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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

If you want to see what your wife will look like when she’s older, take a look at her mother.

THIS! Mother’s appearance will reflect both genetics and ingrained attitudes about lifestyle and physical fitness, etc.

Meh. My facial features look like my mom’s, but that’s where the resemblance ends. We have very different body types.

This, a gazillion times over. My mother is short-ish and plump, I'm tall and muscular. I look just like my paternal grandmother.
FWIW, DH also doesn't look like any of his parents and resembles his grandfather.

+ 1

Your wife deserves to be with someone who loves her for who she is, not how she looks. Getting a divorce is a favor to her - and good money says once she sheds her unloving and insensitive husband, the body weight will follow - seen it happen many times.

OP, it’s sounds to me like you just don’t love your wife anymore and you are using her weight gain as an excuse. The language you use here doesn’t show any empathy or love for her. She must feel this. I can’t speak to the cause of her weight gain, but the fact that you are capable of calling some one you love disgusting isn’t healthy. My own mother is overweight and I love her beyond measure, I don’t think of her as repulsive. I know you have to be attracted to your wife so it’s different, but you all need to go to counseling together or split up if you think all the work has to be done by her.

Damn I thought I looked great at 5’ 6 and 160 lbs until I read this thread...

Those cankles, those pudgy arms and hands, no neck or fat neck, those treetrunk legs are hot for some skinny ass guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Guaranteed she will find someone to sleep with her if you leave her. Many men like big women.

I’m repulsed by overweight women (and men too for that matter). I married DW, in part, because her Mom kept her figure well into her 60s and DW is in great shape too. Just find someone else to bang on the side or get a divorce if you can’t have her realize that not only are the extra pounds a health risk, but a turn off.

Don’t listen to this jerk. Don’t cheat but just divorce. Don’t be lazy. Figure out your finances and go divorce her.

How big is she? What’s her race??

Anonymous wrote:Guaranteed she will find someone to sleep with her if you leave her. Many men like big women.

I’m repulsed by overweight women (and men too for that matter). I married DW, in part, because her Mom kept her figure well into her 60s and DW is in great shape too. Just find someone else to bang on the side or get a divorce if you can’t have her realize that not only are the extra pounds a health risk, but a turn off.

Anonymous wrote:Guaranteed she will find someone to sleep with her if you leave her. Many men like big women.

Or, once you leave her, she will magically find a way to make all those extra pounds go away in a few short months, get a new hair style and clothes, and hit the dating scene hard. Happens all the time.