Anonymous wrote:I do. I regret following DCUM advice.

What was the advice you received?

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Anonymous wrote:I do. I regret following DCUM advice.

Why would you follow advice of strangers?

I think what people regret are lost dreams they had for the marriage. More than thinking they wish they had stayed with that particular person in the condition they were both in.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are so many posters responding that they have no regrets? The question is does anyone HAVE regrets. Posters responding that they don't are off topic and not helpful.

Because we are sick of hearing the narrative that people who divorce regret it. And the question was if anyone regrets it. The natural answer is “no” if you don’t. The OP did not say “I only want to hear from people who do regret and and tell me why.”

If you don't have some regret, then you're a sociopath.

Wrong. Some people have really bad marriages they suffer through for years because of people telling them to stay. There were no benefits to being married for me.

+1. I regret not divorcing sooner. I don’t regret that my spouse had a mental health breakdown that caused spouse to physically and emotionally abuse me in front of our kids. What am I suppose to regret? I didn’t cause ex-spouse’s issues, and I couldn’t cure them.

Me too!!!! I was never planning on divorce but when his CTE made our home dangerous- constantly- I have no regrets. He was an abusive gaslighting impulsive, sick man. I couldn’t help him. There is nothing for me to regret- I didn’t know about CTE or the effect 60 concussions would have when I married him.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are so many posters responding that they have no regrets? The question is does anyone HAVE regrets. Posters responding that they don't are off topic and not helpful.

Because we are sick of hearing the narrative that people who divorce regret it. And the question was if anyone regrets it. The natural answer is “no” if you don’t. The OP did not say “I only want to hear from people who do regret and and tell me why.”

If you don't have some regret, then you're a sociopath.

Wrong. Some people have really bad marriages they suffer through for years because of people telling them to stay. There were no benefits to being married for me.

+1. I regret not divorcing sooner. I don’t regret that my spouse had a mental health breakdown that caused spouse to physically and emotionally abuse me in front of our kids. What am I suppose to regret? I didn’t cause ex-spouse’s issues, and I couldn’t cure them.

This.

I regret marrying him in the first place. I didn’t know who he was (an abusive cheater) until after we married - and we’d known each other 10+ years AND lived together before getting married. Terrifying.

I have a lot of empathy for my children who really dislike our being divorced. Sadly, there is no way I could have stayed - the environment wasn’t healthy for anyone. One of the final straws when was he was screaming at me (for who knows what) when I was holding our 4 month old son, and our 2 year old daughter was trying to scream louder than him for him to stop. I absolutely could not have my children in that environment. And I couldn’t be in that environment. So I left.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are so many posters responding that they have no regrets? The question is does anyone HAVE regrets. Posters responding that they don't are off topic and not helpful.

Because we are sick of hearing the narrative that people who divorce regret it. And the question was if anyone regrets it. The natural answer is “no” if you don’t. The OP did not say “I only want to hear from people who do regret and and tell me why.”

If you don't have some regret, then you're a sociopath.

Wrong. Some people have really bad marriages they suffer through for years because of people telling them to stay. There were no benefits to being married for me.

+1. I regret not divorcing sooner. I don’t regret that my spouse had a mental health breakdown that caused spouse to physically and emotionally abuse me in front of our kids. What am I suppose to regret? I didn’t cause ex-spouse’s issues, and I couldn’t cure them.