Anonymous wrote:10 years old is way too old to be hitting people. He is old enough to know hitting someone is not okay. He’s 10, not 2. You need to start setting boundaries and work on his anger. This is not okay.

Where did you read that the kid was angry? OP said they were goofing around. He didn’t hit her.

And that’s not even the point of the thread!!

Anonymous wrote:No. Why would your kid believe hitting is wrong if they see you do it???

I don’t think hitting is always wrong. We never spanked or hotbed our kids but I definitely want them to know self-defense and that they can hit back if someone hit them.

No. Why would your kid believe hitting is wrong if they see you do it???

Anonymous wrote:White people problem.

You’re a racist.

10 years old is way too old to be hitting people. He is old enough to know hitting someone is not okay. He’s 10, not 2. You need to start setting boundaries and work on his anger. This is not okay.

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Anonymous wrote:If yes, at what age?

My son is ten and was goofing around with his former nanny who is now a close family friend. My son said something about hitting her and she replied that she’d hit him back and hit him hard. My son was surprised but she said after ten, I hit back so keep that in mind. I doubt it’s ever going to happen (he isn’t a hitter and she loves him to bits) but it’s an interesting statement.

What a brat. He sounds like a bully. What is wrong with you that you didn't punish him right then and there, not by hitting, but by losing all privileges for a week and he would write an apology to her. Be prepared to visit him in prison.

You’d really punish your 10 yr old child for joking about hitting with a trusted family friend?

Whoa...

Yes, I would. Telling someone you are going to hit them is not a joke just like pointing a loaded gun at someone and saying they were going to shoot you. Violence is not coming.

Again, whoa! You’re basically equating a slap on the arm with a mass shooting in full extrapolation, OP. Not the same at all and very damaging to put them on the same level.

Take it down a peg or two hundred! You’re hurting your own message by your absolutes.

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Anonymous wrote:If yes, at what age?

My son is ten and was goofing around with his former nanny who is now a close family friend. My son said something about hitting her and she replied that she’d hit him back and hit him hard. My son was surprised but she said after ten, I hit back so keep that in mind. I doubt it’s ever going to happen (he isn’t a hitter and she loves him to bits) but it’s an interesting statement.

What a brat. He sounds like a bully. What is wrong with you that you didn't punish him right then and there, not by hitting, but by losing all privileges for a week and he would write an apology to her. Be prepared to visit him in prison.

You’d really punish your 10 yr old child for joking about hitting with a trusted family friend?

Whoa...

Yes, I would. Telling someone you are going to hit them is not a joke just like pointing a loaded gun at someone and saying they were going to shoot you. Violence is not coming.

At a certain point - sure, I’d smack him back.

All physical striking is not bad, guys. My six year old daughter is in taekwondo and striking is part of the art. I want her to know how to fight back. Humans are programmed by evolution to physically defend or aggress by striking. It’s why babies do it before ever seeing anyone else do it or being hit.

IMO, the former nanny just lightly told her truth - you hit me and I’m going to hit you back. I see absolutely no problem here

Anonymous wrote:I would never strike a young child. We didn't spank any of our kids. But, if a ten year old threatened to hit me, my answer would be the same as your nanny's. Ten year olds can be strong and I'm not a punching bag. None of my kids would have dared get physical with me. OP, your concern should be your ten year old threatening another person.

OP they were goofing around.

I think posters are going way over the top with this.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds to me like this was the perfect exchange - he hypothetically tossed out an idea and she spelled out strong consequences. If he’s smart, he’ll always bear that in mind. Better to have info beforehand and learn control than make the mistake and suffer natural consequences in the moment.

This. But I also think if my ten year old ever playfully hit me, I’d hit him back.

I would never strike a young child. We didn't spank any of our kids. But, if a ten year old threatened to hit me, my answer would be the same as your nanny's. Ten year olds can be strong and I'm not a punching bag. None of my kids would have dared get physical with me. OP, your concern should be your ten year old threatening another person.

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Anonymous wrote:If yes, at what age?

My son is ten and was goofing around with his former nanny who is now a close family friend. My son said something about hitting her and she replied that she’d hit him back and hit him hard. My son was surprised but she said after ten, I hit back so keep that in mind. I doubt it’s ever going to happen (he isn’t a hitter and she loves him to bits) but it’s an interesting statement.

What a brat. He sounds like a bully. What is wrong with you that you didn't punish him right then and there, not by hitting, but by losing all privileges for a week and he would write an apology to her. Be prepared to visit him in prison.

You’d really punish your 10 yr old child for joking about hitting with a trusted family friend?

Whoa...

Anonymous wrote:You also need to teach your son it's not okay to hit anyone more more importantly women. Is there a father in the picture? My husband would have come down on my son if he ever threatened to hit any woman or girl.

Is it 1950 where you live? Try not hitting anyone physically smaller than you regardless of sex.

You also need to teach your son it's not okay to hit anyone more more importantly women. Is there a father in the picture? My husband would have come down on my son if he ever threatened to hit any woman or girl.

The fact that your son even said he suggested hitting her is an issue. I would have came down on him so hard verbally for the mere suggestion, trust that he would remember for next time.