Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 21:01     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 20:59     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?


How is this any different then daycare? Clearly these children Have been in group care all of their lives and their families are just doing what they always have. It's no big deal to them.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 20:35     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
We're starting kindergarten next week & will be in SACC. My kid has been in daycare since 3 months. All the mothers at the daycare are working moms. Once we start K are there going to be a lot of SAHMs passing judgment on WOHMs? And vice versa?
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:39     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Anonymous wrote:Ouch...

I'm a single mother, that recently moved here from abroad, as I accepted a job offer in DC.

I'm also foreigner and not very familiar with the US habits.

My DS will be attending a school, which provides extended care until 6 pm. I was Now debating if would be a good idea to sign him up. The thing is...I don't have a lot of choices...either he will attend extended care, either I will hire a part time nanny.

I come from a country where the extended day care is until 8 pm, due to the way the counttry and work is organized. I know...terrible, and I'm sure no kid get enough sleep, but...it's our reality.

My doubt was...would he be ok, is it normal to be in extended day care or will he be by himself? This is a traditional Roman Catholic school...

Shall I get the nanny? But being without siblings, I believe this may be even worst...

Please advice....


Gosh, I'm sure your child will be fine! Give it a shot and see how it goes. My kids loved aftercare. They attended a public school. I icould have afforded a nanny, but they really enjoyed aftercare, so that is what we do. godd luck and welcome to USA! (I'd love to hear what country you are from that has such extended hours for aftercare-- but I understand if you don't feel comforatable sharing. Maybe someone else can provide a list of possible countries. It hought USA was unique in providing aftercare-- shows I don't get out much, I guess.)
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 20:29     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Ouch...

I'm a single mother, that recently moved here from abroad, as I accepted a job offer in DC.

I'm also foreigner and not very familiar with the US habits.

My DS will be attending a school, which provides extended care until 6 pm. I was Now debating if would be a good idea to sign him up. The thing is...I don't have a lot of choices...either he will attend extended care, either I will hire a part time nanny.

I come from a country where the extended day care is until 8 pm, due to the way the counttry and work is organized. I know...terrible, and I'm sure no kid get enough sleep, but...it's our reality.

My doubt was...would he be ok, is it normal to be in extended day care or will he be by himself? This is a traditional Roman Catholic school...

Shall I get the nanny? But being without siblings, I believe this may be even worst...

Please advice....
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 18:13     Subject: Re:Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
I don't care whether they have an advantage or not. All I want is for the bashing of working parents to stop. I know it goes both ways, but really I see more annoying theads from SAHM's than WOHM's.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 16:43     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Before and after care kids may have an advantage because they learn things like how to get up early on a regular basis, the importance of interacting well with others who are very different from oneself, and that mommy has a profession and may not be able to cater to every whim, as much as she truly loves his sweet little self. I believe that all will be well and am so intrigued by the original poster as well as by the ensuing firestorm. OP, are you my mother-in-law?
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 15:16     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
My kindergartener will be in before and aftercare. We are a two income family. Together, we make about $150k. We live in a tiny 1950s rambler, rarely eat out or take vacations and just get by, paying for aftercare and child care for our toddler. Kids are thriving and I know we are lucky to have what we have, but aftercare is definitely not a matter of priorities- it's just what we need to do. Frankly, I think its great that he'll have more time to play and make new friends.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 15:02     Subject: Re:Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Yes, that is how I feel, priviledged to be able to own a home like this. However we need two incomes to do this. I get the feeling that many of the people complaining about moms working and kids in aftercare don't have to make this choice.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 14:36     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
-1. 1950s houses go for at least 350k (with major work) and usually much more in this area. You are a part of the priviledged few.
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 12:23     Subject: Re:Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Anonymous wrote:Agree. I'm so tired of the $150,000 plus one income earner crowd telling me how to live my life. Yes, I want a single family house and not a townhouse or condo to live in a neighborhood that isn't so transient. Yes, I want a decent school for my child. Yes, I want to be able to afford retirement and pay for college. Yes, I want to be able to afford after school activities. To do this, we both need to make at least $150,000 which for us is earned through 2 jobs and aftercare. Do these people just assume everyone is making the same as them? They seem to be the same people who live in the 2500 s.f. house, have the I-phone, go out to eat once a week, etc. while we stay home and make spaghetti and use our flip phones in our 1950's house. It gets so old.


+1
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2013 07:45     Subject: Re:Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Agree. I'm so tired of the $150,000 plus one income earner crowd telling me how to live my life. Yes, I want a single family house and not a townhouse or condo to live in a neighborhood that isn't so transient. Yes, I want a decent school for my child. Yes, I want to be able to afford retirement and pay for college. Yes, I want to be able to afford after school activities. To do this, we both need to make at least $150,000 which for us is earned through 2 jobs and aftercare. Do these people just assume everyone is making the same as them? They seem to be the same people who live in the 2500 s.f. house, have the I-phone, go out to eat once a week, etc. while we stay home and make spaghetti and use our flip phones in our 1950's house. It gets so old.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2013 20:32     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .


Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.



totallay this!!! People have their priorities in the wrong place!! Sad but true


O. Ill quit my job. File bankruptcy and go on welfare.... They type of single mother you want


Seriously. What kind of high income BUBBLE do they live in, thinking even the majority are living such a high life?

Anonymous
Post 08/23/2013 17:03     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners
Anonymous wrote:
Well, for must of us that work this isn't any different than the hours the kids were in daycare the year before. The kids are used to being in care during the day. It is a little more fun now that they have more friends and have a daily time to play together. My kid loved daycare and he loves aftercare. I feel worse for the kids that go home everyday. What are they going to do there? Arrange a play date everyday?


This is so true! I would feel awful everyday because he doesn't have anyone to play with here.


I pick my kid up and we spend an hour or more on the playground after school every day unless the weather prohibits it. We come home and it is time for homework and making dinner, then bed shortly thereafter.
Aftercare isn't cruel, but my kid isn't suffering because he doesn't go either.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2013 16:51     Subject: Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

Well, for must of us that work this isn't any different than the hours the kids were in daycare the year before. The kids are used to being in care during the day. It is a little more fun now that they have more friends and have a daily time to play together. My kid loved daycare and he loves aftercare. I feel worse for the kids that go home everyday. What are they going to do there? Arrange a play date everyday?


This is so true! I would feel awful everyday because he doesn't have anyone to play with here.