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Anonymous wrote:I love my gray! Four years ago my hairdresser helped me grow the color out by cutting my hair into layers so that that awful color line wasn’t as obvious. It took about a year to finally get all the color out. My natural color is gorgeous. I’m about 60% gray. It blends nicely into my light brown hair. People ask me where I get my highlights done. It’s just my natural color at 54. I’m so glad I stopped coloring. My natural color fits me perfectly. Team gray!

They don’t think it’s highlights. They are just being polite.

Repeat after me: It doesn’t matter what they think.

See? Isn’t it freeing to make your own decisions about the way you look? To not rely on other people to tell you how to exist in this world?

You really are struggling to understand the point of the thread. The OP didn't start the thread to proclaim her joyful intention to embrace her grays and F anyone who didn't like it. She started the thread in the hope of getting some feedback of people's opinions. And soliciting anonymous opinions is what a person does when they want to hear the truth, not your dippy flowers-and-rainbows chirps about how the opinions of others don't matter. You sound...not very bright.

And the PP to whom you’re responding so snottily (you’re 50 years old and still mean girl-ing like you’re 13? Time to evolve) is trying to help OP arrive at the conclusion that we don’t need to seek outside approval for our aesthetic decisions, especially when it comes to framing decisions about our own appearances. In middle age we should be able to determine whether or not we want to look a certain way.

Anonymous wrote:Andie MacDowell

Love long gray hair! (I’ll never have it with my fine hair and it bums me out)

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Andie MacDowell

Love long gray hair! (I’ll never have it with my fine hair and it bums me out)

Check out thesilverstylist on Instagram. It’s more about her style than hair. I think she looks great. Waaaaaay more makeup than I’d ever go for, but otherwise she’s pretty awesome.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my gray! Four years ago my hairdresser helped me grow the color out by cutting my hair into layers so that that awful color line wasn’t as obvious. It took about a year to finally get all the color out. My natural color is gorgeous. I’m about 60% gray. It blends nicely into my light brown hair. People ask me where I get my highlights done. It’s just my natural color at 54. I’m so glad I stopped coloring. My natural color fits me perfectly. Team gray! [/quote]

They don’t think it’s highlights. They are just being polite. [/quote]

[b]Repeat after me: It doesn’t matter what they think. [/b]

See? Isn’t it freeing to make your own decisions about the way you look? To not rely on other people to tell you how to exist in this world? [/quote]

You really are struggling to understand the point of the thread. The OP didn't start the thread to proclaim her joyful intention to embrace her grays and F anyone who didn't like it. She started the thread in the hope of getting some feedback of people's opinions. And soliciting anonymous opinions is what a person does when they want to hear the truth, not your dippy flowers-and-rainbows chirps about how the opinions of others don't matter. You sound...not very bright.[/quote
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NP. You're the one who isn't very bright. The OP asked for inspiration and images, not endless posts about how you and others are down on women who choose to do something differently.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I love my gray! Four years ago my hairdresser helped me grow the color out by cutting my hair into layers so that that awful color line wasn’t as obvious. It took about a year to finally get all the color out. My natural color is gorgeous. I’m about 60% gray. It blends nicely into my light brown hair. People ask me where I get my highlights done. It’s just my natural color at 54. I’m so glad I stopped coloring. My natural color fits me perfectly. Team gray!

They don’t think it’s highlights. They are just being polite.

Repeat after me: It doesn’t matter what they think.

See? Isn’t it freeing to make your own decisions about the way you look? To not rely on other people to tell you how to exist in this world?

You really are struggling to understand the point of the thread. The OP didn't start the thread to proclaim her joyful intention to embrace her grays and F anyone who didn't like it. She started the thread in the hope of getting some feedback of people's opinions. And soliciting anonymous opinions is what a person does when they want to hear the truth, not your dippy flowers-and-rainbows chirps about how the opinions of others don't matter. You sound...not very bright.

