Anonymous wrote:I am sorry your child is experiencing this. This was my child's experience all of 2nd grade. The teacher could not manage the classroom and just gave up. It was horrible as no one in the class that year learned anything. I am serious - my child moved 1 reading level in all of 2nd grade and I know 2 other students who were similar.

Moving forward I put in my child's record that they were not to be in a class with this child. Of course I used nicer words than that. I said something like - given my child's documented learning disability, he needs a classroom that does have serious disruptions.
For your child- reach out to the teacher and the school counselor. Lead with the stress and anxiety that the classroom disruptions are causing. Do not say the child by name - just say - the last 4 weeks my daughter has been having serious challenges. She has days when she does not want to come to school, she is in tears talking about her day etc. You want the school to support your child's needs and ask what they can do to support her.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this child bullying her? If not, she needs to toughen up.

Seems like the child is bullying the entire class. Also seems like the child isn't being served either.

If the child has some type of disability they are not bullying the class, they are unable to control themselves and that leads to disruptions to the class. I get that people are worried about all the students in the class but try not to be so callous as to not understand that most kids do not want to disrupt everything around them. Whatever is happening, it is likely that the child is struggling with dysregulation and needs help. It is scary for the other kids but it is not intentional.

The posters who are suggesting that the child was moved to a different class as part as the schools process to evaluate and record what is happening so that the school can move the child to a more appropriate environment are probably spot on. It is not as simple as noting some behaviors and moving a kid, there is an entire process. It is a pain in the butt for the student, the classmates, the Teachers, and the Administration.

And it sucks for the OPs kid. which is why the OP emailing the Teacher with a message about how her child's education is impacted is important. It gives the Teacher additional info to provide the Administration about the child's impact and can help the process along. But the email needs to focus on the experience of the OPs child, her responses to the disruptions, and stay neutral on the other child.

It sucks for all. It really does. OP should be focused on her kid and is doing the right thing but there is no reason for adults to be referring to a kid who is out of control for god knows what reason as a bully and assuming that the disruptive child wants to be behaving like this.

While I have a lot of sympathy for the child, I have a child who was a victim of one of these children regularly. My child goes to the nurse at least once/month for injuries from the child in his class. My child has been hit in the head by books, has been strangled because he checked out a book at the library that the other child wanted and the child strangled him to make him give up the book. My child has been bled from having a chair thrown at him that hit him in the head. My child has been kicked and has had black and blue bruises from this child.

While the school must serve them, I do expect the school to protect my child from this I spoke with the teacher on a number of occasions and the teachers have finally moved my child to the opposite side of the room from the disruptive child. At least now, he no longer comes home injured on a regular basis.

OP--you need to get your child's teacher involved and you need to explain the effect that the migrated student is having. While the teacher cannot move the child out of the class, they can and should do what they can to insulate the other children from the migrated student where possible. Perhaps just moving the children so that your child is sitting on the opposite side of class will help her if the disruptive child is not near by. But, you need to involve the teacher so they can do what is within their power to help as many children in the class as possible. But the parents need to communicate with the teacher so the teacher knows which children need more help.

I would have demanded a class change or kept my kid home.

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I want to say this gently but also sternly: please do not gossip about this child to other parents or make idle conversation about the child or speculate. If you're asked, you can say that you did speak to the principal because your daughter has had some upsetting days recently and you wanted to get more information and discuss it but do NOT verbally attack this other child. You do that, and I will never hear what you're saying. Children aren't born bad and they usually aren't bad on purpose. The other child needs as much love as yours does. So, sure, stick up for your daughter's right to be in a calm and stress-free, happy environment but don't pin the tail on the other kid. That isn't fair.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this child bullying her? If not, she needs to toughen up.

Seems like the child is bullying the entire class. Also seems like the child isn't being served either.

If the child has some type of disability they are not bullying the class, they are unable to control themselves and that leads to disruptions to the class. I get that people are worried about all the students in the class but try not to be so callous as to not understand that most kids do not want to disrupt everything around them. Whatever is happening, it is likely that the child is struggling with dysregulation and needs help. It is scary for the other kids but it is not intentional.

