Doesn't the school offer any support for students who are looking to secure off-campus housing? With such an unfriendly housing market for students, I would think it would be in the school's best interest to facilitate the search.

Anonymous wrote:Couldn't she live on campus next year and sign up for a random roommate?

OP here. That’s the case right now, and it’s going badly. But DC May end up having to live with a random roommate again, either on or off-campus.

Couldn't she live on campus next year and sign up for a random roommate?

Anonymous wrote:OP, there is something very odd about your child -wanting- to live at home, seeking that out. Not saying you can't allow it but she is not on track.

OP obviously knows their child is struggling.

You did not need to make that point and did not do it in a kind way.

OP here. DC has decided definitely that they’re going to stay at the current school and not transfer. But she’ll be coming home for the whole summer and we’ll be getting her into therapy. I wouldn’t say DC is depressed but definitely having adjustment issues re: transferring. The town the school is in is NIMBY to the extreme, I’m just going to put it that way, making it exceptionally difficult for her and others to find housing.

I do think some older children find a way back into the nest in order to compel parents to resume the caretaking role. Have you ever noticed that people with eating disorders almost always live within families in which they and their struggles take center stage? Your DD is sensitive to noise but in the real world cannot force anyone -- landlord, roommates -- to modify behavior to accommodate her. She knows that it is your role to care about her comfort and happiness. I would try to help her avoid another transfer and if she did end up moving back home, insist on therapy.