Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I talk to do a HELOC or cash out refi. And these are UMC people.
And that's the reason I'll never get a fancy remodel. DH refuses to borrow the money, yet he plows all our excess cash into retirement. He says I'll thank him one day and he's right but in the meantime I have old ugly kitchen and baths while everyone around me is renovating away. Sigh.
The folks we bought our house from saved up for many years to add a beautiful master bedroom/bathroom addition to the first floor of the house. Husband was supposedly pretty frugal and they didn’t renovate unless it was necessary. Three weeks after that addition was put in, he walked outside and died of a stroke on the driveway. The wife now lives in a lovely brand new construction home, her son told us the entire story after we purchased the house.
Save money for retirement but enjoy your life too, you never know how long you have.
Anonymous wrote:We save and pay cash.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not OP but can someone explain to me (like a child) how a HELOC works?
Let's say we bought a house last year for $800k and want to do $100k of work. Now what?
I think you can shop around, but we just went to our mortgage lender and asked what they could do for us. They waived the appraisal and the associated fees, but that's where the process starts. They need to make sure there is sufficient equity in the house such that you qualify for a HELOC and how big the line will be. Once you move forward, you sign a bunch of documents just like you did when you got a mortgage. You get a checkbook where you can draw from the line, but you can also do it via online transfers. Then you pay interest on the balance that you have drawn from the line, or you can pay it back. If you sell the house, you'll obviously have to pay the balance back at closing.
Anonymous wrote:We are doing a HELOC.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I talk to do a HELOC or cash out refi. And these are UMC people.
And that's the reason I'll never get a fancy remodel. DH refuses to borrow the money, yet he plows all our excess cash into retirement. He says I'll thank him one day and he's right but in the meantime I have old ugly kitchen and baths while everyone around me is renovating away. Sigh.
This is the exact same thing I am going through with my DH. Ugh!
Think about how glad you will be to retire a bit earlier than your friends who will have to work longer/more to pay off debt. This happens just at the point when you can’t take your health and energy for granted in your 50s and 60s and are also hit with tuition bills. And menopause. Believe me, your husband is right.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I talk to do a HELOC or cash out refi. And these are UMC people.
And that's the reason I'll never get a fancy remodel. DH refuses to borrow the money, yet he plows all our excess cash into retirement. He says I'll thank him one day and he's right but in the meantime I have old ugly kitchen and baths while everyone around me is renovating away. Sigh.
This is the exact same thing I am going through with my DH. Ugh!
Think about how glad you will be to retire a bit earlier than your friends who will have to work longer/more to pay off debt. This happens just at the point when you can’t take your health and energy for granted in your 50s and 60s and are also hit with tuition bills. And menopause. Believe me, your husband is right.
You think people in this area are significantly delaying retirement because they updated their kitchens? Why are you not factoring updating your home and its maintenance with your home purchase? Why would you willingly live in a home that makes you unhappy for 30 years if you didn't have to?
+1 It sounds like the PP you're responding to is being penny wise and pound foolish. After all, the kitchen will need to be renovated before selling. Why would you do something for a new buyer that you won't do for yourself. Life is too short. Live in a way that is comfortable for you. And it is crazy that the PP thinks that people in their 50s and 60s don't have the "health and energy" and "menopause" and "tuition bills" to deal with a reno. Sheesh.
Anonymous wrote:Speak to me like a child so that I understand. We want to build a sunroom. I think it will likely be around 65K. Do we: save for it for a few years and pay for it outright, use the financing offered by the sunroom company, or somehow use the equity in our house to get a loan? Our house has doubled in value in the past 3 years since we bought it, if that matters. The only debt we have is the mortgage.
I am really good at saving money (I just mean that it is a comfortable way for me to get things paid for). I am not good at considering other options and getting creative with how to get this project done (like using a short-term investment account or something else).
I don't think we need to do this project for about 2 or 3 years, so we have time.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I talk to do a HELOC or cash out refi. And these are UMC people.
And that's the reason I'll never get a fancy remodel. DH refuses to borrow the money, yet he plows all our excess cash into retirement. He says I'll thank him one day and he's right but in the meantime I have old ugly kitchen and baths while everyone around me is renovating away. Sigh.
This is the exact same thing I am going through with my DH. Ugh!
Think about how glad you will be to retire a bit earlier than your friends who will have to work longer/more to pay off debt. This happens just at the point when you can’t take your health and energy for granted in your 50s and 60s and are also hit with tuition bills. And menopause. Believe me, your husband is right.
You think people in this area are significantly delaying retirement because they updated their kitchens? Why are you not factoring updating your home and its maintenance with your home purchase? Why would you willingly live in a home that makes you unhappy for 30 years if you didn't have to?
Anonymous wrote:We’ve always saved and paid cash. Over 30 years of owning this house (mortgage is paid off now), we’ve put in a 2-story $110K addition, a smaller $28K addition, and a $125K kitchen/master bed/master bath addition. All cash. We’ve also saved money by DYI where we can (e.g., DH built our large deck, fire pit, various furniture, etc.).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most people I talk to do a HELOC or cash out refi. And these are UMC people.
And that's the reason I'll never get a fancy remodel. DH refuses to borrow the money, yet he plows all our excess cash into retirement. He says I'll thank him one day and he's right but in the meantime I have old ugly kitchen and baths while everyone around me is renovating away. Sigh.
This is the exact same thing I am going through with my DH. Ugh!
Think about how glad you will be to retire a bit earlier than your friends who will have to work longer/more to pay off debt. This happens just at the point when you can’t take your health and energy for granted in your 50s and 60s and are also hit with tuition bills. And menopause. Believe me, your husband is right.