OP one of the reasons you are getting so many kind replies is that we have all been there. I don’t think there is a woman on earth who hasn’t been told she wasn’t pretty at some point in her life - usually by a man. Even women we consider to be the most beautiful in the world have been told they aren’t right. It is the patriarchy trying to hold us down. Trying to make us think that our worth lies in how we look. You will also find out shortage of women who have bought into this idea and will work to make you feel less than for the same superficial ‘failings’. Looking a certain way is not an accomplishment. If you are beautiful - it is something that was given to you. You get can control and choose who you are and what you do. These are things that determine your worth. These are things worthy of praise or scorn. The reason middle aged women are so relaxed and happy is that we finally let go of all the insecurities around appearance. We know that partners of value, value us for who we are not how we look. We know that what Steve in accounting thinks about the size of our a$$ doesn’t matter at all. I’ve made a whole bunch of poor decisions and mistakes in my life but the one I wish I could take back is all the time I spent hating my body, hating my hair, wanting to look different than I did. It accomplished nothing and when I look back at old photos of myself, I realize that I was pretty hot. The sooner you let go of that BS, the happier you will be. I promise and nothing is more attractive than a confident woman!

hey OP, Don’t let this guy define you or bring you down. He sounds like a jerk and jerks are usually jerks because they have some other jerk being a jerk to THEM. Regardless. I took a look at some pics of shrek and he has big eyes and a really wide smile. Those are lovely attributes.

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP, you are completely lovely. That comes through in your posts. I didn’t express myself nearly as well at your age, but was I attuned to others in the way that you are (reflected in the way you thank and connect with each poster).

you are so sweet Thank you. It genuinely means so much that people are replying to me❤️

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP, you are completely lovely. That comes through in your posts. I didn’t express myself nearly as well at your age, but was I attuned to others in the way that you are (reflected in the way you thank and connect with each poster).

Meant - *nor* was I attuned to others

Oh OP, you are completely lovely. That comes through in your posts. I didn’t express myself nearly as well at your age, but was I attuned to others in the way that you are (reflected in the way you thank and connect with each poster).

Anonymous wrote:+1 to the peaking in hs. And the things you learn in hs help you deal with life. And when you are in college, you will find your people.

And when I am feeling really sad or down, I try to think about those less fortunate. Like that family who is burying their 10 yr old bc of bullying.

And know this, beauty come from within. Some of the funniest, kindest people I know aren’t typically gorgeous. But guess what, they have self confidence bc they are good ppl with good heart.

Let that loser stew in his own juices.

I’m so sorry for that kids family ..❤️ Thank you so much

Anonymous wrote:Ugly is what came out of his mouth, and so that ugly is inside of him. That is where it lives, and he let out.

Every time a person behaves in a crude, rude, mean manner, that behavior is coming from inside of them. Something happened to them somewhere along the line that made them capable of cruelty. The people who get hit with their terrible meanness are not the source of it, they just got in the way when it came out. You don't cause it or deserve it. Recognize that.

Now, when someone else's mean vomit hits you, you can choose to leave it there or wash it off. I suggest you wash it off. You don't want his most vile inner badness sticking to you.

There are so many lovely people in the world. Save your mental space for them, and put that boy and his problems out of your mind. Or feel sorry for him and try to find empathy for whatever happened to him to make him behave that way; but do not feel sorry for yourself on his account. I have a feeling you won't, because by posting here you found a way to change the narrative for yourself. You are strong.

The way you explained it makes so much sense. And I agree with everything you said. You are one of the lovely people in the world, thank you.❤️

Anonymous wrote:High school is such a small spec in your existence. Nobody even thinks about high school anymore when you’re out in the real world. I think you’re super brave and cool to post here. I’m curious, how’d you find out about this site? I’m a guy and let me tell you that no confident guy puts down other people. He’s insecure big time and you had the confidence to reach out to us. It’s a huge win for you.

wow thank you for your kindness. I found this website because I was googling something months ago and it led me here. And I thought this would be a good forum for me because I figured there are mostly adults here. Other forums have mostly teens and people in their twenties.

