Anonymous wrote:I disagree with those who follow the whole “encourages-theory.”

It’s about safety. It doesn’t encourage anybody to do anything they wouldn’t already do anyway.

So you must also think gun control measures are useless. Easy access to guns doesn’t encourage people to commit violent crimes or suicide, they would have done it anyway, right?

Anonymous wrote:I just learned some of my son's 8th grade peers are getting blow jobs. They're 14. This makes me so sad, but I guess I'd have to answer 14.

Common by that age. Most girls lose their virginity by their Fresh/Soph year. Jr/Sr for boys.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Never. When he was old enough and mature enough and dating long enough to have sex, he was old enough and mature enough to buy his own condoms. How is this even a thing?

It's called being a parent.
It is called parenting.

You buy them you show them how to use them.
You put your daughters on BC and you show them condoms as well and provide as well.

That’s just not parenting, not to me. That’s unparenting and uncaring, in my opinion.

I just learned some of my son's 8th grade peers are getting blow jobs. They're 14. This makes me so sad, but I guess I'd have to answer 14.

I would never buy condoms for my son. That’s his job. If he’s mature enough to make that choice, he will spend his own money and obtain what he and his partner choose without prompts from me.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Never. When he was old enough and mature enough and dating long enough to have sex, he was old enough and mature enough to buy his own condoms. How is this even a thing?

It's called being a parent.
It is called parenting.

You buy them you show them how to use them.
You put your daughters on BC and you show them condoms as well and provide as well.

It's odd how gas stations and bars used to have condom machines, and now don't.

They just sort of disappeared over the last 20 years.

I mean my kid has been able to go to the store and buy things since 12. That said, I would at any time I'm worried about sexual activity provide it. I'm not looking to be a Grandma at 39.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Never. When he was old enough and mature enough and dating long enough to have sex, he was old enough and mature enough to buy his own condoms. How is this even a thing?

Sometimes people who aren’t actually mature enough to have sex do so anyway.

I have to admit I feel like handing my 15 year old condoms would feel a little like telling them this was the age when I expected sex.

So, I did it much earlier. When they were 12 and 9, I took my sons on a little tour of the linen closet and showed them various things like the extra toothbrushes, and the tampons, and a box of condoms and told them that these were there in case anyone in the house needed them, and that they could take what they needed, whether for themselves or a friend. Since some of the items were things that they obviously didn’t need, it was less awkward.

We had other conversations, at other times about using protection, again starting before I thought there was any chance they were sexually active.

Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

Never. When he was old enough and mature enough and dating long enough to have sex, he was old enough and mature enough to buy his own condoms. How is this even a thing?

I disagree with those who follow the whole “encourages-theory.”

It’s about safety. It doesn’t encourage anybody to do anything they wouldn’t already do anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

. They are already having sex. Get protection and have an honest conversation. Make sure the girl knows how to get Plan B if needed

No, you have no way to know if they’re already having sex. Get a grip, people.

Dating for a year? Come on now lol. The most teens wait is about 3 months

Maybe in your trashy circles, but not everyone is like you.

Nah, I don't know any high schoolers dating over a year and not humping.

I don’t think it makes them trashy if they do but I do know and think it’s fairly common at 13/14/15 to date for a year and still not have sex.

16/17 forget it lol. Probably only church goers.

OP, please come back and give us a debrief.

It's been FIVE years now