I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

… he’s jealous of you and doesn’t want you to beat him in any way?! What attracted you to this man?! What keeps you with him?!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

… he’s jealous of you and doesn’t want you to beat him in any way?! What attracted you to this man?! What keeps you with him?!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

I knew, but my fitness journey has been quite up and down and it was on a down when we got married so it was not creating a big issue. I really got back into it now and it really sucks. I am self-conscious to wear a tank top around him. He would always side eye my back and comment that my biceps is bigger than his. He even outright told me a few times that I should stop working my upper body. I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

WTF! You're married to an asshole. Did you know this before marrying him?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk to me.
Don’t crowd someone when there is plenty of open space. There is a man at my gym who loves throwing-the slam ball, medicine balls, and generally everything loud and heavy. Great! But he does it right on top of people, including when I was seven months pregnant, even when there was opportunity to have a ton of personal space. It was jarring and not always controlled. It got so bad that I considered speaking to the staff about it. Why?

Why? Maybe he didn’t think you “belonged” at the gym since you were 7 months along and this was his wuss passive-aggressive way of communicating that.

I’m a petite woman, and while most of the male lifters at my gym are/were absolutely fine, there were definitely some blowhards with antiquated beliefs.

There aren't any guys who think women "don't belong at the gym".

There are guys who think women do not belong in the weight room. They are OK with them doing cardio or going to the Zumba class or maybe use the bands to shape their a**, but get pretty judgmental of women doing upper body work. My husband is one of those.

For real? These people exist and you are still married to one of them?

I am a woman who only uses the weights at the gym and never have I experienced any men who act like I don't belong there. Many of the men have actually been quite supportive and commented on how hard I work and how my form is always excellent.

Now I can see getting annoyed by the people, men and women, so take up weigh room space lifting light weights for 3000 reps or that clearly have no plan and are just doing random stuff, but getting upset or thinking someone doesn't belong just because of their gender is weird.

Yep, still married to him, but this thing is not helping. It is not like he would try to intimidate any woman intentionally at the gym, but that is his opinion. There should be no upper body muscle on a lady. The problem is that working my upper body is my favorite thing so he is a bit out of luck here.

Anonymous wrote:I don't go to the gym anymore as I made a home gym, but here are mine to add:

Please don't make videos for your insta when other people are around. I don't want to be in your video. Also, stop slowly sauntering in the hallway, filming yourself and talking about how you're at the gym again. You're in everyone's way and everyone else is trying to work out for real instead of pretend to work out for likes.

If you are in a weight room with closed doors and the only other patron is female, wave and then stay away.

Anonymous wrote:You need to go to a different gym. The gym I use has plenty of women in the weight room doing upper body work. Male lifters are happy to see them there.