The posters who are suggesting that the child was moved to a different class as part as the schools process to evaluate and record what is happening so that the school can move the child to a more appropriate environment are probably spot on. It is not as simple as noting some behaviors and moving a kid, there is an entire process. It is a pain in the butt for the student, the classmates, the Teachers, and the Administration.

And it sucks for the OPs kid. which is why the OP emailing the Teacher with a message about how her child's education is impacted is important. It gives the Teacher additional info to provide the Administration about the child's impact and can help the process along. But the email needs to focus on the experience of the OPs child, her responses to the disruptions, and stay neutral on the other child.

It sucks for all. It really does. OP should be focused on her kid and is doing the right thing but there is no reason for adults to be referring to a kid who is out of control for god knows what reason as a bully and assuming that the disruptive child wants to be behaving like this.

While I have a lot of sympathy for the child, I have a child who was a victim of one of these children regularly. My child goes to the nurse at least once/month for injuries from the child in his class. My child has been hit in the head by books, has been strangled because he checked out a book at the library that the other child wanted and the child strangled him to make him give up the book. My child has been bled from having a chair thrown at him that hit him in the head. My child has been kicked and has had black and blue bruises from this child.

While the school must serve them, I do expect the school to protect my child from this I spoke with the teacher on a number of occasions and the teachers have finally moved my child to the opposite side of the room from the disruptive child. At least now, he no longer comes home injured on a regular basis.

OP--you need to get your child's teacher involved and you need to explain the effect that the migrated student is having. While the teacher cannot move the child out of the class, they can and should do what they can to insulate the other children from the migrated student where possible. Perhaps just moving the children so that your child is sitting on the opposite side of class will help her if the disruptive child is not near by. But, you need to involve the teacher so they can do what is within their power to help as many children in the class as possible. But the parents need to communicate with the teacher so the teacher knows which children need more help.

I would have demanded a class change or kept my kid home.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this child bullying her? If not, she needs to toughen up.

Seems like the child is bullying the entire class. Also seems like the child isn't being served either.

If the child has some type of disability they are not bullying the class, they are unable to control themselves and that leads to disruptions to the class. I get that people are worried about all the students in the class but try not to be so callous as to not understand that most kids do not want to disrupt everything around them. Whatever is happening, it is likely that the child is struggling with dysregulation and needs help. It is scary for the other kids but it is not intentional.

The posters who are suggesting that the child was moved to a different class as part as the schools process to evaluate and record what is happening so that the school can move the child to a more appropriate environment are probably spot on. It is not as simple as noting some behaviors and moving a kid, there is an entire process. It is a pain in the butt for the student, the classmates, the Teachers, and the Administration.

And it sucks for the OPs kid. which is why the OP emailing the Teacher with a message about how her child's education is impacted is important. It gives the Teacher additional info to provide the Administration about the child's impact and can help the process along. But the email needs to focus on the experience of the OPs child, her responses to the disruptions, and stay neutral on the other child.

It sucks for all. It really does. OP should be focused on her kid and is doing the right thing but there is no reason for adults to be referring to a kid who is out of control for god knows what reason as a bully and assuming that the disruptive child wants to be behaving like this.

While I have a lot of sympathy for the child, I have a child who was a victim of one of these children regularly. My child goes to the nurse at least once/month for injuries from the child in his class. My child has been hit in the head by books, has been strangled because he checked out a book at the library that the other child wanted and the child strangled him to make him give up the book. My child has been bled from having a chair thrown at him that hit him in the head. My child has been kicked and has had black and blue bruises from this child.

While the school must serve them, I do expect the school to protect my child from this I spoke with the teacher on a number of occasions and the teachers have finally moved my child to the opposite side of the room from the disruptive child. At least now, he no longer comes home injured on a regular basis.

