Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

Op has said multiple times that it isn’t about money. She doesn’t want to cook for 15 people and prepare a brunch. Making a little extra has to be cooking for everyone. She is also unwilling to share her cereal because she has to ration the cereal for her stay and cannot go to the grocery store. They decided to cook and share dinner so Op doesn’t want to share her food with the other kids for breakfast and lunch. Again, it is not about money.

A childlike refusal to pack an extra box of cereal, or pack of pancake mix, or carton of eggs, or packet of bacon (all small things), is not excusable for any reason. It's just stupid, regardless of whether it's about money or anything else.

A childlike desire to have another adult responsible for feeding and budgeting for your kids is pretty disgusting as well.

OP is long gone but this would not be a vacation for me. I’m not your Italian grandmother cooking all day. I have DCs of my own a job and it’s my vacation also. I’m not your cook!

Whose going to read the end of this long thread? But I hosted a beach house all summer for years. The food (and drink) is a real issue. People have to work together or stay out of other peoples food. Some people are celebrating at the beach and bring expensive food: cheeses, specialty crackers, charcuterie, croissants, fruits salads, shrimp, lobster, steak and other higher end foods.
Other people economize on food (maybe spending on other things) and get the cheapest possible cheese in a packet, cheap deli meat, hot dogs, hamburgers, pb&j, sugary corn flakes, cheap granola and so on. Also the supplies at the stores at that time were weird off brands that tasted bad.
So the family of 4 with 2 little kids is having much less and different than the family with famished teenagers. And the budget/ amounts are much different.
Casually saying that all kids should eat all food and that one mom making breakfast should “just share and make more...” is really just rude. And user. Fortunately we all respected each other’s boundaries and the kids did also. Pushing the burden of feeding everyone on the first mom who gets up with little kids is just. It’s beyond rude.
OP I don’t know how you can teach manners really.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

Op has said multiple times that it isn’t about money. She doesn’t want to cook for 15 people and prepare a brunch. Making a little extra has to be cooking for everyone. She is also unwilling to share her cereal because she has to ration the cereal for her stay and cannot go to the grocery store. They decided to cook and share dinner so Op doesn’t want to share her food with the other kids for breakfast and lunch. Again, it is not about money.

A childlike refusal to pack an extra box of cereal, or pack of pancake mix, or carton of eggs, or packet of bacon (all small things), is not excusable for any reason. It's just stupid, regardless of whether it's about money or anything else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

Op has said multiple times that it isn’t about money. She doesn’t want to cook for 15 people and prepare a brunch. Making a little extra has to be cooking for everyone. She is also unwilling to share her cereal because she has to ration the cereal for her stay and cannot go to the grocery store. They decided to cook and share dinner so Op doesn’t want to share her food with the other kids for breakfast and lunch. Again, it is not about money.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be happy to donate a few extra boxes of pancake mix so you can feed the other kids. You can make the pancakes the night before and reheat them in the microwave or oven. Or, bring a waffle maker and reheat the waffles in the oven/toaster.

LOL it's so true. We should start a gofundme so OP can scrape together the $10 required for her to be a good guest. I'm feeling generous so I'll pitch in 10 cents which should put a nice dent in things

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This. Why can’t you bring more?

Why should she have to? The families agreed on the procedure - bring own food for breakfast and lunch, share for dinner. OP doesn’t need to feed other families who agreed to bring their own food. Either change the system to free-for-all or as a PO suggested, talk to the adults and make sure they alert their kids to the rules - then say you don’t have enough if/when asked. How is it this difficult? Also, why are you traveling with other families during a pandemic?

+1

Say "ask your mom to make you some". The other parents are trying to pawn the work/guilt off on you, OP. That's BS - it is your vacation, too. It's no one's business what you feed our own kids.

OP is too scared to speak up.

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Anonymous wrote:Yay, DCUM. Let’s stretch it out two more pages by telling me I should just make a little extra.

My grandmother would be spinning in her grave if I ever denied a friend’s kid some food. Our problem is that we usually have too many leftovers.

I know. Some people have no manners or social skills whatsoever

If you are close enough to be vacationing together, you should be hospitable. If there was a kid who was my good friend’s friend or family member, I would treat them well as I would my good friend.

I would not travel or stay with people I was not close with.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yay, DCUM. Let’s stretch it out two more pages by telling me I should just make a little extra.

My grandmother would be spinning in her grave if I ever denied a friend’s kid some food. Our problem is that we usually have too many leftovers.

I know. Some people have no manners or social skills whatsoever

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Anonymous wrote:This may be one of my favorite DCUM threads ever.

Here's hoping that the other sets of parents start their own thread about the bacon fryer who won't share.

DCUM would tell them to bring their on bacon and stop mooching off OP, since it had been agreed at the outset that each family would be responsible for their own breakfast and lunch.

And then dcum would tell them only poor big fat fatties eat bacon.

Anonymous wrote:This may be one of my favorite DCUM threads ever.

Here's hoping that the other sets of parents start their own thread about the bacon fryer who won't share.

DCUM would tell them to bring their on bacon and stop mooching off OP, since it had been agreed at the outset that each family would be responsible for their own breakfast and lunch.

Anonymous wrote: Contact the other families in advance and tell them, hey, seemed like people wanted a hot breakfast last year. Our bacon and eggs were so popular we ran out! Shall we each take a turn cooking for the group?

Then if they insist on sticking with separate meals because they want a kale smoothie while you feed your family “heart attack on a plate” it will be easier to say no when the kids ask.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either don't go or bring extra food and look at the expense as an investment in your friendship.

This. Why can’t you bring more?

Why should she have to? The families agreed on the procedure - bring own food for breakfast and lunch, share for dinner. OP doesn’t need to feed other families who agreed to bring their own food. Either change the system to free-for-all or as a PO suggested, talk to the adults and make sure they alert their kids to the rules - then say you don’t have enough if/when asked. How is it this difficult? Also, why are you traveling with other families during a pandemic?

+1

Say "ask your mom to make you some". The other parents are trying to pawn the work/guilt off on you, OP. That's BS - it is your vacation, too. It's no one's business what you feed our own kids.

This may be one of my favorite DCUM threads ever.

Here's hoping that the other sets of parents start their own thread about the bacon fryer who won't share.

Anonymous wrote:Yay, DCUM. Let’s stretch it out two more pages by telling me I should just make a little extra.

My grandmother would be spinning in her grave if I ever denied a friend’s kid some food. Our problem is that we usually have too many leftovers.