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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South, so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

Oh, man, you'd be surprised. And people pick the most idiosyncratic stuff to say about themselves. I saw it play out just yesterday. I have a coworker like OP's husband. Ultimate social climber, told everyone that their family owns all the oilfields in N. America. Another coworker overheard and nearly spit out her coffee; turns out she grew up with this person, and their family definitely doesn't own oilfields. Quite a histrionic type and someone to stay away from.

This is GOLD!

Anonymous wrote:Does he want you to call him Daddy too?

LOL!

Anonymous wrote:It's poseur.

And please tell him that whatever aspirations of elegance he is entertaining with his Southern obsession, people around the world consider the USA to be full of fat, badly-dressed, ill-mannered, uncouth people. Foreigners who live here understand that's not the case, of course! But this is the image of the USA abroad... so if he wants to rectify this image, all he has to do is be courteous and pay a little more attention to his appearance. There is no need to affect a speech that isn't his - the speech is NOT the problem

- foreigner.

Poser works just fine. I agree with your other points though.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m from northern VA. One of my childhood friends went to UNC and she came back for winter break with a full on southern accent and a love of country music. It was so weird (she joined a sorority so I guess it was like a Southern Immersion Program or something!)

Sororities are not southern immersion programs dumbass.

I think a sorority at UNC is probably the closest thing there is to a southern immersion program, actually. Well, aside from a sorority at Ole Miss or Auburn or something.

It's not a terrible idea. In the rest of the world, people prefer the southern accent to the standard American accent.

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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South[b], so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

Pssst Texas is the South.

OP, it sounds like a mental disorder.

Yeah, so you missed the part where it says, I"m from Texas, not the South explicitly in the post, huh?

No, he was correcting the PP. Wasn't that obvious?

Texas was part of the Confederacy. It's the south. I know Texans take pride in being unique, or thinking they are, at least, but to the rest of the country, they're part of the South, [b]geographically, culturally, and politically.

No to all 3.

Texas is not the cultural South. Ask any Texan. We are not the South. We are Texas. Big difference. May not seem like that to people outside of the region(s) but I know zero fellow Texans who consider themselves Southerners.

Huh. It's almost like I addressed this very point.

And why would the South want to claim Texans, anyway? Hell no from me. I'm not from Texas, but I agree, Texas isn't "The South" -- it's Texas.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s very weird. My husband is actually southern, but doesn’t have an accent, nor say “cookout” or “momma”.

Mine is southern as well. It isn't his accent (which is mostly vanished) or his words (although he does have some beauts) that give him away. It's his Southern Gentleman type attitude. Polite, polite, polite. Never quite saying you don't like something. Putting others before himself, always. At least in public. Gentle. It is his manners. Not his "momma" or going to a "cookout" (I say cookout, not him, and I am definitely NOT Southern!!)

Everyone claims southerners are ke this, but the vast majority or elected officials from the south are anything but. Weird. It's almost as if this is a complete myth - a facade to cover for selfish, malignant tendencies.

Some southerners are ACTUALLY like this. Maybe depends upon where you hail from.

Your DH sounds like he’s a few sandwiches short of a picnic. Is this recent behavior?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom's family is southern. My mom calls an even where you put hamburgers on the grill a "barbeque". She also calls the cuisine that consists of pulled meat with sweet tomato-based sauce on it "barbeque".

And we call our mothers "mom". Except me, I am "mommy" to my kids. I don't think anyway has used "mama" past the age of two.

I think your husband is weird. But most husbands are weird in some way, and this is relatively benign.

Southern BBQ is NOT a monolith and Texas BBQ is different too (more of a dry rub) but also varied

cool story.

Anonymous wrote:My mom's family is southern. My mom calls an even where you put hamburgers on the grill a "barbeque". She also calls the cuisine that consists of pulled meat with sweet tomato-based sauce on it "barbeque".

And we call our mothers "mom". Except me, I am "mommy" to my kids. I don't think anyway has used "mama" past the age of two.

I think your husband is weird. But most husbands are weird in some way, and this is relatively benign.

Southern BBQ is NOT a monolith and Texas BBQ is different too (more of a dry rub) but also varied

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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South[b], so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

Pssst Texas is the South.

OP, it sounds like a mental disorder.

Yeah, so you missed the part where it says, I"m from Texas, not the South explicitly in the post, huh?

No, he was correcting the PP. Wasn't that obvious?

Texas was part of the Confederacy. It's the south. I know Texans take pride in being unique, or thinking they are, at least, but to the rest of the country, they're part of the South, [b]geographically, culturally, and politically.

No to all 3.

Texas is not the cultural South. Ask any Texan. We are not the South. We are Texas. Big difference. May not seem like that to people outside of the region(s) but I know zero fellow Texans who consider themselves Southerners.

Huh. It's almost like I addressed this very point.

Anonymous wrote:What on earth lmao (from a North Carolina native). Can you mention that people with Southern accents are often assumed to be stupid? It's why I lost mine. Sometimes I miss it, but I think losing it has gained me some IQ points in the eyes of others.

+1

TROLL OP.

My mom's family is southern. My mom calls an even where you put hamburgers on the grill a "barbeque". She also calls the cuisine that consists of pulled meat with sweet tomato-based sauce on it "barbeque".

And we call our mothers "mom". Except me, I am "mommy" to my kids. I don't think anyway has used "mama" past the age of two.

I think your husband is weird. But most husbands are weird in some way, and this is relatively benign.

Lmao what in God's name. First of all, every single person who's actually from the South or has any Southern family will notice immediately that your kids aren't native speakers of the dialect and think "wtf". Second... WHY? A southern accent has many connotations and most of them aren't positive. I certainly slip back into mine whenever I talk to other native Southerners (which is mostly just my family, at this point) but under no circumstances would I ever make an effort to use it with anyone else.

Btw I also feel this way about the popularity of "y'all" on Twitter and among the social-justice-conscious crowd generally. I understand that people use it in an attempt to be gender-neutral, but there are plenty of other options that aren't so cringey - "folks", "everyone", "all", etc. It is ALWAYS ALWAYS so obvious when the person using "y'all" isn't a native speaker, and it's just nails on a chalkboard to me. Cannot wait until this trend passes.

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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South[b], so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.

Pssst Texas is the South.

OP, it sounds like a mental disorder.

Yeah, so you missed the part where it says, I"m from Texas, not the South explicitly in the post, huh?

No, he was correcting the PP. Wasn't that obvious?

Texas was part of the Confederacy. It's the south. I know Texans take pride in being unique, or thinking they are, at least, [b]but to the rest of the country, they're part of the South, geographically, culturally, and politically.

That's because you're too lazy to understand nuance in culture. The cultures are not the same at all. But if you're not really familiar with either, you wouldn't be able to identify the differences.