This thread is 4 years old!
OP’s kid is 17 now.

Anonymous wrote:OP do you pay for her phone?

If so suspend the service til she understands. She is not mature enough to own a phone.

Having a phone is a responsibility she is choosing to ignore something that is real and has real potential to be dangerous.

Until she grows up no more phone service.

I am an easy-going parent, however, this is a no-go in my house.

This. Find a device for a younger child.

I think you need to stop with the legal angle and talk more about the public humiliation angle. Find a couple older teens to tell every bad story they know about peers. I could tell you over a dozen within my daughter’s friend group and kids of my friends. Extortion from one (threats to send pics to all insta contacts), spreading of nudes amongst teen boys that girls thought was private, a couple dick pics sent that became public humiliation bc it was “small” (one kid was known for this, even 2-3 years later), I could go on and on. By 15 there are so many of these cautionary tales that teens don’t really do this anymore.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% take away her phone until she is mature enough to handle it and recognize that actions have consequences.

This!!

It is a total myth that teens “need” a phone or that they will suddenly be ostracized by all their friends if the phone disappears.

This.

Take that dang phone away

What is going on with kids? Why can't they just be kids and enjoy their childhood? Especially at 13, I know there are kids who were always like this, but phones and social media are making it worse.

Anonymous wrote:13 seems early for this. My daughter goes to an all girls school not in DC. This is not even on her radar. She is popular and all that. It’s not a thing.

What type of environment is this that this is normalized behavior? Seems young to me. Maybe I am naive.

It ABSOLUTELY is a thing. And if you say your kid doesn’t have social media, you are wrong about that too. I teach 7th grade and all the kids create accounts whether they are allowed or not. Many use separate screens like old phones, friends old phones, and they always use their chromebooks too. My own daughter went to an all girl school and i was once blind like you. Those girls are just as bad, if not worse because they are a bit more immature and trusting on boys they don’t see daily.

I hate it all. I think phones should be removed from school completely. Sent mine to private for that reason. But as a teacher in public, woah it’s non stop all day. And I would say sexting and nudes have been happening in 6th grade now for about 7 years. And I have a friend who teaches in elementary and it started about 2 years ago there.

Anonymous wrote:I guess you should figure out how to explain to her why sex as a teen is okay because consent and condoms, but texting the same person about that sex is really bad and should destroy your life over it.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% take away her phone until she is mature enough to handle it and recognize that actions have consequences.

This!!

It is a total myth that teens “need” a phone or that they will suddenly be ostracized by all their friends if the phone disappears.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:Says no one she knows got caught or leaked
Is there a site online with real cases?

Snapchat is designed to hide teen Sexting.

Snap is super useful for child - porn.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% take away her phone until she is mature enough to handle it and recognize that actions have consequences.

This!!

It is a total myth that teens “need” a phone or that they will suddenly be ostracized by all their friends if the phone disappears.

This is important.

Op, what were you like at 13?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% take away her phone until she is mature enough to handle it and recognize that actions have consequences.

This!!

It is a total myth that teens “need” a phone or that they will suddenly be ostracized by all their friends if the phone disappears.

+2

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% take away her phone until she is mature enough to handle it and recognize that actions have consequences.

This!!

It is a total myth that teens “need” a phone or that they will suddenly be ostracized by all their friends if the phone disappears.

I would 100% take away her phone until she is mature enough to handle it and recognize that actions have consequences.