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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

Yes. But when you have a history of saying what you mean and meaning what you say all your kids lives, it never comes to that.

My parents were like this, PP, and it worked. My brothers and I never tested them after toddlerhood.

It works because you and your siblings and pps kids are very compliant. Not all people are. I'm thinking of my sister here who would have got the piercing, moved out, found another way to do college and cut my parents off completel forever, no grandchildren etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

Yes. But when you have a history of saying what you mean and meaning what you say all your kids lives, it never comes to that.

My parents were like this, PP, and it worked. My brothers and I never tested them after toddlerhood.

It works because you and your siblings and pps kids are very compliant. Not all people are. I'm thinking of my sister here who would have got the piercing, moved out, found another way to do college and cut my parents off completel forever, no grandchildren etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Regular ear piercings but anything else has to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. We've gone over extensively the piercings that can be more problematic like tongue piercings.

Not trying to call out this poster specifically, but I see a lot of references like the bolded. And I find it interesting. It seems that much of the concern is based on doing something that society does not view as "regular." Of course, there are issues with certain piercings that can lead to permanent damage, but most do not- nose, cartilage, navel, etc. The only difference is what is "regular" or "normal." I side on letting my kid (15yo) get whatever she wants that she can pay for, so long as it isn't permanent. I don't set up conflicts on things that are personal expression. I have LOTS of battles to fight elsewhere!

Your post brings up an interesting point, many of these opinions are based around white, fundamental Christian norms even if the posters are not aware of it. For example, the idea that more than one ear piercing or a nose piercing is trashy.

That very well may be, but I challenge you to go into professional setting and observe if the people running things have a bunch of piercings in their face or tattoos all over their body. My GYN is not white or male. Neither is the cardiologist I saw a few years ago. And pretty much all of the people I work with in the USG (more white and male than elsewhere, but not entirely) don't have visible piercings or tattoos.

The simple truth is that people don't take you seriously as an adult if you are all tatted up and punched full of holes. Make of it what you will.

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Anonymous wrote:Regular ear piercings but anything else has to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. We've gone over extensively the piercings that can be more problematic like tongue piercings.

Not trying to call out this poster specifically, but I see a lot of references like the bolded. And I find it interesting. It seems that much of the concern is based on doing something that society does not view as "regular." Of course, there are issues with certain piercings that can lead to permanent damage, but most do not- nose, cartilage, navel, etc. The only difference is what is "regular" or "normal." I side on letting my kid (15yo) get whatever she wants that she can pay for, so long as it isn't permanent. I don't set up conflicts on things that are personal expression. I have LOTS of battles to fight elsewhere!

Your post brings up an interesting point, many of these opinions are based around white, fundamental Christian norms even if the posters are not aware of it. For example, the idea that more than one ear piercing or a nose piercing is trashy.

That very well may be, but I challenge you to go into professional setting and observe if the people running things have a bunch of piercings in their face or tattoos all over their body. My GYN is not white or male. Neither is the cardiologist I saw a few years ago. And pretty much all of the people I work with in the USG (more white and male than elsewhere, but not entirely) don't have visible piercings or tattoos.


Ha! Peope;ike you kill me. I work in what you call a professional setting I can think of at least 3 doctors with nose piercings or multiple earrings, and several with tattoos one of them is actually a cardiologist that heaven forbid you were in that situation you would want to be on your team. The world is changing.
The simple truth is that people don't take you seriously as an adult if you are all tatted up and punched full of holes. Make of it what you will.

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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

Yes. But when you have a history of saying what you mean and meaning what you say all your kids lives, it never comes to that.

My parents were like this, PP, and it worked. My brothers and I never tested them after toddlerhood.

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Anonymous wrote:Kid is not a teen yet...but I would okay it with kids own money for any piercing except tongue. I am not paying all this money to fix teeth that are just going to get damaged by a piercing.

This is how we feel. Daughter is a freshman. Many of her friends have a hood or labia piercing. She now wants one. Hasn’t decided on which.

I like that it won’t affect her since it’s not visible.

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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

Yes. But when you have a history of saying what you mean and meaning what you say all your kids lives, it never comes to that.

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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

You make it clear from the beginning so they don’t even think it’s an option to come home with one.

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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

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Anonymous wrote:Our policy is no piercings or tattoos until 21. Not even ears.

+1. Same. Takes the discussion and begging off the able. When they are of legal age and sound mind, they can make holes in themselves.

How do you enforce that? You can’t stop an 18 year old from getting a piercing or tattoo.

You threaten to stop paying their college tuition.

Honestly, it’s all about family rules and expectations.

This is what I started the other thread about. I'm with you on having rules and expectations. But sometimes kids break those rules and fail to meet those expectations. Your kid comes home for winter break with a nose stud. Do you really stop paying tuition?

Anonymous wrote:Kid is not a teen yet...but I would okay it with kids own money for any piercing except tongue. I am not paying all this money to fix teeth that are just going to get damaged by a piercing.