Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 21:22     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:Since some want to twist the story.

Husband attacked first by putting down op's dream something op admits he does frequently.

It's a cycle for them. I guarantee you her husband said what he did to provoke a response that he got so he could then tell op she's awful.

There's no marital counseling that can fix this.


+1 he’s juvenile and disrespectful. He says his put down and then aggravates the other person, then attacks them personally.

Typical DARVO psycho.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 20:15     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Did he say “you are a b” or “you’re being a b”?
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 20:11     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:I love there questions with no context. No, it isn't acceptable that he called you a B. But there are myriad things that could have preceded that that, while not justifying it, at least add some understanding.

But, that's not what you want, OP. You want people to tell you that it's terrible. So here you go.


There is no excuse for a husband to hurl that misogynist slur at his wife. None.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 19:53     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:Since some want to twist the story.

Husband attacked first by putting down op's dream something op admits he does frequently.

It's a cycle for them. I guarantee you her husband said what he did to provoke a response that he got so he could then tell op she's awful.

There's no marital counseling that can fix this.


Sounds like you're doing a little twisting yourself. Wife yells and throws shoes at the wall and it must have been his fault because he provoked it. Sort of like you wouldn't have been sexually assaulted if you hadn't worn those clothes. Such hypocrisy.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 19:46     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Op should explain why the certification is valuable— I doubt she can. Physical tantrums when you can’t make a logical and persuasive case are not the way to go.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 19:44     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:Since some want to twist the story.

Husband attacked first by putting down op's dream something op admits he does frequently.

It's a cycle for them. I guarantee you her husband said what he did to provoke a response that he got so he could then tell op she's awful.

There's no marital counseling that can fix this.


+1
I don't care about genders and who's who, but when the issue becomes how someone responds to your crappy behavior, and not your crappy behavior, you're now stuck in a cycle where there is literally no winning. And by no winning, I mean you will always lose.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 18:50     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Since some want to twist the story.

Husband attacked first by putting down op's dream something op admits he does frequently.

It's a cycle for them. I guarantee you her husband said what he did to provoke a response that he got so he could then tell op she's awful.

There's no marital counseling that can fix this.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 18:46     Subject: Re:Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Were you being a b?


I was being annoying. I wanted to take this certification class for work that would cost 4k. He thought it was too much and a waste of money and to explore cheaper options. I felt hurt that he would just put down what I have wanted for a while and call it a
"waste."

I raised my voice and said it is not a waste to me as it would give me a certification and it hurts me that he can't be supportive.


So you yelled at him because he didn’t want to spend $4K on your training. You need better argument skills. Do you yell every time you don’t get your way?

Don’t you have $4K why do you need his money.



Oh it's the poster who always blames the victim. Did you finally get banned from Reddit,?


The H is the victim here. She was screaming at him and throwing things.

He said a word, not a nice word but… Get some perspective.

She threw a temper tantrum because he wouldn’t give her $4000


Fifty bucks says you’re a guy who is either divorced or never married.


No I’m a married woman of 25+ years who doesn’t yell at my H when we disagree over how to spend money.

OP needs to get a grip.

She was screaming at her H, step 1, walk away if you are frustrated, wait 20 minutes for your body to regulate, request a time to discuss.

Or use your own money and never have the conversation.


You're a woman in a toxic relationship who has internalized her husband's bad behavior and expects other women to do the same
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 18:44     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:He minimized your work needs. Does he prioritize his work needs over yours? He called you a name after repeatedly asking him not to. Does he often do things you ask him not to do?


He called her a b after she started screaming at him, then she threw her shoes at him.



I’m also wondering what kind of language she used. If your reaction is to throw shoes, I highly doubt a lot of your decisions are mature.



+1 Sounds like his response was pretty mild all things considered.


Calling your wife a b isn't mild.
We can end the incel parade here.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 17:39     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He minimized your work needs. Does he prioritize his work needs over yours? He called you a name after repeatedly asking him not to. Does he often do things you ask him not to do?


He called her a b after she started screaming at him, then she threw her shoes at him.



I’m also wondering what kind of language she used. If your reaction is to throw shoes, I highly doubt a lot of your decisions are mature.



+1 Sounds like his response was pretty mild all things considered.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 17:34     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:And if a man threw a pair of shoes and yelled at his wife the DCUM women would be hysterical insisting on a restraining order, therapy, divorce, court mandated supervision with the children, anger management training, etc.


This. It wouldn't matter if, sandwiched in there, she called him a d!*k.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 16:17     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
And if a man threw a pair of shoes and yelled at his wife the DCUM women would be hysterical insisting on a restraining order, therapy, divorce, court mandated supervision with the children, anger management training, etc.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 16:15     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He minimized your work needs. Does he prioritize his work needs over yours? He called you a name after repeatedly asking him not to. Does he often do things you ask him not to do?


He called her a b after she started screaming at him, then she threw her shoes at him.



I’m also wondering what kind of language she used. If your reaction is to throw shoes, I highly doubt a lot of your decisions are mature.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 16:02     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
Anonymous wrote:He minimized your work needs. Does he prioritize his work needs over yours? He called you a name after repeatedly asking him not to. Does he often do things you ask him not to do?


He called her a b after she started screaming at him, then she threw her shoes at him.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2022 15:58     Subject: Lost it when mu husband called me the b-word
He minimized your work needs. Does he prioritize his work needs over yours? He called you a name after repeatedly asking him not to. Does he often do things you ask him not to do?