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Anonymous wrote:We didn't do a registry and we got one check and a lot of beautiful, thoughtful gifts that we treasure.

Way better than some crap from Crate & Barrel.

Curious what you got that wasn’t “crap”? I’d think most gifts people would choose without having a registry to go by would be random crap.

Mostly artistic things, actually. Not functional -- beautiful.

Yes, ideally that would be great. Guests getting you something unique and handmade from an art fair or etsy or something. Maybe a handmade chess set or something with your family name monogramed on it. I would treasure that. But honestly, most regular people are not going to do that. They'll pick up some kitchen appliance at Target and call it a day.

Which is... fine?

I invited friends and my family to my wedding to help us celebrate a big occasion, not because I expected them to stock our home. Did we get some things we didn't need? Sure. Exchange or donate to A Wider Circle and it's all good....

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We didn't do a registry and we got one check and a lot of beautiful, thoughtful gifts that we treasure.

Way better than some crap from Crate & Barrel.

Curious what you got that wasn’t “crap”? I’d think most gifts people would choose without having a registry to go by would be random crap.

Mostly artistic things, actually. Not functional -- beautiful.

Yes, ideally that would be great. Guests getting you something unique and handmade from an art fair or etsy or something. Maybe a handmade chess set or something with your family name monogramed on it. I would treasure that. But honestly, most regular people are not going to do that. They'll pick up some kitchen appliance at Target and call it a day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We didn't do a registry and we got one check and a lot of beautiful, thoughtful gifts that we treasure.

Way better than some crap from Crate & Barrel.

Curious what you got that wasn’t “crap”? I’d think most gifts people would choose without having a registry to go by would be random crap.

Mostly artistic things, actually. Not functional -- beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:Indian person here and we don’t usually do registries either; everyone knows to write a check or give cash

What if guests don't know that? Is it horrible to give, I dunno, a platter?

Desis (Indian/Pakistani/Bangladeshi/Srilankan/Nepalese),know to bring cash/cheque in an envelope for a desi wedding (it is a cultural norm in these countries). If you are non desi attending a desi wedding, maybe you should read up on the customs, what to wear, what to bring before you attend.

And if guests bring something other than cash/cheques, no one really cares.

I wouldn't give a platter for any wedding though. It is more of a house warming gift. But if you did give it, no one would care. I received a melamine dinnerware set and I didn't care. I was glad they could make it to the wedding. There were very few boxed gifts so I did have fun opening them even if I didn't like them.

In this day and age, when so many people marry later in life after already buying a home and often already living together in that home, wedding registries are kind of pointless. You already have the house filled with everything you need. I suppose, you can upgrade into nicer things, but that just seems so greedy.

Registries served their purpose back when people got married right out of high school or college and had very little of anything to fill ah ome.

I think the opposite. Gift registries are tacky. It's not polite to ask for a present.

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Anonymous wrote:We didn't do a registry and we got one check and a lot of beautiful, thoughtful gifts that we treasure.

Way better than some crap from Crate & Barrel.

Curious what you got that wasn’t “crap”? I’d think most gifts people would choose without having a registry to go by would be random crap.

+1
How many vases do you need?

Anonymous wrote:Indian person here and we don’t usually do registries either; everyone knows to write a check or give cash

What if guests don't know that? Is it horrible to give, I dunno, a platter?

Anonymous wrote:We didn't do a registry and we got one check and a lot of beautiful, thoughtful gifts that we treasure.

Way better than some crap from Crate & Barrel.

Curious what you got that wasn’t “crap”? I’d think most gifts people would choose without having a registry to go by would be random crap.

We didn't do a registry and we got one check and a lot of beautiful, thoughtful gifts that we treasure.

Way better than some crap from Crate & Barrel.

Indian person here and we don’t usually do registries either; everyone knows to write a check or give cash

OP, you are the ugly one by thinking it's a money grab

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the problem is, OP, just give them $100 or whatever you'd spend on a gift in cash. Consider it a gift to you, you don't have to waste your time picking something out.

I find it super weird that you all are calling this a cash grab, when there's no mention of gifts at all. Maybe they already have everything they need and would prefer to save up money for a down payment.

You sound like a total freak to be offended by this OP. Maybe you shouldn't go since you're such a judgmental asshole.

OP here- HAHAHA where the heck did I say I was offended by this? I simply said that I thought it was odd and that I have never been to a wedding where there wasn’t a registry…and I’ve been to a lot. Clearly you didn’t read my comments as I also said I was planning on spending around $300 for a gift and that I enjoy picking something nice from a registry but that I’d just write a check.

You sound like the freak.

I think everyone would agree that the freak in this situation is the person who said they enjoy picking a gift out of a registry, LOL!! I mean, if you're intent on picking out the perfect gift, then this is the perfect opportunity to pick the PERFECT gift without being limited to whatever they chose for themselves. View this as an opportunity, OP!!! Go out and buy them those Belgian linens that you think they need for their bed!

What is wrong with enjoying picking a gift from a registry? I also enjoy doing that. My cousin got married last summer and I absolutely loved going into pottery barn and picking out two nice gifts for his fiancés shower and wedding gift. Not everyone likes to just write a thoughtless check.

Here's the thing. Its not about YOU! A good gift is the gift the recipient wants to receive not something the giver wants to pick out or give. You seem like the same person who thinks that gift cards are somehow classier than cash.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t do registries for wedding or babies because I don’t personally like the idea, and it never occurred to me that people would see it as a money grab.

Normal people don’t.

+1

There are people who hate weddings, and it is very obvious. They really should just stay home with their miserable selves.

To add, same people generally can't be happy for anyone else, so who needs that in their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t do registries for wedding or babies because I don’t personally like the idea, and it never occurred to me that people would see it as a money grab.

Normal people don’t.

+1

There are people who hate weddings, and it is very obvious. They really should just stay home with their miserable selves.