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Anonymous wrote:I think it is interesting that the only two places OP has considered is "the cape" and Hilton Head.

Why is it interesting? CT beaches are bad. Maine ocean water is cold. Hamptons - pricy and far.
Jersey Shore is a mood but?

This is stupid. Maine and Massachusetts have the same water, they're practically adjoining FFS. RI beaches are good. OP never said how far she's willing to drive or where in NY she is.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you planning a vacation in a location that you know will cause drama? It sounds like you're intentionally trying to be mean to your MIL. Go to the Hamptons or go further up the coast to Maine. Why do you specifically have to go to Chatham? Even your reasoning sounds lame that you have a hard year coming up. Try to be kind, OP, and remember that what goes around comes around.

I'm confused where the Chatham thing is coming from, as the hard year coming up - neither detail of which is in the post.

??? There aren't many "resorts" on the Cape. Chatham is the only place that has bona fide resort.

I assumed OP was talking about Ocean Edge in Brewster. Regardless OP, as I often say to myself "you can be right or you can be married." If DH is worried about this hurting his mom's feelings, it won't be fun for him or you.

I go to the cape so am not an expert on other local options but maybe look into Ocean City NJ. Everyone loves it. Or maybe Lake George.

Go somewhere else. But your husband is a punk.

Anonymous wrote:Why not just go to a totally different location? Sounds like you have been to the cape many times with MIL. Why not go somewhere else and then you won’t have the conflict.

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Anonymous wrote:I can understand how your husband is feeling. Go to a resort in a totally different location and get the type of vacation you are looking for without the drama.

I do not understand at all. I have grown kids. If they came to the DMV, TO VACATION and stayed at a hotel with pool, in the heart of DC, YIPPPEEE fir them. It is their VACATION , not an obligatory stay at our house.
We can make plans to see each other, hang out , do whatever.
You know most of the time these people talk about parents or whomever have these hurt feelings these people are having hurt feelings over stuff that 90% of them do not even enjoy, it’s just some thought in their head that this is an obligation or this is what you do when you care about people some bull.