Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:25     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
In this day and age, are some people still so dumb and clueless as to be asking when are you going to be having kids? I mean, everyone knows someone who suffers from infertility or miscarriages. If you have even an ounce of EQ, you keep your mouth shut about people’s reproductive status.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 16:21     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ours wasn’t bad, but different and a little sad. 2 adult kids and one was isolating with Covid and the other alternates years with in-laws. So it turned out to be unexpectedly quiet, which seemed strange. Thank goodness for zoom.

I love hand me down jewelry! I have some of my grandmothers jewelry including her 2.5 Carat diamond engagement ring. I wear it every day. We also have a lot of family silver, which we use pretty regularly. My DCs have full sets of family silver too. My mother always gives us “hand me down” silver or jewelry for Xmas, usually worth $1000 or more.


lol. Care to go through your entire jewelry list and what it’s worth? What a bizarre post.


+1. PP sounds insufferable
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 13:23     Subject: Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Well, I'm the OP of the thread about how my MIL knowingly exposed my family including the unvaccinated kids to COVID.

Silver lining is she invited a very elderly relative (90+) but that person was not able to make it down.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 13:17     Subject: Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thank you 11:41 for the thoughtful answer. My husband died a horrible, possibly preventable death during the Covid shut down. Holidays are still very hard. Sister had been drinking and decided to spill guts and doesn’t even remember what she said. Judging from her reaction exactly what I would have preferred to keep private.
The jewelry is exactly the kind of minor thing my DH would have smoothed over.



Your first complaint is valid. The second complaint isn't at all and is actually a bit snotty. The reality is you are projecting your anger at losing your husband and your sister's drunken outbursts onto your SIL because it's easier for you to be angry at her.


Oh shush. OP doesn’t need a finger wagging for coming to an anonymous board to vent. She needs some hugs and understanding.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 11:59     Subject: Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll go first. My sister spread private ugly details as gossip to my family about my recently deceased husband. SIL sent her reject jewelry to my DDs for Christmas. At least it’s over …


wow
first world problem


At least you got to have your holidays. I had COVID so had to stay home and cancel all our plans and be sick in bed.


In reference to both of the above replies… this woman just lost her husband and that’s what your feedback is? You both lack serious compassion. Oh and boo hoo to the one that cancelled the plans.




AGREE! I am so sorry for your loss pp. Your sister and the tone deaf posters above are a small sample of the dysfunctional, self absorbed, uncivilized society we endure. Find your gems and hold on tight.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2021 09:42     Subject: Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
MC are awful when you are trying for a first or only. They are awful anyway but so much worse when you know it possibly means no kids. I’m so sorry PP. Infertility is a special kind of hell and the MC are awful. Sorry for your losses.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 18:50     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There was exactly 0 chance I was going to have a good holiday given I lost my pregnancy just before and under went surgical removal. We were supposed to announce it at Christmas and were having a boy. I got 2 people specifically calling us out for when will be trying for husband Jr? Then my MIL was really rude to me during Christmas dinner for some unknown reason.

But like I said, I didn't expect a great holiday.

NP here. I'm really sorry. Today is my birthday. The first time I got pregnant (after years of trying, IUI, and then IVF), my due date was my birthday. I eventually lost the pregnancy and had to have a D&C. I still remember that birthday, right after Christmas, when I was still trying unsuccessfully. We had so many people asking about why didn't we have kids etc. My sister does wish ornaments. It broke my heart to read mine from the previous year, wishing for a baby, for years in a row.

Be kind to yourself. It's a form of grief no one talks about...but your grief is real.


Ugh I'm so sorry that must have been really rough knowing what was in the ornament. Marking another year. I knew that people might ask about another baby but to have two different people specifically ask about the boy we just lost was just so painful. I'm only thankful it was caught before we made a huge announcement and would then have to tell everyone the bad news.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 17:36     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:There was exactly 0 chance I was going to have a good holiday given I lost my pregnancy just before and under went surgical removal. We were supposed to announce it at Christmas and were having a boy. I got 2 people specifically calling us out for when will be trying for husband Jr? Then my MIL was really rude to me during Christmas dinner for some unknown reason.

