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Anonymous wrote:Go check out the nanny forum here sometime. That is a decent representation of most nannies. I assure you the nannies most of the people you know have are not the modern day equivalent of Jane Eyre, Mary Poppins, or Maria from Sound of Music. They are just ordinary women trying to pay their bills. Maybe they have a bachelors degree.

I think people mean the one-on-one care and attention given by a nanny as opposed to group care.

SAHMs aren’t Mary Poppins either.

No one claimed they are. But OP is saying she is jealous of all the people with amazing highly educated nannies. From what I see, that is not most nannies. In fact, I don’t know anyone that had a nanny that fits that description. If you get a nanny that isn’t on her phone all the time when you are away, that is pretty much the best most can hope for.

I do know an educated and cultured nanny like that and she’s the envy of our entire preschool class. Her little boy uses words like taciturn and cantilevered!! The 19 month old is speaking in full sentences. The preschool boy told me he wants to paint like Jackson Pollack. Crazy smart kids with an amazing nanny.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go check out the nanny forum here sometime. That is a decent representation of most nannies. I assure you the nannies most of the people you know have are not the modern day equivalent of Jane Eyre, Mary Poppins, or Maria from Sound of Music. They are just ordinary women trying to pay their bills. Maybe they have a bachelors degree.

I think people mean the one-on-one care and attention given by a nanny as opposed to group care.

SAHMs aren’t Mary Poppins either.

No one claimed they are. But OP is saying she is jealous of all the people with amazing highly educated nannies. From what I see, that is not most nannies. In fact, I don’t know anyone that had a nanny that fits that description. If you get a nanny that isn’t on her phone all the time when you are away, that is pretty much the best most can hope for.

Anonymous wrote:OP, the best things you can do for your child are:
- Teach them basic life skills
- Don't be a helicopter parent
- Teach them empathy by showing them empathy
- Expose them to a variety of people

A kid raised with these values is more likely to grow into an independent, motivated, kind and empathetic adult. Those qualities will get them way further ahead in life than a piano prodigy or a bi(or tri-, quad-, etc.) lingual kid who needs mommy to do his laundry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go check out the nanny forum here sometime. That is a decent representation of most nannies. I assure you the nannies most of the people you know have are not the modern day equivalent of Jane Eyre, Mary Poppins, or Maria from Sound of Music. They are just ordinary women trying to pay their bills. Maybe they have a bachelors degree.

I think people mean the one-on-one care and attention given by a nanny as opposed to group care.

SAHMs aren’t Mary Poppins either.

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Anonymous wrote:This is going to sound like a humble brag but it’s not: I feel like one of my kids is too smart. She started talking at eight months and has always been insanely intellectually curious, like loving museums at age 3 and constantly watching educational YouTube videos as a kid.

And it’s like she knows too much. I know that a lot of this is just mental anxiety, but she knows all the challenges she is going to face: competition for college, salaries not keeping up with the cost of inflation, rising housing costs, increasing income inequality, difficult of access to mental healthcare, fossil fuel lobbies, the failures of many social justice initiarives, etc. She lies awake at night worrying about abortion rights and Russia’s propaganda tactics. She just turned 13 but she has been anxious about the world for a long time.

My other kid likes Roblox and fantasy novels. He does think about things like global warming, but in a more action-oriented, optimistic way.

I’m sure a lot of bright kids aren’t anxious but don’t assume intelligence means somebody is going to lead a better life.

Also, I did a ton to foster all this intelligence. I spoke to her like an adult since birth (people made fun of me but I really wanted her to start talking so I could know what she was thinking!), I gave her fish oil, I took her to lots of historical sites and museums, I basically did everything a parenting book would tell you to do to foster a child’s intellectual growth. When people saw how smart she was and asked me how I did it, I did focus on the idea that my daughters motivation to learn came from her, but I did tell them what I did. Now I wish I had said “just relax” (in a non-condescending way).

With the next kid I just let him watch truck videos all day.

Anonymous wrote:Go check out the nanny forum here sometime. That is a decent representation of most nannies. I assure you the nannies most of the people you know have are not the modern day equivalent of Jane Eyre, Mary Poppins, or Maria from Sound of Music. They are just ordinary women trying to pay their bills. Maybe they have a bachelors degree.