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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I went out to eat breakfast with a group of friends yesterday, we had a great time. As I was signing our check, I noticed that my friend didn't tip our waitress on his part of his check. I was so embarrassed, when my wife and her friend went to the bathroom, I told him you forgot to tip, he responded with I don't always tip, I was just surprised and disappointed in him. My friend and I work together, and I just lost respect for him because he makes decent amount of money and it's wrong not the tip period. My question is basically how many of you tip or tip something but not 20% or more?

Firstly, I don't tip 20%. I tip 15%. I think 20% is ridiculous. Also, I don't tip for things I pick-up. I will tip if I felt service at a restaurant is adequate and that would be 15%. If service was terrible, I don't tip.

Same. And I don’t judge others for that what they do or don’t tip. No one is obligated to tip at all or tip a certain amount. It is customary, but voluntary.

And it is customary for those of us who tip to think those of you who don’t are a**holes.

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Anonymous wrote:If these avid tippers really cared as much as they claim they would be walking with envelopes of cash to leave for the cooking staff, grocery cashiers, grocery loaders, deli sandwich makers, gas station attendants, janitors at the local school… Why are waiters so special!?

Waiters are so special because they get paid less than the minimum wage.

So we make up for that by paying them $100/ hour in tips? We could get them up past wage if each table tips $5, not 20%.

This reminds me how I learned to tip at a young age. I was 12 years old and I was invited to a birthday party in the neighborhood. I was the new kid and happy to be there. It was Ruby Tuesday restaurant, 5 kids plus the birthday girl, two parents and grandparents. I was sitting next to the birthday girl, when the waitress brought the check to the table, the dad gave my friend permission to add up tip and sign the check. I watched her the whole time because I was curious how much the check was, my friend put down $30 as a tip and sign the check. I was just surprised why so much, because my parents and I always tip $1 for each person. My friend basically tip $20 over, I asked her why she tip so much, she said because it's 18% of the check, and that's how I learned to tip appropriately. Imagine if I didn't know better, I would have tipped a dollar my whole freaking life and people surprise to learn why some people don't tip at all or tip incorrectly. Tipping is also culturally bias, I'm Asian and I realize people in my community tip the same way as my parents, my husband is African-American, his parents also tip small amount and your husband is the opposite.

Anonymous wrote:If these avid tippers really cared as much as they claim they would be walking with envelopes of cash to leave for the cooking staff, grocery cashiers, grocery loaders, deli sandwich makers, gas station attendants, janitors at the local school… Why are waiters so special!?

Waiters are so special because they get paid less than the minimum wage.

Anonymous wrote:Was this in DC? A lot of people are not tipping because they now make $15 or whatever and food prices were increased accordingly.

This hasn’t happened yet.

If these avid tippers really cared as much as they claim they would be walking with envelopes of cash to leave for the cooking staff, grocery cashiers, grocery loaders, deli sandwich makers, gas station attendants, janitors at the local school… Why are waiters so special!?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel weird but I don’t tip at those prompts at fast-food type places. Smoothie shops, Panera, chipotle or whatever. They have a new prompt on their inside registers (but no jar at the drive thru!)

If I have a few dollars cash and there is a jar sometimes I add a tip.

I feel so weird about those register prompts bc they didn’t have those for 20 years of my adult life!!

Me too. I stop going to my favorite coffee shop in my neighborhood because of it.

+1 I go out a lot less now because the tipping guilt trip is a turnoff. I also avoid eating in for that reason whenever I can and just do takeout even if I’m going to end up eating it at a nearby park bench.

I tip 15-18% unless I’m somewhere like a diner or Mexican place where my whole bill is less than $20. Then I will tip $5 usually.

I also tip for my pedicure with cash. I also only tip my hair stylist $20 because she works alone/doesn’t have any employees so she keeps all of what she charges me.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife and I went out to eat breakfast with a group of friends yesterday, we had a great time. As I was signing our check, I noticed that my friend didn't tip our waitress on his part of his check. I was so embarrassed, when my wife and her friend went to the bathroom, I told him you forgot to tip, he responded with I don't always tip, I was just surprised and disappointed in him. My friend and I work together, and I just lost respect for him because he makes decent amount of money and it's wrong not the tip period. My question is basically how many of you tip or tip something but not 20% or more?

Firstly, I don't tip 20%. I tip 15%. I think 20% is ridiculous. Also, I don't tip for things I pick-up. I will tip if I felt service at a restaurant is adequate and that would be 15%. If service was terrible, I don't tip.

Same. And I don’t judge others for that what they do or don’t tip. No one is obligated to tip at all or tip a certain amount. It is customary, but voluntary.

Good for you, Op. I would have called the person out since I was out with them. I would not have called a stranger out though. It was really your call to do so.
There are so many reason why people don't tip. Most have some kind of lousy excuses. Not sure why they don't just stay home. Eating out is not necessary at all. If you eat out, you should tip. You don't want to, stay home and you don't have to.
Most days I do make 20%, but it's because some make up for the cheap people. All got the same service as I have no way of knowing who is a lousy tipper.
I would refuse to go out with the said couple again.

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Anonymous wrote:So rude of you to put your friend on the spot like that. How do you know his financial situation? You should take it up with restaurant owner to pay their staff a better wage.

Clearly you are the non tipper.

Actually I tip well but would never call someone out for not tipping. I would leave extra and move on with my life.

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Anonymous wrote:In this country we still tip. So the argument that it’s not our responsibility or we’re creating a dynamic of inequity doesn’t work. Until it’s changed tip, cheapskate

It won't change until people stop tipping. You have it backwards. Let people do what they feel is right and stop judging.

Oh awesome. So we stiff workers until you get your way. that makes complete sense!

here we go again. i'll spit in your food if you don't tip poster?

Nope. Just someone who isnt a libertarian. And gives a rip about low wage workers.

Pretending to “give a rip.”

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DCUM is full of horrid people who boast about tipping well and who virulently diss those who don't tip.

If you were really virtuous, you would just do it and not post about it.

Nobody's impressed with you, because you're actually full of hate and all you want to do is virtue signal that you're better than other people.

Virtue signaling isn’t a real thing. And these posts are largely anonymous.

I agree though. Delight us with your take on religion!

Anonymous wrote:A couple of months ago I went to get a pedicure and was seated at the spot closest to the (open) front door which was also the spot closest to the front desk where people checked out. Two women had come in for manicures and pedicures before me. They checked out, got asked if they wanted to add a tip to the credit card charge and said no. A woman came in to get waxed - I heard she asked for legs and bikini. She got asked if she wanted to add a tip. $2. She tipped TWO DOLLARS.

I felt so bad I tipped $30 on my pedicure.

I don’t tip on the credit card. I give the mani/pedi lady cash. Yes, I carry cash for this purpose.

Anonymous wrote:So rude of you to put your friend on the spot like that. How do you know his financial situation? You should take it up with restaurant owner to pay their staff a better wage.

Clearly you are the non tipper.