Anonymous
Post 01/22/2022 02:06     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Yeesh, I have a distant male work contact who sends selfies to me occasionally saying hi.... I think he wants me to send one too but yikes, no.

If this weren't business I'd send him a dick pick and say 'new phone who dis'.... DH is daring me to do so....
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 22:46     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
I wouldn't send photos of myself for privacy reasons but when DH and I were first dating we sent lots of photos of whatever was going on around us, along with short/funny texts. We have a very similar sense of humor so this was indeed a bonding experience.

Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 22:44     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Totally normal thing to do. If you don't like it, don't send him a photo back. You're not obligated.


Honest question: if you send selfies, why do think other people want to see a picture of you??


I don't know why but that made me laugh out loud. Can somebody answer - it is a good question!


And already answered on this thread! Because it makes people feel closer.

I feel sorry for all these warm, kind, loving picture senders trying to forge relationships and bonds with such prudish, heartless, cold recipients. Talk about narcissistic and self-absorbed! "This picture isn't of me, so why would I want it?"


NP. These senders don’t realize, unless it’s from your child, elderly parent, or paramour, almost NO ONE wants an unsolicited selfie. It’s not personal against the sender.


+1, it's really one-sided "bonding" to bombard someone with pictures they didn't ask for nor want. All to "fish for a compliment," as a pro-selfie PP put it. That's not bonding, that's sad.


Shame on the sender for thinking the recipient was a nice kind person!
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 12:49     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Totally normal thing to do. If you don't like it, don't send him a photo back. You're not obligated.


Honest question: if you send selfies, why do think other people want to see a picture of you??


I don't know why but that made me laugh out loud. Can somebody answer - it is a good question!


And already answered on this thread! Because it makes people feel closer.

I feel sorry for all these warm, kind, loving picture senders trying to forge relationships and bonds with such prudish, heartless, cold recipients. Talk about narcissistic and self-absorbed! "This picture isn't of me, so why would I want it?"


NP. These senders don’t realize, unless it’s from your child, elderly parent, or paramour, almost NO ONE wants an unsolicited selfie. It’s not personal against the sender.


+1, it's really one-sided "bonding" to bombard someone with pictures they didn't ask for nor want. All to "fish for a compliment," as a pro-selfie PP put it. That's not bonding, that's sad.



Exactly! The only photo bombs I want are if my baby nephew 🥰.

Everyone else I've seen your face I don't need a reminder so unless you're doing something particularly awesome please skip
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 12:41     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Anonymous wrote:Guy I recently started dating sent me a text wishing me a good day and sent me a selfie of him at work (nothing sexual). This is kind of weird to me- is this the norm these days? Is he expecting me to take a selfie?


welcome to 2022. have you ever seen IG? do you know what tiktok is? I mean, it's just the normal way people do things today.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 11:26     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Totally normal thing to do. If you don't like it, don't send him a photo back. You're not obligated.


Honest question: if you send selfies, why do think other people want to see a picture of you??


I don't know why but that made me laugh out loud. Can somebody answer - it is a good question!


And already answered on this thread! Because it makes people feel closer.

I feel sorry for all these warm, kind, loving picture senders trying to forge relationships and bonds with such prudish, heartless, cold recipients. Talk about narcissistic and self-absorbed! "This picture isn't of me, so why would I want it?"


NP. These senders don’t realize, unless it’s from your child, elderly parent, or paramour, almost NO ONE wants an unsolicited selfie. It’s not personal against the sender.


+1, it's really one-sided "bonding" to bombard someone with pictures they didn't ask for nor want. All to "fish for a compliment," as a pro-selfie PP put it. That's not bonding, that's sad.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 10:21     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Totally normal thing to do. If you don't like it, don't send him a photo back. You're not obligated.


Honest question: if you send selfies, why do think other people want to see a picture of you??


I don't know why but that made me laugh out loud. Can somebody answer - it is a good question!


And already answered on this thread! Because it makes people feel closer.

I feel sorry for all these warm, kind, loving picture senders trying to forge relationships and bonds with such prudish, heartless, cold recipients. Talk about narcissistic and self-absorbed! "This picture isn't of me, so why would I want it?"


NP. These senders don’t realize, unless it’s from your child, elderly parent, or paramour, almost NO ONE wants an unsolicited selfie. It’s not personal against the sender.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2022 10:04     Subject: Selfies? (No not that kind)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Totally normal thing to do. If you don't like it, don't send him a photo back. You're not obligated.


Honest question: if you send selfies, why do think other people want to see a picture of you??


I don't know why but that made me laugh out loud. Can somebody answer - it is a good question!


And already answered on this thread! Because it makes people feel closer.

I feel sorry for all these warm, kind, loving picture senders trying to forge relationships and bonds with such prudish, heartless, cold recipients. Talk about narcissistic and self-absorbed! "This picture isn't of me, so why would I want it?"