Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 23:32     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
It takes time to find, apply, and interview for a job. I seriously doubt the husband has any bandwidth left to do any of that after working 16 hr days.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 23:26     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
I agree with most of the sentiment above. He should get a new job. Working so hard for 95k just does not make sense.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 23:21     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Why doesn't he delegate the work to the 3 remaining staffers? That should take the edge off of his work load.

Why hasn't he gone to his boss about this yet?
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 23:19     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Your husband is an idiot. He needs to look for a new job asap that pays more and no more than 40 hours a week. He is doing this to himself.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 23:06     Subject: Re:My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good lord - I make $95K and would NEVER do this. Ever.

My husband makes $450K and he does this - but that is what is expected for this type of pay. It would never be expected for my type of pay. I am a manager and I would never let my team work like this either.


My DH makes $400k and this lifestyle would be unacceptable in my book. He works 60 hours a week which is at least in the realm of acceptable. I’d rather he go down to $200k and work 35 hours a week (like I do). Money is not worth ruining your life.


60 is hard but 80-90 (and that’s if her husband doesn’t work at all on weekends, if he does we’re looking at 110) is a whole other level of horrible. I did this once as a young employee at a notorious sweatshop. We were in our 20s, no family, usually super healthy and athletic when we started (I’m sure you can guess the industry), can’t imagine a family person doing it at an older age. Especially since for him there’s no paying your dues or pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.


I'm thinking MBB or Big4 consulting. I did that (100+ hour weeks and travel) and it was truly hell. My hourly rate was probably pathetic, and I bounced for the same salary and a 40 hr workweek. Like other PPs, my jaw dropped when I saw the 95k salary for these hours. I felt like a slave at closer to 200k. He needs to leave this job ASAP.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 22:34     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dr. Fauchi works 16 hours a day and took zero vacation days on last 18 months and turns 81 this month.

Toughen up folks


As one of the nation’s top experts and leaders during a pandemic, with long grown children and sure as hell not for $95K.

But you sure thought you said something here.


Yeah Fauci gets respect unlike OP’s husband.


Fun fact: Fauci is the single highest paid person in the ENTIRE federal government.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 20:33     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dr. Fauchi works 16 hours a day and took zero vacation days on last 18 months and turns 81 this month.

Toughen up folks


As one of the nation’s top experts and leaders during a pandemic, with long grown children and sure as hell not for $95K.

But you sure thought you said something here.


Yeah Fauci gets respect unlike OP’s husband.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 19:10     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:Dr. Fauchi works 16 hours a day and took zero vacation days on last 18 months and turns 81 this month.

Toughen up folks


As one of the nation’s top experts and leaders during a pandemic, with long grown children and sure as hell not for $95K.

But you sure thought you said something here.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 19:08     Subject: Re:My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What does your husband want to do about the situation?


OP here. I've been nicely encouraging him to explore other options but we have a hard time having an open conversation because he is always so busy and stressed. It feels like he (understandably) has zero mental capacity left to talk to me. And I think updating his resume after 10 years and job searching feels insurmountable on top of the work load right now. He is fiercely loyal (to a fault in this situation) and is proud of how long that he's been at the company. We both came from blue collar union families with pensions and the mentality of "put in my 30 years here and retire" and I'm trying to help him understand that it is very, very normal in the business world to work for several companies over your career. This is the company he interned with in college and then they hired him after graduation.

That is noble, but his job will replace him in a nanosecond.
Show him this thread. OPs husband they are using you. They are saving six salaries. Why haven’t you gotten a raise?


Encourage him to join Antiwork on Reddit for some perspective.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 19:01     Subject: Re:My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good lord - I make $95K and would NEVER do this. Ever.

My husband makes $450K and he does this - but that is what is expected for this type of pay. It would never be expected for my type of pay. I am a manager and I would never let my team work like this either.


My DH makes $400k and this lifestyle would be unacceptable in my book. He works 60 hours a week which is at least in the realm of acceptable. I’d rather he go down to $200k and work 35 hours a week (like I do). Money is not worth ruining your life.


This is pretty tone deaf for someone making $600k+


She’s got a point though. Why doesn’t everyone just take the 35hr/200k job?

/s
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 18:58     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Believe it or not I’m almost positive it has caused mild brain damage, PTSD, and stress on his heart


Stress is a SILENT KILLER

He needs to transition out of that job and start applying for other jobs because it will NOT get better
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 17:48     Subject: Re:My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good lord - I make $95K and would NEVER do this. Ever.

My husband makes $450K and he does this - but that is what is expected for this type of pay. It would never be expected for my type of pay. I am a manager and I would never let my team work like this either.


My DH makes $400k and this lifestyle would be unacceptable in my book. He works 60 hours a week which is at least in the realm of acceptable. I’d rather he go down to $200k and work 35 hours a week (like I do). Money is not worth ruining your life.


This is pretty tone deaf for someone making $600k+
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 17:46     Subject: Re:My husband works 16-18 hours per day
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good lord - I make $95K and would NEVER do this. Ever.

My husband makes $450K and he does this - but that is what is expected for this type of pay. It would never be expected for my type of pay. I am a manager and I would never let my team work like this either.


My DH makes $400k and this lifestyle would be unacceptable in my book. He works 60 hours a week which is at least in the realm of acceptable. I’d rather he go down to $200k and work 35 hours a week (like I do). Money is not worth ruining your life.


60 is hard but 80-90 (and that’s if her husband doesn’t work at all on weekends, if he does we’re looking at 110) is a whole other level of horrible. I did this once as a young employee at a notorious sweatshop. We were in our 20s, no family, usually super healthy and athletic when we started (I’m sure you can guess the industry), can’t imagine a family person doing it at an older age. Especially since for him there’s no paying your dues or pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 16:52     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
He is setting himself up for a crash
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 15:45     Subject: My husband works 16-18 hours per day
your husband is doing this to himself.