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Anonymous wrote:I think it's married women hanging out with other women. They get together with their married and single female friends, and diss the men in their lives. It breeds a negativity they take home with them, and it destroys marriages little by little until they break. Contempt is a killer.

Ergo! Keeping your wife locked at home will do wonders for your marriage.

Better yet, keep telling her she’s the problem. Maybe she’ll never wake up to the verbal and emotionalabuse she’s traumatized by.

^ many women financially successful choose to stay IF their spouse is actively doing the work and the marriage was good and live exists. Some of these people can only see it through their own miserable marriages or from the perspective of a jilted OW or a SAHM with no options. That’s why they can’t relate. It’s a private thing. You don’t see the success stories because you never knew about the infidelity. Families are friends are not told the majority of the time. Your friend with the doting husband who has great sex still that you are jealous, just might have been through it. That’s what you don’t understand. You see the bad outcomes only.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

This^.

I feel the opposite.

Looking the other way to infidelity/helplessness/etc and living your life in fear of taking control of it is why people stay married.

There is no honor in being afraid to leave your spouse”.

Most women I know are not leaving and dating. They are leaving and committing to their family and work in a way they never could because their helpless h sucked them of all their energy and resources.

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It’s easier to believe the man you want has a wife that is trapped then the fact he actively is doing the work day in and day out to prevent the woman he truly loves from leaving. You have no idea what is going on in a long marriage— how it started, where it started or the kind of passion and deep love that was there. It’s hard to see him fight so hard for someone when he didn’t for you. So yeah- she is trapped

You can see the ones that have their own means getting out and the ones that don’t staying it’s clear they are trapped.

Nobody wants their old dusty husband.

You are so wrong on this one. You do not even know the people around you (you know the ones that are relationship goals, having the time of their lives at empty nest when everyone else is crashing and burning) actively chose to fight for their marriage and family. Not everyone cheated for lack of love if they’re spouse. Many had happy marriages and got off track midlife. To think you know anything about anyone else’s marriage is comical. You have no idea how much infidelity exists. 60% of couples that make it 50-years or more have dealt with it.

Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

LOL. No, divorce is not easy. I went from a cushy SAHM lifestyle to a single mom making minimum wage. Plus a vindictive xH who continues to make my life hell at every opportunity. I know many other mothers who went through the same thing. The easy thing would have been to ignore our problems and stay.

Usually what I see is one person (often mom) busting their ass to be a good spouse and parent to make the marriage work, while the other spouse basically continues living as if they were single, whether that’s not helping with the kids/house, cheating, drinking, abuse, workaholic, whatever. When the good spouse finally gets fed up and leaves, they are criticized for breaking their vows. But no one ever criticizes the crappy spouse for not holding up THEIR vows to “love and to cherish”, to be an equal partner, to place the marriage and family above their own selfish wants.

So I think the issue is less “why do so many people get divorced” and more “why do so many people suck at marriage”.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's married women hanging out with other women. They get together with their married and single female friends, and diss the men in their lives. It breeds a negativity they take home with them, and it destroys marriages little by little until they break. Contempt is a killer.

Ergo! Keeping your wife locked at home will do wonders for your marriage.

Nothing worse than women going out with other women.

Except men going out with other men and on trips to Vegas and the like. Lol

Those god fearing committed ones!

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

This^.

I feel the opposite.

Looking the other way to infidelity/helplessness/etc and living your life in fear of taking control of it is why people stay married.

There is no honor in being afraid to leave your spouse”.

Most women I know are not leaving and dating. They are leaving and committing to their family and work in a way they never could because their helpless h sucked them of all their energy and resources.

+1

It’s easier to believe the man you want has a wife that is trapped then the fact he actively is doing the work day in and day out to prevent the woman he truly loves from leaving. You have no idea what is going on in a long marriage— how it started, where it started or the kind of passion and deep love that was there. It’s hard to see him fight so hard for someone when he didn’t for you. So yeah- she is trapped

You can see the ones that have their own means getting out and the ones that don’t staying it’s clear they are trapped.

Nobody wants their old dusty husband.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's married women hanging out with other women. They get together with their married and single female friends, and diss the men in their lives. It breeds a negativity they take home with them, and it destroys marriages little by little until they break. Contempt is a killer.

Ergo! Keeping your wife locked at home will do wonders for your marriage.

Nothing worse than women going out with other women.

Except men going out with other men and on trips to Vegas and the like. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

This^.

I feel the opposite.

Looking the other way to infidelity/helplessness/etc and living your life in fear of taking control of it is why people stay married.

There is no honor in being afraid to leave your spouse”.

Most women I know are not leaving and dating. They are leaving and committing to their family and work in a way they never could because their helpless h sucked them of all their energy and resources.

Most people I know are married because they love each other and their kids and have skills and dedication to manage their marriages. This is where they eant to be, not have to be.

Statistically most people you know have cheated on their spouse or been cheated on.

You know wrong people. If everyone in your circle is cheating or unhappy or divorcing, find better friend group.

Very few people reveal the infidelity that had occurred in their marriages and even more have zero idea that their spouse has or is cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's married women hanging out with other women. They get together with their married and single female friends, and diss the men in their lives. It breeds a negativity they take home with them, and it destroys marriages little by little until they break. Contempt is a killer.

Ergo! Keeping your wife locked at home will do wonders for your marriage.

Nothing worse than women going out with other women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

This^.

I feel the opposite.

Looking the other way to infidelity/helplessness/etc and living your life in fear of taking control of it is why people stay married.

There is no honor in being afraid to leave your spouse”.

Most women I know are not leaving and dating. They are leaving and committing to their family and work in a way they never could because their helpless h sucked them of all their energy and resources.

+1

It’s easier to believe the man you want has a wife that is trapped then the fact he actively is doing the work day in and day out to prevent the woman he truly loves from leaving. You have no idea what is going on in a long marriage— how it started, where it started or the kind of passion and deep love that was there. It’s hard to see him fight so hard for someone when he didn’t for you. So yeah- she is trapped

Anonymous wrote:I think it's married women hanging out with other women. They get together with their married and single female friends, and diss the men in their lives. It breeds a negativity they take home with them, and it destroys marriages little by little until they break. Contempt is a killer.

Ergo! Keeping your wife locked at home will do wonders for your marriage.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

This^.

I feel the opposite.

Looking the other way to infidelity/helplessness/etc and living your life in fear of taking control of it is why people stay married.

There is no honor in being afraid to leave your spouse”.

Most women I know are not leaving and dating. They are leaving and committing to their family and work in a way they never could because their helpless h sucked them of all their energy and resources.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorce is an easy solution, fidelity, commitment, raising a family needs hard work. If you see people taking easy way out, you too want to leave and be single and date.

This^.

I feel the opposite.

Looking the other way to infidelity/helplessness/etc and living your life in fear of taking control of it is why people stay married.

There is no honor in being afraid to leave your spouse”.

Most women I know are not leaving and dating. They are leaving and committing to their family and work in a way they never could because their helpless h sucked them of all their energy and resources.

Most people I know are married because they love each other and their kids and have skills and dedication to manage their marriages. This is where they eant to be, not have to be.

Statistically most people you know have cheated on their spouse or been cheated on.

You know wrong people. If everyone in your circle is cheating or unhappy or divorcing, find better friend group.

Your head is in the sand.

Statistics lady not 1st hand account.

Anonymous wrote:Most people copes by finding justifications for their actions. You are opting for divorce, you start seeing every marriage as a crappy one and every divorce as salvation.

You really can’t even see how much your post works against you.

LOL not everyone is trapped in their marriages. You are seeing what you are looking for validation of your line of thought.