I dated a guy who had a couple DUIs a long time ago. Turns out he was an alcoholic so yiu need more info.

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Anonymous wrote:The amount of women encouraging you to give him a chance is disheartening.

The number (not amount) of women who don't recognize life isn't black and white is disheartening.

It's black and white when choosing a life partner. That you are more picky with language used on a forum then the person you select as a spouse or father if your kids is sad. Having a man ( any man) just to say you have one is a pathetic way to live.

If they occured 20 years ago sure, otherwise the duis especially are bothersome.

When did he get them? If this is something he had 20 years ago, I’d let be go. Last year? Drop him.

When did these things happen?

Tough call. I guess it'd depend on what others have said - age, circumstances, has he changed? Plus, do you want kids (I would not with him). Maybe just be a couple and not marry? I guess it depends on your goals.

I have many nice male (married)successful friends who smoke pot and may have had a dui in their youth. Good husbands, nice dads, now bread winners. I guess I'd take the overall picture into account here. What's his education, field, and current lifestyle?

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Anonymous wrote:DH has a couple of charges for impersonating a postal carrier and, unrelated to those incidents (misunderstandings), unauthorized use of beekeeping equipment, honey and honey by-products. Still, even months after these events, people judge him as less than. It is not fair and indicative of a larger problem in "your" society.

I’m intrigued.

Who wouldn’t be? I need to hear about the postal carrier one

And I want to hear about the guy making a buck by selling watered down honey as honey!

Mail fraud is another story…

Your attention please: impersonating a postal carrier is not "mail fraud." And ask yourself this, how could anyone have mistaken him for a bonafide postal carrier when he was clearly wearing a poly cotton beekeeper's veil-and-round-hat combo? Makes no sense, but that's "justice."

More please, honey thief’s wife!

I feel like the mail/bee thing is from a show or movie. Always Sunny? Arrested Development?

No, wait. New Girl?

I would want to know if the arrests were a sign of an ongoing addiction or mental health problem. I have a friend who married a guy with a record (for assault in bar type fights). Turns out he also had an undiagnosed untreated serious mental health condition that only came out when he had a psychotic break after their daughter was born and had to be forcibly committed by the police. Obviously not everyone with a record has this type of underlying condition, but I would want to know more about what motivated the crimes and what he has done to address those issues.

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Anonymous wrote:DH has a couple of charges for impersonating a postal carrier and, unrelated to those incidents (misunderstandings), unauthorized use of beekeeping equipment, honey and honey by-products. Still, even months after these events, people judge him as less than. It is not fair and indicative of a larger problem in "your" society.

I’m intrigued.

Who wouldn’t be? I need to hear about the postal carrier one

And I want to hear about the guy making a buck by selling watered down honey as honey!

Mail fraud is another story…

Your attention please: impersonating a postal carrier is not "mail fraud." And ask yourself this, how could anyone have mistaken him for a bonafide postal carrier when he was clearly wearing a poly cotton beekeeper's veil-and-round-hat combo? Makes no sense, but that's "justice."

More please, honey thief’s wife!

I feel like the mail/bee thing is from a show or movie. Always Sunny? Arrested Development?

Anonymous wrote:The amount of women encouraging you to give him a chance is disheartening.

The number (not amount) of women who don't recognize life isn't black and white is disheartening.

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Anonymous wrote:DH has a couple of charges for impersonating a postal carrier and, unrelated to those incidents (misunderstandings), unauthorized use of beekeeping equipment, honey and honey by-products. Still, even months after these events, people judge him as less than. It is not fair and indicative of a larger problem in "your" society.

I’m intrigued.

Who wouldn’t be? I need to hear about the postal carrier one

And I want to hear about the guy making a buck by selling watered down honey as honey!

Mail fraud is another story…

He was cutting the honey with purloined maple syrup and selling it as pure. They tell me it was delicious.

Who are you? You are not PP. I am PP. The issue with the beekeeping equipment and honey was to do with an honest desire to create edible public sculptures. Unfortunately it was not able to proceed.

Anonymous wrote:My uncle was killed by a drunk driver. DUIs will always be a deal breaker for me.

This.

The criminal record combined with the fact that you will be the breadwinner would be a dealbreaker for me. Does he still have substance abuse issues?

I could overlook one DUI or one non-violent drug offense if it occurred a long time ago and he clearly didn’t have a drug or alcohol problem. Someone who has three convictions is a hard NO.

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Anonymous wrote:DH has a couple of charges for impersonating a postal carrier and, unrelated to those incidents (misunderstandings), unauthorized use of beekeeping equipment, honey and honey by-products. Still, even months after these events, people judge him as less than. It is not fair and indicative of a larger problem in "your" society.

I’m intrigued.

Who wouldn’t be? I need to hear about the postal carrier one

And I want to hear about the guy making a buck by selling watered down honey as honey!

Mail fraud is another story…

He was cutting the honey with purloined maple syrup and selling it as pure. They tell me it was delicious.