Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

The H (or W) and the AP are BOTH betrayers and both are betraying the married spouse and kids. Riding shotgun counts.

If your husband had an affair with a woman that has never been married and is childless, she is likely just selfish, clueless and young. She may have divorced parents and really have no intimate knowledge of the depths of marriage and family bonds. Life will teach her some unpleasant lessons as it does to us all.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

They're not the one breaking their vows, but they are definitely participating in taking away the wife's informed consent and harming the children.

Both partners to adultery are whores and should be equally shamed.

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Anonymous wrote:I really don’t see how you can make a case that the AP woman (assuming she is not married herself) is as equally at fault as the cheater since she made no vows of fidelity. Fwiw I have no problem with women or men who play the AP role and place 100% of the blame on the individual who broke his/her vows. You can’t force someone to cheat.

Assigning. Fault? Who is keeping score? The woman is a nasty POS if she engages in an affair with a man she knows is married and has a family. It’s not about “fault”. It’s about possessing character, integrity, honor and empathy. No decent person would ever consider being an OW/OM.

Ok? Who cares? Did your Spouse cheat on you or something? If it makes you feel better to call the AP a POS and not your cheating spouse then do what you need to do hun.

If you don’t want to hang out with these low character people than don’t.

It’s so funny to me how people post this same topic weekly on here.

No. I don’t have a spouse. A man or woman that knowingly enters an affair with someone married is a POS. Sorry if that offends you because you like to not be accountable for your poor moral choices.

+100. Trashy.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. I was the other woman once. I regret it. It was harmful and stupid and I would never do it again. But I can't understand why anyone would stay married to such an ass.[b]

I can't understand why anyone would marry such a low character woman who lacks integrity like you. Touche

Well. My admission of a dumb thing I did decades ago on an anonymous internet forum seems to have hit you in the feels. I stand by my statement.

Only stupid APs use the phrase "the feels". Barf

HA. So true

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

+1

They have no vows. If the man is chearing, it's on him. Not the woman. JFC, it's not the 1800s, stop placing the blame on women.

Are you nuts! The co-cheater is equally to blame. They are knowingly sneaking around, and doing damage to the spouse and kids. If they are not to blame why don't they show up at his actual home, and call him around dinner time. If the OW isn't doing anything wrong, or to be ashamed of... So if I call the APs boss, friends and family I'm not to blame for making her life miserable either...right!

If they didn't think it was wrong, they would live their life out in the open. They would let everyone know about their married boyfriend: their parents, neighbors, employer, co-workers, etc. They know it is a morally wrong and hurtful thing to engage in but they lack empathy and emotional insight. They are first and foremost like all in affairs: profoundly selfish and self-centered.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. I was the other woman once. I regret it. It was harmful and stupid and I would never do it again. But I can't understand why anyone would stay married to such an ass.[b]

I can't understand why anyone would marry such a low character woman who lacks integrity like you. Touche

Well. My admission of a dumb thing I did decades ago on an anonymous internet forum seems to have hit you in the feels. I stand by my statement.

Only stupid APs use the phrase "the feels". Barf

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. I was the other woman once. I regret it. It was harmful and stupid and I would never do it again. But I can't understand why anyone would stay married to such an ass.[b]

I can't understand why anyone would marry such a low character woman who lacks integrity like you. Touche

Well. My admission of a dumb thing I did decades ago on an anonymous internet forum seems to have hit you in the feels. I stand by my statement.

Only stupid APs use the phrase "the feels". Barf

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Anonymous wrote:Meh. I was the other woman once. I regret it. It was harmful and stupid and I would never do it again. But I can't understand why anyone would stay married to such an ass.[b]

I can't understand why anyone would marry such a low character woman who lacks integrity like you. Touche

Well. My admission of a dumb thing I did decades ago on an anonymous internet forum seems to have hit you in the feels. I stand by my statement.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

+1

They have no vows. If the man is chearing, it's on him. Not the woman. JFC, it's not the 1800s, stop placing the blame on women.

Are you nuts! The co-cheater is equally to blame. They are knowingly sneaking around, and doing damage to the spouse and kids. If they are not to blame why don't they show up at his actual home, and call him around dinner time. If the OW isn't doing anything wrong, or to be ashamed of... So if I call the APs boss, friends and family I'm not to blame for making her life miserable either...right!

Anonymous wrote:Its the married persons responsibility to stay faithful. Why are you blaming the woman and not the man?

Pretty much any married man has encountered situations where women who knew the man was married have clearly made themselves available to them, but the man has stayed faithful and blameless. Those women deserve blame. So there are a lot of blameworthy people willing to sleep with married people. Obviously if the married person takes them up on it, lots of blame should be assigned to them as well. But the sirens availing themselves…they are a breed apart.

Its the married persons responsibility to stay faithful. Why are you blaming the woman and not the man?

They have no morals like the men they are with. Simple as

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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s 2022 and we’re done blaming women for the transgressions of men. What an affair partner does is not good, but they’re not the one breaking their vows, taking away their spouses informed consent, and harming their children.

+1

They have no vows. If the man is chearing, it's on him. Not the woman. JFC, it's not the 1800s, stop placing the blame on women.

The blame goes to anyone that willfully engages in behavior they know will directly harm another person and their kids. They lack character and morals and are dishonest people because they are participating in a lie too. I don't know a single betrayed person who does not hold their spouse fully accountable for their actions, but that doesn't absolve the OW/OM from being a POS to go along with it. They know this is morally wrong and deeply harmful to another person and they don't just give a crap because they have ZERO empathy.

Anonymous wrote:Meh. I was the other woman once. I regret it. It was harmful and stupid and I would never do it again. But I can't understand why anyone would stay married to such an ass.[b]

I can't understand why anyone would marry such a low character woman who lacks integrity like you. Touche