Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:38     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Non-walking babies don't count, because they don't have to have a meal or a chair-- they're basically cost-free. I wouldn't make a fuss over breastfed vs formula fed, but if a woman is nursing and she doesn't bring her baby, she might have to pump during the reception or risk leaking through her dress. And it's harder to find a sitter for a really little baby. So it's really normal to say "no kids" but "yes infants".


Babies are even worse because they cry and the parents are too stupid to take their little angels out of church or reception and I did not want breastfeeding at my wedding. Sometimes you send an invitation simply to let other people know. If no reception card is enclosed this means that you are only invited to church and no gift is expected


Sometimes babies are there at the insistence of the b/g parents, especially if they are grandchildren. It's not that the bride and groom especially want them there it's to prevent a MOB or MOG meltdown. Not always, of course, but sometimes compromises are made.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:35     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Every time I attend a child free wedding I deduct the childcare expenses from their gift. Last time they got a whole 40 bucks from me and my wife. Your free to say no kids and I’m free to give what I want.


This is childish and in this case, I would rather have the children attend, than you. I bet you are just cheap.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:34     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We went way out of our way to go to a wedding, brought the kids because there is no where to leave them, found a babysitter in the wedding town and arrive to see tons of kids at the wedding. They were all "in the wedding party" but still I was really pet peeved to see that they basically allowed the entire grooms family to bring their kids and no one else.

Is that normal? I thought no kids meant 0 kids not even in the wedding party.


I agree with you and I had a no kids wedding and that meant no kids in wedding party. In your case, I would be livid. You should have called the babysitter and bring kids to reception.


The other kids are not invited. You are not the host.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:27     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Non-walking babies don't count, because they don't have to have a meal or a chair-- they're basically cost-free. I wouldn't make a fuss over breastfed vs formula fed, but if a woman is nursing and she doesn't bring her baby, she might have to pump during the reception or risk leaking through her dress. And it's harder to find a sitter for a really little baby. So it's really normal to say "no kids" but "yes infants".


Babies are even worse because they cry and the parents are too stupid to take their little angels out of church or reception and I did not want breastfeeding at my wedding. Sometimes you send an invitation simply to let other people know. If no reception card is enclosed this means that you are only invited to church and no gift is expected
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:25     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.


No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.


According to whom? Are you going to question the bride and groom during the reception and demand an explanation as to the presence of a handful of children who you think shouldn't be there? Who cares, really, with what type of wedding they are having and what they choose to call it?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:20     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.


No. A no kids wedding means no kids at all and this includes the wedding party.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:18     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:I got married when we were $25 in DC. I couldn’t afford to have kids. Kids were like $150 a plate.

Something that annoys me on these threads is that the parents who bring their kids never pay extra if kids are invited. They’ll just give $150 or $200 for the family. If kids aren’t invited, they give the same amount.


What? You charge people for coming to your wedding?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:18     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Non-walking babies don't count, because they don't have to have a meal or a chair-- they're basically cost-free. I wouldn't make a fuss over breastfed vs formula fed, but if a woman is nursing and she doesn't bring her baby, she might have to pump during the reception or risk leaking through her dress. And it's harder to find a sitter for a really little baby. So it's really normal to say "no kids" but "yes infants".


This is not the only consideration when a couple elects to have a "child free" wedding. The cost wasn't a consideration for us at all--for us it was about the loud interruptions that children inevitably make.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:18     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
We had a no kids wedding. We also had a 4yo flower girl, 7yo ring bearer, and 12yo "junior usher". I don't know anyone who counts participants in the actual wedding party against the "no kids" rule.

I had a cousin who raised a stink about it. But her main issue was that I chose to use the son of my lifelong best friend as my ring bearer instead of her son. My cousin and I aren't even remotely close...she was invited to the wedding to appease my mother. My best friend is like a sister to me. No brainer.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:17     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:We went way out of our way to go to a wedding, brought the kids because there is no where to leave them, found a babysitter in the wedding town and arrive to see tons of kids at the wedding. They were all "in the wedding party" but still I was really pet peeved to see that they basically allowed the entire grooms family to bring their kids and no one else.

Is that normal? I thought no kids meant 0 kids not even in the wedding party.


I agree with you and I had a no kids wedding and that meant no kids in wedding party. In your case, I would be livid. You should have called the babysitter and bring kids to reception.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:12     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Every time I attend a child free wedding I deduct the childcare expenses from their gift. Last time they got a whole 40 bucks from me and my wife. Your free to say no kids and I’m free to give what I want.


Why wouldn’t you just RSVP regrets instead of being a selfish, passive aggressive @$$hat?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 17:00     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
I got married when we were $25 in DC. I couldn’t afford to have kids. Kids were like $150 a plate.

Something that annoys me on these threads is that the parents who bring their kids never pay extra if kids are invited. They’ll just give $150 or $200 for the family. If kids aren’t invited, they give the same amount.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 16:57     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Every time I attend a child free wedding I deduct the childcare expenses from their gift. Last time they got a whole 40 bucks from me and my wife. Your free to say no kids and I’m free to give what I want.


If you’re going to be that transactional you should add up the cost of hosting you and your spouse and the kids, then subtract the cost of childcare. I mean you are presumably saving them money by not bringing the kids. Better yet, if the couple mean nothing to you except how it affects your bank account, then skip the wedding saving you and them the money.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 16:56     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Every time I attend a child free wedding I deduct the childcare expenses from their gift. Last time they got a whole 40 bucks from me and my wife. Your free to say no kids and I’m free to give what I want.


Just don’t go. If that is your attitude, just check the “sends regrets” box that has conveniently been provided for you. An invitation is not a summons. And if you do attend, you’re not required to give a gift. Please give no gift rather than $40. Or just pick something like two glasses from the registry versus cash. That’s like leaving a penny tip at a restaurant. Just don’t go. You suck.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 16:56     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Every time I attend a child free wedding I deduct the childcare expenses from their gift. Last time they got a whole 40 bucks from me and my wife. Your free to say no kids and I’m free to give what I want.


Cool. I'm sure they'd rather have $40 than shell out twice as much as that to feed them food they probably won't eat and have them screeching on the dance floor. Looks like they come out ahead even if you think you're sticking it to them so I'd consider this a win.