Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many years ago at my first job I had a crush on a wonderful guy I worked with but dating a coworker was not a good idea. Eventually I got married but the crush lasted a few more years. He went on to be incredibly successful and my marriage and life have been fine but not inspiring. I haven’t had any contact with him in 30 years but I periodically Google him. I often wonder……

I'm doing well, and thanks for asking I have fond memories of you too.

She said a wonderful guy. Haha

Anonymous wrote:Many years ago at my first job I had a crush on a wonderful guy I worked with but dating a coworker was not a good idea. Eventually I got married but the crush lasted a few more years. He went on to be incredibly successful and my marriage and life have been fine but not inspiring. I haven’t had any contact with him in 30 years but I periodically Google him. I often wonder……

I'm doing well, and thanks for asking I have fond memories of you too.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure if this is the same thing. But when I was in college and a hot young thing I was saving myself for marriage. There are three men that I was interested in and could’ve boned and didn’t. And one woman!


But romantically…my husband is my soulmate. So no.

Same with me! I was a virgin until I was 22 so plenty got away because of it. But I have no idea if one could have been the one. But I’ve been happily married a very long time so this one didn’t get away. The few guys I did bone before my husband weren’t ones who got away.

Many years ago at my first job I had a crush on a wonderful guy I worked with but dating a coworker was not a good idea. Eventually I got married but the crush lasted a few more years. He went on to be incredibly successful and my marriage and life have been fine but not inspiring. I haven’t had any contact with him in 30 years but I periodically Google him. I often wonder……

I’m not sure if this is the same thing. But when I was in college and a hot young thing I was saving myself for marriage. There are three men that I was interested in and could’ve boned and didn’t. And one woman!


But romantically…my husband is my soulmate. So no.

Anonymous wrote:I think I was the one who got away in this case. High school crush, he was a bit older, I was in love with him and I knew he liked me as well. Our families were friends so we always saw each other at events. he was very handsome, very popular with the ladies, had older and very good-looking girlfriends. Every time we met he had a girlfriend. But he always made it clear he liked me. Fast forward years later I moved away, we kept in touch, I always fantasized about him. Went back home and we happened to both be single at the time. We hooked up and it was awful. He had the smallest penis I had ever seen and also he told me doesn't do oral. I still can't believe how he had so many girlfiends. He still tells me he doesn't know how I got away. Anyway. we stayed friends and we are both married now and I have told DH the story because it is too funny.

I mean of course he had a lot of girlfriends. Can’t keep a woman with those skills!

Like many others here I'm not all for the terminology of "got away," as I had reasons/choices for breaking up and it's not like the person just slipped through my fingers; but there is the one person that I sometimes imagine "what if.."
We were graduate students. I had come out of a painful sort-of engagement (like one of the PPs' stories, he proposed, gave me a ring, but then started back-pedaling and it was all very confusing...), and this person was so very different than my ex and practically anyone I'd been close with before.
He was intelligent, scholarly, reserved, but stylish, a little artsy, cultured, atheist, introduced me to things like cooking with capers... He was Japanese. We ate sushi and drank umeshu, plum wine. He was so kind, and unique, and sexy (maybe the best partner I've had in that department).
Refreshing as my ex was: charismatic, two-faced, showy, religious, prudish...

Anyway, there were cultural differences I got too hung up on. Minor things I would totally look past or talk about in different ways now. Also, I transferred schools, moved, had a wild party night and cheated, didn't like the long distance and probably the guilt pushed me over the edge to break up.

To this day, I think of him as still the kindest, best boyfriend I've ever had. I'm happily married for 5 years, with 2 kids, but still fantasize about our paths crossing romantically again someday.

We keep in touch as friends. I've seen him maybe 3 times in the 10 years since we broke up. He's always a superb gentleman. Not sure why no one else has scooped him up; I sort of asked about his dating status before I met my husband and he sounded like he hadn't dated anyone at all seriously since me. He's successful, completing his PhD in NY, assistant to some really intelligent people in his field... All around great guy.

So yeah, maybe he is the one who got away. I wonder what he thinks of me.

So many I let get away or pushed away. I just was not concerned with marriage at all. I wanted to be free.

No one gets away -- either we let the go away or they let us go away. I used to think I someone was my one that go away and then I realized I chose not to take the steps that would have brought us together.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious if everyone has one or not…

I once was in a place
where I had no one else to face
I wished for a dish, and when it came I did not dismiss
presented to me were two beautiful eclairs
I marveled over them both and to which nothing I knew could compare
As I reached for the plate, my fears turned to fate
One rolled off and I was left with nothing but despair as I was left with only half of my bounty
For the one that I never had, never tasted, never enjoyed, I say your loss on me still weighs
You're the one that got away

You miss an eclair... I mean who wouldn’t.

We met when he was in his 30s and I was in my 20s and I was obsessed with him, but he thought I was too young for us to date even though he liked me/was attracted to me - and then I proved him right by being every bit the messy recent college grad in the face of that rejection. We stayed friends but it ebbed and flowed, we both got married to other people, he is now divorced and I am still married. Last year he confessed he has had intense feelings for me for a long time now, I went no contact because I was so conflicted about the whole thing and still carry a bit of a torch for him - BUT my marriage is my priority and it seemed like bad news to keep spending time together. I think about it a little too often but would not act on it and until I get over my stupid crush I can't be in touch with him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Broke his heart, he was in tears when we broke up. He's apparently been married to the same woman for many years while I am divorced. Here's where it gets weird. Apparently he made a lot of money off of money laundering in the former Yugoslavia. Yet he look d liked the boy next door.

So who got away here?

Nothing like a mafia guy with a Slavic soul

Anonymous wrote:Broke his heart, he was in tears when we broke up. He's apparently been married to the same woman for many years while I am divorced. Here's where it gets weird. Apparently he made a lot of money off of money laundering in the former Yugoslavia. Yet he look d liked the boy next door.

So who got away here?

Anonymous wrote:Curious if everyone has one or not…

I once was in a place
where I had no one else to face
I wished for a dish, and when it came I did not dismiss
presented to me were two beautiful eclairs
I marveled over them both and to which nothing I knew could compare
As I reached for the plate, my fears turned to fate
One rolled off and I was left with nothing but despair as I was left with only half of my bounty
For the one that I never had, never tasted, never enjoyed, I say your loss on me still weighs
You're the one that got away

Broke his heart, he was in tears when we broke up. He's apparently been married to the same woman for many years while I am divorced. Here's where it gets weird. Apparently he made a lot of money off of money laundering in the former Yugoslavia. Yet he look d liked the boy next door.