OP--you need to get your child's teacher involved and you need to explain the effect that the migrated student is having. While the teacher cannot move the child out of the class, they can and should do what they can to insulate the other children from the migrated student where possible. Perhaps just moving the children so that your child is sitting on the opposite side of class will help her if the disruptive child is not near by. But, you need to involve the teacher so they can do what is within their power to help as many children in the class as possible. But the parents need to communicate with the teacher so the teacher knows which children need more help.

I would have demanded a class change or kept my kid home.

Anonymous wrote:No help OP just my condolences. All these mainstreamed kids that really need extra support are part of the reason we switched to private this year. My kid kept having her day disrupted because the class had to leave the room while a kid who was going thru sensory overload threw chairs around. He also tried to choke her over a ball at recess.

Anonymous wrote:My child is not school-aged yet… is this how SPED works now? When I went to school in the 90s, the (very very few) kids with incontrollable behavioral issues were in a small class by themselves with dedicated teachers. Now it sounds like the (many many more) kids are let loose and the other children sacrificed? Like there’s this strict “6 more weeks” process they can’t deviate from and FU to the other kids’ well-being and education? Is this true everywhere or are OP and the other people on this thread in rare situations?

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Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to share that this child clearly has needs that the school isn't meeting. Be kind. That said, OP, complaining will let them know that this current placement is not int the best interest of that other child. She needs a special school, special program, significant learning supports; something.

Your teacher and child are suffering b/c the admin aren't giving the moved child what she needs and is entitled to by law. I do hate that phrase but it's one of our few entitlements. (public education)

For this you will need to push for more mental health funding. Mental health and MTSS teams in DCPS are overwhelmed. One disruptive child can tank a classroom. This is a larger societal issue that is affecting all other members of the classroom. It’s an awful situation but it can improve. Sometimes the child’s parents are the roadblock, whether by denying the problem or genuinely not recognizing it or caring to act responsibly. There is only so much schools and admin can do.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this child bullying her? If not, she needs to toughen up.

Seems like the child is bullying the entire class. Also seems like the child isn't being served either.

If the child has some type of disability they are not bullying the class, they are unable to control themselves and that leads to disruptions to the class. I get that people are worried about all the students in the class but try not to be so callous as to not understand that most kids do not want to disrupt everything around them. Whatever is happening, it is likely that the child is struggling with dysregulation and needs help. It is scary for the other kids but it is not intentional.

The posters who are suggesting that the child was moved to a different class as part as the schools process to evaluate and record what is happening so that the school can move the child to a more appropriate environment are probably spot on. It is not as simple as noting some behaviors and moving a kid, there is an entire process. It is a pain in the butt for the student, the classmates, the Teachers, and the Administration.

And it sucks for the OPs kid. which is why the OP emailing the Teacher with a message about how her child's education is impacted is important. It gives the Teacher additional info to provide the Administration about the child's impact and can help the process along. But the email needs to focus on the experience of the OPs child, her responses to the disruptions, and stay neutral on the other child.

It sucks for all. It really does. OP should be focused on her kid and is doing the right thing but there is no reason for adults to be referring to a kid who is out of control for god knows what reason as a bully and assuming that the disruptive child wants to be behaving like this.

While I have a lot of sympathy for the child, I have a child who was a victim of one of these children regularly. My child goes to the nurse at least once/month for injuries from the child in his class. My child has been hit in the head by books, has been strangled because he checked out a book at the library that the other child wanted and the child strangled him to make him give up the book. My child has been bled from having a chair thrown at him that hit him in the head. My child has been kicked and has had black and blue bruises from this child.

While the school must serve them, I do expect the school to protect my child from this I spoke with the teacher on a number of occasions and the teachers have finally moved my child to the opposite side of the room from the disruptive child. At least now, he no longer comes home injured on a regular basis.

OP--you need to get your child's teacher involved and you need to explain the effect that the migrated student is having. While the teacher cannot move the child out of the class, they can and should do what they can to insulate the other children from the migrated student where possible. Perhaps just moving the children so that your child is sitting on the opposite side of class will help her if the disruptive child is not near by. But, you need to involve the teacher so they can do what is within their power to help as many children in the class as possible. But the parents need to communicate with the teacher so the teacher knows which children need more help.