I think it looks kind of badass on me! I’m 38 with mostly dark hair with big silver streak up front on one side. I’ve never dyed my hair and never plan to. I’m sure lots of people think it looks ugly but I truly do not care. I’m tall, thin, have good skin, and I think my streak looks cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I love my gray! Four years ago my hairdresser helped me grow the color out by cutting my hair into layers so that that awful color line wasn’t as obvious. It took about a year to finally get all the color out. My natural color is gorgeous. I’m about 60% gray. It blends nicely into my light brown hair. People ask me where I get my highlights done. It’s just my natural color at 54. I’m so glad I stopped coloring. My natural color fits me perfectly. Team gray!

They don’t think it’s highlights. They are just being polite.

Repeat after me: It doesn’t matter what they think.

See? Isn’t it freeing to make your own decisions about the way you look? To not rely on other people to tell you how to exist in this world?

Anonymous wrote:I love my gray! Four years ago my hairdresser helped me grow the color out by cutting my hair into layers so that that awful color line wasn’t as obvious. It took about a year to finally get all the color out. My natural color is gorgeous. I’m about 60% gray. It blends nicely into my light brown hair. People ask me where I get my highlights done. It’s just my natural color at 54. I’m so glad I stopped coloring. My natural color fits me perfectly. Team gray!

They don’t think it’s highlights. They are just being polite.

Totally grey here. White actually. The most common compliment I receive -- "I wish I had the guts"

Check out #silversisters on Instagram. Lots of photos of women looking quite badass with their gray hair.

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Anonymous wrote:I really liked what Andie McDowell had to say on the matter. https://www.thezoereport.com/culture/andie-macdowell-maid-gray-hair-hollywood

Maye Musk (or however she spells it). She has a clunker of a son, but I covet her hair. Glenn Close’s hair in Crooked House, too.

And I’m tired of women being the ones to reinforce the double standard that men with grey hair are silver foxes but that women with grey hair are “frumpy.” You guys are part of the problem.

If men had shoulder length hair and it was going gray, they would look frumpy too. But they mostly don't. They have short hair which makes incoming gray blend well and look incorporated.

It isn't so much that it makes women look old, but transition from brown to gray takes years with longer hair. First the brown hairs might get brassy as they lose pigment. Then gray hairs sprout up here and there. But they don't match the rest of the length so they stick out, both in color and quite literally. Then as more and more grow in, you have concentrated denser area of gray on the top half, while you wait for the length to catch up with the rest of your hair. This looks not so good. And this is natural non-dyed hair. Dyed hair going to full gray is another story.

Eh. I have the amount of grey that can’t be considered “grey temples” yet but I refuse to accept that I’m going to be dumpy and frumpy for the next 5-10 years. I am not now nor will I ever be “bad ass,” but I like how I look.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but in most cases, average women look frumpy and old and as if they've given up on taking care of themselves when they go gray. The (very, VERY) few cases of women looking great with gray/white hair have been in exceptionally beautiful women with amazing, fine bone structure and naturally slim bodies. For the majority of non-celebs, going gray makes you look significantly worse.

Deeply internalized patriarchy, clean-up on aisle one.

I don't think you understand what "internalized patriarchy" actually means.

Let me get this straight: if I don't agree that gray hair on under 60s women looks great and "bad ass", I am a victim of the patriarchy? Is that right? Can you make me a list of acceptable opinions to have about hair and fashion so that I don't unknowingly harbor the wrong one again? Thanks.

If you have internalized beauty standards that say a majority of women look frumpy if they don’t dye their hair, yes, yes you are a victim of the patriarchy.

Bad asses can have gray hair, but gray hair in and of itself does not indicate “bad ass”.

No, decide what you think.

Difficult to do given the types of opinions illustrated above that say women need to always look young and beautiful to be valuable.

Dye your hair till you die. Go grey when you want to. But make it your decision. Don’t base it on what other women think. Don’t base it on what men think.