But like I said, I didn't expect a great holiday.

NP here. I'm really sorry. Today is my birthday. The first time I got pregnant (after years of trying, IUI, and then IVF), my due date was my birthday. I eventually lost the pregnancy and had to have a D&C. I still remember that birthday, right after Christmas, when I was still trying unsuccessfully. We had so many people asking about why didn't we have kids etc. My sister does wish ornaments. It broke my heart to read mine from the previous year, wishing for a baby, for years in a row.

Be kind to yourself. It's a form of grief no one talks about...but your grief is real.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 17:22     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ours wasn’t bad, but different and a little sad. 2 adult kids and one was isolating with Covid and the other alternates years with in-laws. So it turned out to be unexpectedly quiet, which seemed strange. Thank goodness for zoom.

I love hand me down jewelry! I have some of my grandmothers jewelry including her 2.5 Carat diamond engagement ring. I wear it every day. We also have a lot of family silver, which we use pretty regularly. My DCs have full sets of family silver too. My mother always gives us “hand me down” silver or jewelry for Xmas, usually worth $1000 or more.


lol. Care to go through your entire jewelry list and what it’s worth? What a bizarre post.


The point is hand me downs don't have to be a bad thing. It sounds like in OPs case her family does have nice jewelry but that's not what the SIL chose to give to her DD.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 16:49     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:There was exactly 0 chance I was going to have a good holiday given I lost my pregnancy just before and under went surgical removal. We were supposed to announce it at Christmas and were having a boy. I got 2 people specifically calling us out for when will be trying for husband Jr? Then my MIL was really rude to me during Christmas dinner for some unknown reason.

But like I said, I didn't expect a great holiday.


I’m sorry for your loss. Why are people especially rude after you suffer a loss? Rhetorical question.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 09:57     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There was exactly 0 chance I was going to have a good holiday given I lost my pregnancy just before and under went surgical removal. We were supposed to announce it at Christmas and were having a boy. I got 2 people specifically calling us out for when will be trying for husband Jr? Then my MIL was really rude to me during Christmas dinner for some unknown reason.

But like I said, I didn't expect a great holiday.


I’m so sorry for your loss.


As well. That's a very tough one.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 09:53     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Had a screaming match with my manipulative mother.

Feel awful, like I don't have a family now. It will never be the same.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 09:33     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:There was exactly 0 chance I was going to have a good holiday given I lost my pregnancy just before and under went surgical removal. We were supposed to announce it at Christmas and were having a boy. I got 2 people specifically calling us out for when will be trying for husband Jr? Then my MIL was really rude to me during Christmas dinner for some unknown reason.

But like I said, I didn't expect a great holiday.


I’m so sorry for your loss.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 08:59     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
There was exactly 0 chance I was going to have a good holiday given I lost my pregnancy just before and under went surgical removal. We were supposed to announce it at Christmas and were having a boy. I got 2 people specifically calling us out for when will be trying for husband Jr? Then my MIL was really rude to me during Christmas dinner for some unknown reason.

But like I said, I didn't expect a great holiday.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2021 08:49     Subject: Re:Holiday from Hades. Come on in if this was one of the worst
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ours wasn’t bad, but different and a little sad. 2 adult kids and one was isolating with Covid and the other alternates years with in-laws. So it turned out to be unexpectedly quiet, which seemed strange. Thank goodness for zoom.

I love hand me down jewelry! I have some of my grandmothers jewelry including her 2.5 Carat diamond engagement ring. I wear it every day. We also have a lot of family silver, which we use pretty regularly. My DCs have full sets of family silver too. My mother always gives us “hand me down” silver or jewelry for Xmas, usually worth $1000 or more.


lol. Care to go through your entire jewelry list and what it’s worth? What a bizarre post.


You think this is the thread to brag about your jewelry?