Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:32
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:If anything, I don’t think the understanding about the impact of COVID on wife’s pregnancy decision is deep enough, particularly if she is in a role that has been impacted by COVID.
As a female with a deep understanding of COVID, I would not consider for one minute having a kid prior to the ability to vaccinate both parents and kids of all ages. Yes, I know millions of babies have been born around the world during the pandemic, but I’m not willing to take on that risk.
Pre-vaccination, getting pregnant substantially increased your risk of serious adverse outcome and the risk to a newborn was also serious. Now, while a vaccinated pregnant woman is safer than unvaccinated, it’s still not entirely clear what the risks are to pregnant women.
Currently, the risks to 0-5 are unclear, particularly in terms of Long COVID. In order to shelter an unvaccinated child you have to seriously limit contact, so daycare is out and maybe even a nanny, potentially meaning a newborn child has to be cared for by a parent until vaccinated.
I’d far prefer to wait until vaccination is available for 0-5. Then the risk of getting sick is much lower, as is the adverse outcome risk, and now there is further mitigation of downside risk from at least 2 possible treatments (antibody and new pill).
This. Plus global warming.
Right now is clearly not the right time for her to decide to get pregnant.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:29
Subject: Re:Wife backing out on having kids
I think if OP really cared about this topic, he would have come back at some point and responded to questions.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:27
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:I truly hate the number of sexist trolls who have taken over this forum , who defend the woman no matter what.
The truth is they agreed to have children, OP still wants children. He needs to know if his wife does or not she owes him an answer and if she does not, it's time to part ways.
Oh please. This thread is nothing but miserable misogynists.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:25
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:Have you read or heard about the tremendous amount of guilt and shame heaped on physicians who try to cut back on their hours even prior to covid. Have you heard how many are struggling with mental health issues.
She may fear there is no possible way she can balance it all.
Balance is a MYTH. Let's be honest here.
The wife wants a busy career, not a child.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:23
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Have you read or heard about the tremendous amount of guilt and shame heaped on physicians who try to cut back on their hours even prior to covid. Have you heard how many are struggling with mental health issues.
She may fear there is no possible way she can balance it all.
She may fear there is no possible way she can balance it all.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:16
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Several people have told OP that he should find sometime younger and hotter. What in the world does finding someone younger and (especially) hotter have to do with having kids???
Anonymous
10/27/2021 21:08
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She obviously does not want to be a parent. Impossible to know if this is new, or she lied in the beginning.
You either accept having no children, or get a divorce asap. She's wasting your time right now by being dishonest with you.
And he is wasting her time. DW will be okay as will probably marry a peer ..hot doctor and live a fabulous child free life. OP sounds like a drag. OP do her a favor and move on.
The wife is going to age prematurely and be damaged goods. The peer “hot doctors” will find someone younger and hotter.
She won’t age prematurely if she is child-free. Jealous much!
Anonymous
10/27/2021 20:34
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
She clearly does not want a child. Move on, OP.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 20:29
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
I truly hate the number of sexist trolls who have taken over this forum , who defend the woman no matter what.
The truth is they agreed to have children, OP still wants children. He needs to know if his wife does or not she owes him an answer and if she does not, it's time to part ways.
The truth is they agreed to have children, OP still wants children. He needs to know if his wife does or not she owes him an answer and if she does not, it's time to part ways.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 20:27
Subject: Re:Wife backing out on having kids
But wait - maybe the doctor wife wants to freeze some eggs and embryos
Anonymous
10/27/2021 20:24
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She obviously does not want to be a parent. Impossible to know if this is new, or she lied in the beginning.
You either accept having no children, or get a divorce asap. She's wasting your time right now by being dishonest with you.
And he is wasting her time. DW will be okay as will probably marry a peer ..hot doctor and live a fabulous child free life. OP sounds like a drag. OP do her a favor and move on.
The wife is going to age prematurely and be damaged goods. The peer “hot doctors” will find someone younger and hotter.
Having kids ages you prematurely.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 20:16
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She obviously does not want to be a parent. Impossible to know if this is new, or she lied in the beginning.
You either accept having no children, or get a divorce asap. She's wasting your time right now by being dishonest with you.
And he is wasting her time. DW will be okay as will probably marry a peer ..hot doctor and live a fabulous child free life. OP sounds like a drag. OP do her a favor and move on.
The wife is going to age prematurely and be damaged goods. The peer “hot doctors” will find someone younger and hotter.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 19:42
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:She obviously does not want to be a parent. Impossible to know if this is new, or she lied in the beginning.
You either accept having no children, or get a divorce asap. She's wasting your time right now by being dishonest with you.
And he is wasting her time. DW will be okay as will probably marry a peer ..hot doctor and live a fabulous child free life. OP sounds like a drag. OP do her a favor and move on.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 19:41
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
The wife is a liar.
Anonymous
10/27/2021 19:39
Subject: Wife backing out on having kids
Anonymous wrote:Find someone younger and hotter.
They won’t be hot after they pop out the kid. But ex wife will still be a hot respected doctor $$$.