiful woman can ever have intelligence or substance. I guess that makes all of the Plain Janes feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has the best personality ever- so funny and fun and warm, people just gravitate to her and want to be around her. She is honestly pretty plain looking though, while her husband is just delicious looking, but quiet and reserved. Opposites attract!

You missed the part where the wife is rude and cold.

Of course she is rude and cold to OP. She can see the judgment all over OP's shallow face.

Now this is just silly. You have no way of knowing that OP treats the wife in a judgemental way. It’s just impossible for DCUM to accept that the wife is both ugly and rude.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

Maybe they’re happy to be with someone who doesn’t value appearance as the whole of a person instead of a plastic, soulless figurinewho think sh they’re better than everyone just because they’re pretty.

Or, Maybe the homely one is a satisfying freak in the sheets.

DCUMland where no beautiful woman can ever have intelligence or substance. I guess that makes all of the Plain Janes feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has the best personality ever- so funny and fun and warm, people just gravitate to her and want to be around her. She is honestly pretty plain looking though, while her husband is just delicious looking, but quiet and reserved. Opposites attract!

You missed the part where the wife is rude and cold.

Of course she is rude and cold to OP. She can see the judgment all over OP's shallow face.

Now this is just silly. You have no way of knowing that OP treats the wife in a judgemental way. It’s just impossible for DCUM to accept that the wife is both ugly and rude.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of men want to security of knowing their wife won't cheat on them from what I have seen in my friend group. These men dated a lot of women before marriage and were good looking but insecure.

Ok, maybe, but how do they stomach being intimate with someone so unattractive? There’s a ton of beautiful women around; do they not see them and wish they’d done better?

- A man

Maybe they’re happy to be with someone who doesn’t value appearance as the whole of a person instead of a plastic, soulless figurinewho think sh they’re better than everyone just because they’re pretty.

Or, Maybe the homely one is a satisfying freak in the sheets.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he loves her?

Here's a brutally honest yet loving comment from one anonymous man (from https://ask.metafilter.com/212798/Im-ugly-now-what):

"My wife is ugly. She knows it and I know it, but we've never talked about it. It's that hard. Until I met her, fell in love with her, and married her, I never really understood what a burden ugliness is, especially for a woman.

I've never told her that she's beautiful, something that I just said automatically and spontaneously to so many girlfriends. In a candid sad moment once she told me that no one told her she was beautiful on our wedding day. When we watch movies and someone tells a woman how beautiful she is I cringe inside, because it is a reminder of how huge and every present this myth of beauty is. It's what every woman is told she is supposed to be pretty much from the day she's born, and my wife just isn't that. She fails it utterly, and there are just constant reminders of it.

So that's all very depressing, but I'm telling you this because I did fall in love with her and I did marry her, and we're very happy together, and we have two beautiful children (there's that word again, sorry). And in case it matters, I'm not ugly myself. I've been told that I'm attractive, and I went to a good college and have been reasonably successful in life. So I don't think she had to trade down to find someone to marry her. I didn't either, that's the thing.

I'm writing this because all these other people are responding kind of telling you not to worry about it, but I'm not sure they really understand how hard it is for a woman to be ugly, with uneven droopy eyes and uneven lips and bad skin and the rest. It's hard and I feel for you. But I also wanted to write to assure that there's still hope, and there's still love out there for you. There was and is for my wife, so I know there can be for you too."

This isn't loving to me. In fact it's kind of awful