And I was right because you all have been so nice and helpful. Again, thank you❤️

+1 to the peaking in hs. And the things you learn in hs help you deal with life. And when you are in college, you will find your people.

And when I am feeling really sad or down, I try to think about those less fortunate. Like that family who is burying their 10 yr old bc of bullying.

And know this, beauty come from within. Some of the funniest, kindest people I know aren’t typically gorgeous. But guess what, they have self confidence bc they are good ppl with good heart.

Let that loser stew in his own juices.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP, not on the lauren sanches thread.

When I was in HS some guy that I never really interacted with, but was older/popular said that I looked like Gonzo. Yep, I remember that 30 years later. But guess what. I ignored him (like wow, you say something to me and that's what you decide to say? Idiot), and grew into my face (!!) took good care of my skin and eyebrows (my skin was never blue btw) and am considerably attractive, very successful with lots of friends. That incident was just a blip. Yeah, so it will be for you. But it stung. Stupid HS.

Here I am with Harry Styles! Suck it Andrew or whatever your name was -- I actually can't remember. Andrew? Chris?

😂, it sucks that we never forget these mean words but Thank you so much❤️

Anonymous wrote:NP, not on the lauren sanches thread.

When I was in HS some guy that I never really interacted with, but was older/popular said that I looked like Gonzo. Yep, I remember that 30 years later. But guess what. I ignored him (like wow, you say something to me and that's what you decide to say? Idiot), and grew into my face (!!) took good care of my skin and eyebrows (my skin was never blue btw) and am considerably attractive, very successful with lots of friends. That incident was just a blip. Yeah, so it will be for you. But it stung. Stupid HS.

thank you for replying, your words really help me ❤️

Ugly is what came out of his mouth, and so that ugly is inside of him. That is where it lives, and he let out.

Every time a person behaves in a crude, rude, mean manner, that behavior is coming from inside of them. Something happened to them somewhere along the line that made them capable of cruelty. The people who get hit with their terrible meanness are not the source of it, they just got in the way when it came out. You don't cause it or deserve it. Recognize that.

Now, when someone else's mean vomit hits you, you can choose to leave it there or wash it off. I suggest you wash it off. You don't want his most vile inner badness sticking to you.

There are so many lovely people in the world. Save your mental space for them, and put that boy and his problems out of your mind. Or feel sorry for him and try to find empathy for whatever happened to him to make him behave that way; but do not feel sorry for yourself on his account. I have a feeling you won't, because by posting here you found a way to change the narrative for yourself. You are strong.

High school is such a small spec in your existence. Nobody even thinks about high school anymore when you’re out in the real world. I think you’re super brave and cool to post here. I’m curious, how’d you find out about this site? I’m a guy and let me tell you that no confident guy puts down other people. He’s insecure big time and you had the confidence to reach out to us. It’s a huge win for you.

Anonymous wrote:NP, not on the lauren sanches thread.

When I was in HS some guy that I never really interacted with, but was older/popular said that I looked like Gonzo. Yep, I remember that 30 years later. But guess what. I ignored him (like wow, you say something to me and that's what you decide to say? Idiot), and grew into my face (!!) took good care of my skin and eyebrows (my skin was never blue btw) and am considerably attractive, very successful with lots of friends. That incident was just a blip. Yeah, so it will be for you. But it stung. Stupid HS.

Here I am with Harry Styles! Suck it Andrew or whatever your name was -- I actually can't remember. Andrew? Chris?

NP, not on the lauren sanches thread.

When I was in HS some guy that I never really interacted with, but was older/popular said that I looked like Gonzo. Yep, I remember that 30 years later. But guess what. I ignored him (like wow, you say something to me and that's what you decide to say? Idiot), and grew into my face (!!) took good care of my skin and eyebrows (my skin was never blue btw) and am considerably attractive, very successful with lots of friends. That incident was just a blip. Yeah, so it will be for you. But it stung. Stupid HS.