If you neuter/spay them young, does it matter as much?

Our girls have always been affectionate, boys more of a mix. So it's unpredictable. Most kittens will cuddle but then they mature and some change and lose that interest.

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone had many cats their whole lives who can say they have a direct comparison of boy vs. girl cats?

We had littermates from the time they were 10 weeks old. Both fixed. Part Siamese. Boy was a love bug. Girl was only interested in a couple minutes of attention until she was about ten years old. Excellent mouser though.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I have had cats my whole life and their sex or color has nothing to do with their temperament. Example: my tortie is a loving angel and my orange male is a dick who will bite randomly

ha that's pretty funny! But in aggregate, studies have shown that there is something to the color. That the torties are on the whole less friendly, and the gold standard is the male orange tabby (I assume neutered). Individual results will vary (for example, we have an Aussie who was given to us because she is too submissive to herd sheep. She has zero herding skills and zero agression. Terrible for a rancher but great for a housepet.)

I agree with a PP who said, get an adult and then there will be no guess as to personality. Like our Aussie.

DP. I also have a neutered orange male tabby who is a jerk and bites (I've had him since he was a kitten so he's not, like, a former street cat or anything). I just posted above but he's a bully whenever he thinks he can get away with it. He does love me, but no one else.

This is PP with the other orange jerk. We have had him since he was 3-4 weeks old- he was found in a ditch. He just has an extremely high prey drive- mice and moles galore have appeared on my porch.

Has anyone experienced female cats being more of a lap cat than male?

Seems like the sex stereotypes aren’t true esp if you socialize them young and fix them early

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Anonymous wrote:No. I have had cats my whole life and their sex or color has nothing to do with their temperament. Example: my tortie is a loving angel and my orange male is a dick who will bite randomly

ha that's pretty funny! But in aggregate, studies have shown that there is something to the color. That the torties are on the whole less friendly, and the gold standard is the male orange tabby (I assume neutered). Individual results will vary (for example, we have an Aussie who was given to us because she is too submissive to herd sheep. She has zero herding skills and zero agression. Terrible for a rancher but great for a housepet.)

I agree with a PP who said, get an adult and then there will be no guess as to personality. Like our Aussie.

DP. I also have a neutered orange male tabby who is a jerk and bites (I've had him since he was a kitten so he's not, like, a former street cat or anything). I just posted above but he's a bully whenever he thinks he can get away with it. He does love me, but no one else.

I haven't read all of the replies, but my male cat is an a-hole and a bully who is mean to other people (including the rest of the family and our other cat) when I'm not there to see it. My girl is loving but nervous and shy, and very demanding of my attention. I love them both but the boy is definitely harder to live with and meaner. I had a number of cats growing up and did not find these stereotypes true. Cats have individual personalities, so I would adopt an adult whose personality is formed if I were you.

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Anonymous wrote:Females are more loving

So are the females more cuddly and snuggly

Kittens are not going to be super snuggly to begin with, because they're busy attacking and playing. Our girl kitten (adopted at 2 months, now 9) will go in for 2-3 5-20 minute snuggle sessions a day where she need to check in with humans and get her warmth and affection. I can't pick her up and cuddle with her (because she's a ferocious kitten) but will approach for snuggles on her terms.

I do think their personalities are evident when they're young. Our kitten girl will probably mellow down as she gets older, and her ratio of attack/play to snuggles will shift. She's sitting on my chest purring up a storm as I type this right now.