Anonymous
Post 01/23/2022 22:52     Subject: Re:Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
Anonymous wrote:No. I know a woman who was attractive and fit when she was young. She just knew she was hot stuff She always made fun of how others looked though. She would talk about others weight, height, ears, color. what have you. Over the years she gained a tremendous amount of weight and never married or had kids. She is now a senior citizen and bitter. She doesn't understand what happened. Karma!


I know more than one person like this. It's sad.

I have also known a number of women who became more attractive at some point (lost a significant amount of weight, learned to dress, had surgery, got teeth fixed, etc.) and became pretty vicious towards other women. Even if they were never bullied before. I think it's just their former self-loathing getting pushed on to others. I also don't think they realize how terrible it makes them look. They still think of themselves as unattractive, but they aren't. So now they are just pretty women making fun of less attractive women. It's really terrible.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2022 21:33     Subject: Re:Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
No. I know a woman who was attractive and fit when she was young. She just knew she was hot stuff She always made fun of how others looked though. She would talk about others weight, height, ears, color. what have you. Over the years she gained a tremendous amount of weight and never married or had kids. She is now a senior citizen and bitter. She doesn't understand what happened. Karma!
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2022 20:54     Subject: Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe we need to evaluate why we think someone is unattractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.


Because we beholding them and they be ugly.


Are you 12? I really hope so.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2022 20:52     Subject: Re:Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think even making fun of trump’s appearance is not okay because it can hurt others. I see people make fun of his weight or his hair, but when you call someone fat as an insult, that adds to toxic attitudes about fat people in general. Even someone who also hates trump coujj oh d hear that and be reminded that people think their body is bad or worthy of ridicule.

There are lots of valid reasons to make fun of trump. Focusing on his appearance feels lazy and cheap.

Related: I know a man who claims to be a progressive feminist. But when talking about how much he dislikes conservatives, and especially conservative women, he will focus on their appearance. Criticizing weight, their clothes, makeup, or features. Every time I hear it, I think about how he probably thinks these things often about all kinds of women, because the insults are very vicious. But he thinks he can get away with saying it out loud if the woman he targets is a Trump voter or a Fox News host or something. I find it very revealing.

If your first thought when you think if someone you dislike is: fat/ugly/poorly dressed, you might want to ask yourself why. Is “fascist/racist/morally bankrupt/selfish/opportunist/willfully ignorant/etc.” not good enough for you? Why? What does this say about what you value in others?


Public figures that dish it out like DT had better be able to take it.


+1,000,000
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2022 20:50     Subject: Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trump yes, everyone else no.


So you let Donald Trump, whom you despise, set your moral compass for you? I'm not sure I'd brag on that.


No. Trump makes fun of people's appearance. Once you make fun of someone else, you are fair game for making fun as well.

Most mature adults don't do this.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2022 20:28     Subject: Is it ever okay to tease or make fun of something for their appearance?
Teasing, maybe. Making fun of, no.

My friend used to tease me when I came to happy hour directly after my on-camera job. My makeup was way over the top once I was out of the studio.