Anonymous wrote:For any kind of athletic recruiting, if the schools continue to recruit for athletics, it is impossible to get to the level of being recruitable without parents curating. A 10th grader can't decide in 10th grade that they are going to join club swimming (when they are old enough to drive themselves if their parents were never willing to) and then get a spot on a college team three years later.

Anonymous wrote:How is this news?

Anonymous wrote:Just want to add hugs to those dealing with kid’s mental illness.

And that I wish this girl felt better about her merit aid/school she will be attending and that her parents wouldn’t have agreed to this article. It is only going to reinforce the bad taste she has over this process and expose her to social media like this. The whole article feels voyeuristic.

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Anonymous wrote:“The record 11.8 percent admission rate for Harvard's class of 1999 is significantly lower than rates at other Ivy League schools, ...“

Has it ever been easy?

It’s never been easy for your typical kid. It’s always been significantly easier for connected kids.

I went to a NE boarding school. They told us that before about the 1990s, kids essentially signed up for HYP like you would an intramural softball team. It isn’t like that anymore, but my high school sends roughly 25% of its graduates each year to an Ivy League school. The process remains deeply unfair.

Is this typical of the higher end NE boarding schools? Do their students get preferred admissions? Looking at this now for my kid who is interested in going starting in 2023 to play a sport (he's been talking to the coach), so if we're going to consider that school, we'll likely consider others as well. Just curious because DH and I are public school graduates so this is all new.

My husband went to Hotchkiss in the 90s. Got into every Ivy. Chose UPenn. Can count on 1 hand how many people give a damn where he went to college.

I guess it just gives more options? It perplexes me seeing kids major in whatever from a top private univ and then get a master's in teaching when they could have gone just about anywhere for an undergrad teaching degree and certification.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:“The record 11.8 percent admission rate for Harvard's class of 1999 is significantly lower than rates at other Ivy League schools, ...“

Has it ever been easy?

It’s never been easy for your typical kid. It’s always been significantly easier for connected kids.

I went to a NE boarding school. They told us that before about the 1990s, kids essentially signed up for HYP like you would an intramural softball team. It isn’t like that anymore, but my high school sends roughly 25% of its graduates each year to an Ivy League school. The process remains deeply unfair.

Is this typical of the higher end NE boarding schools? Do their students get preferred admissions? Looking at this now for my kid who is interested in going starting in 2023 to play a sport (he's been talking to the coach), so if we're going to consider that school, we'll likely consider others as well. Just curious because DH and I are public school graduates so this is all new.

My husband went to Hotchkiss in the 90s. Got into every Ivy. Chose UPenn. Can count on 1 hand how many people give a damn where he went to college.

I guess it just gives more options? It perplexes me seeing kids major in whatever from a top private univ and then get a master's in teaching when they could have gone just about anywhere for an undergrad teaching degree and certification.

We have messed up an entire generation with our curating and over parenting. The schools are now seeing the other side to many of these overachievers and they want no part of it. Mental health is at a crisis state on many campuses. If she wrote about having anxiety over a B, it’s no wonder she got rejected. The schools no longer want perfect, curated kids because they fall apart once they get there and the schools have to deal with it and are not equipped.

Anonymous wrote:For any kind of athletic recruiting, if the schools continue to recruit for athletics, it is impossible to get to the level of being recruitable without parents curating. A 10th grader can't decide in 10th grade that they are going to join club swimming (when they are old enough to drive themselves if their parents were never willing to) and then get a spot on a college team three years later.

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Anonymous wrote:“The record 11.8 percent admission rate for Harvard's class of 1999 is significantly lower than rates at other Ivy League schools, ...“

Has it ever been easy?

It’s never been easy for your typical kid. It’s always been significantly easier for connected kids.

I went to a NE boarding school. They told us that before about the 1990s, kids essentially signed up for HYP like you would an intramural softball team. It isn’t like that anymore, but my high school sends roughly 25% of its graduates each year to an Ivy League school. The process remains deeply unfair.

Is this typical of the higher end NE boarding schools? Do their students get preferred admissions? Looking at this now for my kid who is interested in going starting in 2023 to play a sport (he's been talking to the coach), so if we're going to consider that school, we'll likely consider others as well. Just curious because DH and I are public school graduates so this is all new.

My husband went to Hotchkiss in the 90s. Got into every Ivy. Chose UPenn. Can count on 1 hand how many people give a damn where he went to college.

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Anonymous wrote:“The record 11.8 percent admission rate for Harvard's class of 1999 is significantly lower than rates at other Ivy League schools, ...“

Has it ever been easy?

It’s never been easy for your typical kid. It’s always been significantly easier for connected kids.

I went to a NE boarding school. They told us that before about the 1990s, kids essentially signed up for HYP like you would an intramural softball team. It isn’t like that anymore, but my high school sends roughly 25% of its graduates each year to an Ivy League school. The process remains deeply unfair.

Is this typical of the higher end NE boarding schools? Do their students get preferred admissions? Looking at this now for my kid who is interested in going starting in 2023 to play a sport (he's been talking to the coach), so if we're going to consider that school, we'll likely consider others as well. Just curious because DH and I are public school graduates so this is all new.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say it - I think schools didn’t admit her bc her essays were about her mental health struggles over getting Bs during Covid.

I wish the system wasn’t this way - we talk a good game on mental health - but I think societal actions prove another thing.

I also think business is an incredibly oversubscribed major.

Here is the thing. The schools cannot deal with these mental health issues and they don’t want to. My student’s college had a suicide recently and it rocked the campus. The school should have known this student was at risk (there was a very public sign). I have no idea what the school did to help her, but I suspect (based on my student’s experience with campus mental health services) nothing.

We have messed up an entire generation with our curating and over parenting. The schools are now seeing the other side to many of these overachievers and they want no part of it.

Mental health is at a crisis state on many campuses. If she wrote about having anxiety over a B, it’s no wonder she got rejected. The schools no longer want perfect, curated kids because they fall apart once they get there and the schools hve to deal with it and are not equipped.

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Anonymous wrote:“The record 11.8 percent admission rate for Harvard's class of 1999 is significantly lower than rates at other Ivy League schools, ...“

Has it ever been easy?

It’s never been easy for your typical kid. It’s always been significantly easier for connected kids.

I went to a NE boarding school. They told us that before about the 1990s, kids essentially signed up for HYP like you would an intramural softball team. It isn’t like that anymore, but my high school sends roughly 25% of its graduates each year to an Ivy League school. The process remains deeply unfair.

Doesn't this just show that the schools are not "all that" in the first place? It just a prestige thing, with no real value other than that. They aren't actually "better," and obviously there are thousands of brilliant students who attend other colleges.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say it - I think schools didn’t admit her bc her essays were about her mental health struggles over getting Bs during Covid.

I wish the system wasn’t this way - we talk a good game on mental health - but I think societal actions prove another thing.

I also think business is an incredibly oversubscribed major.

Here is the thing. The schools cannot deal with these mental health issues and they don’t want to. My student’s college had a suicide recently and it rocked the campus. The school should have known this student was at risk (there was a very public sign). I have no idea what the school did to help her, but I suspect (based on my student’s experience with campus mental health services) nothing.

We have messed up an entire generation with our curating and over parenting. The schools are now seeing the other side to many of these overachievers and they want no part of it.

Mental health is at a crisis state on many campuses. If she wrote about having anxiety over a B, it’s no wonder she got rejected. The schools no longer want perfect, curated kids because they fall apart once they get there and the schools hve to deal with it and are not equipped.