OP, I think assortative mating may have created a sense of entitlement in you. I would really work on that, because you won’t attract and keep the right energy if you don’t improve.

To your point though, I do know a couple like this. We met the man first and I was so excited to meet his wife. Everyone in our small circle went to top schools for both degrees, so I was eager to meet someone a little different. While I definitely did the fancy school thing, I come from more humble roots and thought this seemingly normal girl who went to a normal school and had a normal job would be an instant friend. Nope, total snob. Spent dinner talking about luxury travel and clothing etc. I like those things too, but that combined with her snobby attitude, was so off putting. Even my laid-back DH commented that it was clear she thought herself above us.

According to IG, she continues to brag about her lifestyle and time spent at the gym. Her husband loves to post pictures of her too. I take it as a good reminder that all men, even smart ones, care about physical attraction and it’s important not to let that slip. (Or the intellectual stuff either!)

You have no idea what their relationship is like.

I’m Ivy educated and challenge my husband everyday.

When I meet women I don’t know well, I keep the topics light. Half the time I don’t want to be talking to them at all. I may repeat something I just heard. I am very opinionated about politics and manage all our investments. I lean right so I usually say nothing because I don’t want people getting all bent out of shape because I’m republican. I also generally avoid talking about money.

I would be interested in a cute outfit Kate Middleton wore. That sounds like a fine conversation topic for someone you don’t know.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous, OP.

OP here. I totally am! I'd love to marry someone like that so I am confused when I see the kind of women they sometimes pick.

“Marry someone” bet is you’re a upper middle age women. Bitter Betty.

One of the most sensible things you can do is find an appropriate partner. If these men are sensible, their wives must be more than they appear.

Anonymous wrote:I'd think you're talking about my neighbors except that in their case, the wife isn't even attractive! Everyone who meets them is so confused by their relationship. The only thing we can think of is she must have gotten pregnant on purpose as soon as they slept together.

Haha

Anonymous wrote:You would be amazed how many men only care that their wife is hot. All the other stuff is secondary.

This. And those women very likely let these men do whatever they want in the bedroom if you know what I mean.

I'd think you're talking about my neighbors except that in their case, the wife isn't even attractive! Everyone who meets them is so confused by their relationship. The only thing we can think of is she must have gotten pregnant on purpose as soon as they slept together.

Anonymous wrote:Men can be serious and mature in their career but that doesn’t mean they don’t place a very high value on having regular sex with a beautiful woman. For most men, that is the most important goal in their lives.

I feel seen.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous, OP.

OP here. I totally am! I'd love to marry someone like that so I am confused when I see the kind of women they sometimes pick.

Why are you confused? Maybe they had fantastic chemistry. Or she is generous and you just don’t see it. Or they make each other better people? Maybe DH isn’t as wonderful as you assume and he has flaws too (don’t we all?). Maybe you don’t see people for who they really are.

I agree...he may see aspects of her you cannot

I've dated an architect, nurses, teachers, college students, a million women who work at the typical DC dogsh8t non-profit and women who are lawyers with dual Ivy degrees and they all talk about TV shows and entrainment gossip.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound very young and naive. Let this be a lesson to you that most men care about being with a woman who is physically attractive first and foremost, next someone fun and confident, not brainiacs. I suggest that you focus on you and not worry about other women’s hobbies or husbands.

+1. This is what’s important. Plus, you never know what kind of conversations people have at home. The way I speak with my girlfriends is a total 180 from the conversations I have at home alone with my husband. Honestly, chit chatting with women in public does trend towards shallow, superficial topics and there’s nothing wrong with that. But certainly, the woman can’t be that uninteresting if he married her!

+1

OP, I can't imagine paying that much attention to someone else's husband. Ask yourself why you can't get your own man?

Or ask yourself why you want a man in the first place. I think too many women tie themselves in knots over this when they would so much better to go live their lives.

As you can easily decipher from OP's post, OP thinks that getting a certain man is a a reflection of her. If OP doesn't have a rich man, OP feels worthless. IRL, OP should be getting therapy to find out why.

Sex. It's why Lydia Bennet married George Wickham

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound very young and naive. Let this be a lesson to you that most men care about being with a woman who is physically attractive first and foremost, next someone fun and confident, not brainiacs. I suggest that you focus on you and not worry about other women’s hobbies or husbands.

+1. This is what’s important. Plus, you never know what kind of conversations people have at home. The way I speak with my girlfriends is a total 180 from the conversations I have at home alone with my husband. Honestly, chit chatting with women in public does trend towards shallow, superficial topics and there’s nothing wrong with that. But certainly, the woman can’t be that uninteresting if he married her!

+1

OP, I can't imagine paying that much attention to someone else's husband. Ask yourself why you can't get your own man?

Or ask yourself why you want a man in the first place. I think too many women tie themselves in knots over this when they would so much better to go live their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound very young and naive. Let this be a lesson to you that most men care about being with a woman who is physically attractive first and foremost, next someone fun and confident, not brainiacs. I suggest that you focus on you and not worry about other women’s hobbies or husbands.

+1. This is what’s important. Plus, you never know what kind of conversations people have at home. The way I speak with my girlfriends is a total 180 from the conversations I have at home alone with my husband. Honestly, chit chatting with women in public does trend towards shallow, superficial topics and there’s nothing wrong with that. But certainly, the woman can’t be that uninteresting if he married her!

+1

OP, I can't imagine paying that much attention to someone else's husband. Ask yourself why you can't get your own man?

Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound very young and naive. Let this be a lesson to you that most men care about being with a woman who is physically attractive first and foremost, next someone fun and confident, not brainiacs. I suggest that you focus on you and not worry about other women’s hobbies or husbands.

+1. This is what’s important. Plus, you never know what kind of conversations people have at home. The way I speak with my girlfriends is a total 180 from the conversations I have at home alone with my husband. Honestly, chit chatting with women in public does trend towards shallow, superficial topics and there’s nothing wrong with that. But certainly, the woman can’t be that uninteresting if he married her!