Anonymous wrote:Your first mistake is being a stepmother.

Your second is being concerned about an adult child that is not yours.

Neither ends up well.

Would it end up differently if question was asked by a biological parent?

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Anonymous wrote:These are adults?

If you count under 23 adults.

For what other purposes they aren’t held as adults?

I met my now DH the summer before he started medical school. We survived long distance, my grad school, his medical school, residency, fellowship, etc., etc. If it is going to work it will work. Many times it does not work but I also know many who made it work. We have now been married since 2004, have two kids and cannot imagine a different life.

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Anonymous wrote:These are adults?

If you count under 23 adults.

Well, 23 is 11 years since puberty, college graduate, employed, adult for all practical and legal purposes. It doesn’t matter if mom wants to I infantilize him.

Women have done this for a long time. Often without the engineering degree.

It is their choice, and no one can predict the future.

At least they are both motivated and have a sense of direction. They will do fine (alone or together...only time will tell.)

Sounds like these people won the lottery. They met each other young and are dedicated enough to each other that they want to spend their 20s launching their lives together. Sounds wonderful.

Did you run out of other things to unnecessarily fret about, OP?

Anonymous wrote:These are adults?

If you count under 23 adults.

These are adults?