Anonymous wrote:Op, it's unimportant. If she's a close-enough friend that you have her over for Thanksgiving, this only make you look bad ... that you give this much thought. Whatever.

I agree.i might notice it but not enough to care. Also would consider your spouse told her to take.

My husband does this. I find it so embarrassing, he sees no issue with it.

That’s not even that bad, OP. One time I had a female relative show up to a holiday meal empty handed, ask if I wanted her to make cookies for our dessert, use my ingredients and make a mess in my kitchen, and then take the cookies home with her. She tried suggesting it again another year and I pretty much laughed at her. Rude but at least I wasn’t cleaning up sugar and flour after she left.

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Anonymous wrote:Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?

+1

You ALWAYS take your food back. It’s just basic manners.

No! You can say "I'm going to take my casserole dish, but do you have a good container I can dish the food into to leave with you?"

Then the host can say "sure, here's a Tupperware," or "thank you kindly, but my fridge is pretty full. Please feel free to take it home."

Anonymous wrote:Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?

+1

You ALWAYS take your food back. It’s just basic manners.

Maybe she was drunk.

I host a lot of potlucks for friends gathering, and I prefer that guests took leftovers home. I don't really care if they take theirs or mine or someone elses, as long as I don't end up with fridge full of stuff.

Sounds perfectly normal to me especially if was a potluck.

Did you offer goodie bags to your guests to take home food?

My husband used to do this till I corrected him. No one taught him that it was rude and why it didn’t cross his mind that it was strange to bring something and then leave with it I don’t know. I feel bad for him when I found out this basic courtesy was not explained to him as a young adult by his family or a friend. We didn’t meet till we were 35 so he’s been doing it for years! I cringe thinking what was said behind his back when he left parties for all those years!!!

I think it's a bit odd but I wouldn't care one bit. I have limited frig and freezer space so it's better that they left with what they brought.

I definitely wouldnt be inviting them back.

Anonymous wrote:I prefer people to take their items back.

Me too but I've never had anyone make off with something from.my freezer. It wouldn't bother me to the point of posting here though.

Anonymous wrote:Etiquette is that she takes her food back, and you are to ask if you can keep some.

Where were you people raised?

100% WRONG.

LOL how did she grab the ice cream? How do you propose taking a carton of ice cream from someone's freezer?

Opening your freezer is weird but taking the pie is ok. I think there is usually a back and forth...Sally can I leave you the rest of the pie? No..maybe Peter will like it tomorrow. We have lots of other leftovers. Here is your ice cream too.