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Anonymous wrote:I watched the first episode and my main shock point was that Whitney’s husband was on Tinder looking for girls and not Grindr looking for dudes.
Same. Just watched E1 last night. I have an unapologetic Mormon addiction. I"ll admit it. The DV thing was crazy and what a way to start the show.
The one with the chronic illness said it got worse after breast implants so she had them removed. Why are these beautiful young women doing all this crazy stuff? Sounds like a sick culture.
Mormonism is an incredibly toxic culture.
In the Mormon church, only men can hold the priesthood - which is basically the religious authority to lead and make important decisions. Women can have leadership roles in children's programs or women's organizations, but they can't lead congregations, perform ceremonies, or make high-level church decisions. Imagine having deep faith in your religion but never being able to give a blessing to your own child - only watching your husband do it.
This power dynamic creates an interesting ripple effect. Since women can't hold formal power in the church structure, many turn to other forms of influence - primarily through appearance, homemaking, and social media presence. It's like having to be perfect becomes a way to claim some form of power or respect in a system where traditional authority isn't available to you.
Think about it: If you can't be the bishop (local church leader), you might focus on being the most put-together mom at church, with the best-behaved kids, the most beautiful home, and the most enviable appearance. Your Instagram following might become your congregation, in a way. Your influence comes from being admired rather than having institutional authority.
This plays into the beauty culture we talked about earlier. When your voice might not be heard in important church meetings, you might focus on being so outwardly "perfect" that people can't help but pay attention to you. It's like women have created their own parallel power structure through lifestyle influence and beauty standards.
And here's where it gets even more complex: Many Mormon women manage successful beauty-focused businesses or social media empires while still publicly supporting traditional gender roles. They've found a way to have significant influence and financial success while staying within the bounds of what's considered acceptable in their religious community.
The pressure to maintain this perfect image while having limited institutional power can be exhausting. Imagine feeling like you need to look flawless, raise perfect children, maintain an immaculate home, maybe run a successful business, AND support your husband as the spiritual leader - all while smiling and making it look easy on Instagram.
This might help explain why Utah's beauty culture is so intense. It's not just about looking good - it's about finding power and influence in one of the few ways available within the constraints of a patriarchal religious structure.