Anonymous
Post 06/16/2022 09:25     Subject: Loneliness
Anonymous wrote:This is so basic that it might sound dumb, but do you watch tv or movies together, OP? DH and I have always had a routine of watching shows together after the kid is in bed, and it provides a surprisingly large amount of bonding. It’s both physically time together, just sitting side by side on the couch, and it gives us a shared frame of reference for discussions and jokes.

Now that DD is a young teen, we’ve started watching family shows together at dinnertime, and it’s worked the same with her too.


So zero talking at mealtime you turn on the television, stay silent and eat up in a trance?

And that’s supposed to be less lonely than what? Eating in silence?

Does someone have social anxiety or issues talking? What does your kid think, are they able to conversate with others?
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2022 09:19     Subject: Loneliness
It's the worst when your kids are young. Too tired and busy to give more of ourselves.

Now that my kids are teens, and we have more time to focus on us and other things, we have more to talk about.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2022 09:13     Subject: Loneliness
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was just in this situation... It was fertile ground for an EA and now I'm separated.


Was the EA discovered and then that led to the separation or were you heading that way anyhow and the EA just made your mind up for you?


It was heading that way anyhow, I revealed it, things got tense. EA is now over but separation is marching forward...


Seems like it's rare for the affair to outlast the marriage - tends to be a catalyst than having staying power.