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Anonymous wrote:We had pasta with pesto sauce for dinner in honor of this thread. Salad on the side, but no meat in or alongside this meal.

I'm sure most of the naysayers would think the pasta OP served WITH A SIDE SALAD would be perfectly normal and acceptable.

Also the pesto sauce is full of basil, nuts and olive oil. Those are good things. It's not that hard to put a decent meal on the table.

Anonymous wrote:We had pasta with pesto sauce for dinner in honor of this thread. Salad on the side, but no meat in or alongside this meal.

I'm sure most of the naysayers would think the pasta OP served WITH A SIDE SALAD would be perfectly normal and acceptable.

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Anonymous wrote:Peak almond posting is not understanding that normal healthy people eat a variety of foods in a variety of situations. Almond moms think that any internet stranger who is relaxed about food must weigh 400 lbs. They believe that all healthy people are obsessing about food the way they are. It's a mental illness.

+1

These women have mental disorders.

The rigidity around meals is, IMO, setting up the kids for a bad relationship with food. In my family, we have a basic structure around meals and mealtimes, but we can also go with the flow. Sometimes we skip a meal. Sometimes we have pasta now and fruit or veggies later. We even have the occasional day where we don’t eat ANY vegetables (the horror!)

I’ll bet a lot of the rude, friendless pearl clutchers in this thread still think you have to combine beans and rice at each meal in order to get a complete protein. They haven’t gotten the memo that you need overall balance in your diet, but that doesn’t mean everything has to be perfectly balanced every single time you eat…

Two things -

1. You actually lack a basic structure for meals and mealtimes. And that's because it is a symptom of organizational dysregulation of the household. Your "hearth" is not "hearthing".

2. The bad relationship with food happens not only for those kids who function within very strict rules of "good and bad" foods and portion control, but also for those kids who are not given food at predictable times or nutritious foods. Just like what you have detailed. So, while you are making fun of"friendless pearl clutcher almond mom", you are the opposite end of the spectrum.

And frankly, OP actually lost a "friend" because of her lazy negligent poverty meal was not appealing to a functional parent. So, who is the friendless person now?

We had pasta with pesto sauce for dinner in honor of this thread. Salad on the side, but no meat in or alongside this meal.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a weird post. I learned a new term today though. "Almond Mom". I don't restrict what my kids eat but I am a firm believer against eating cereal as a meal. I couldn't even fathom being handed a bowl of pasta and expecting that to be a meal. You don't need to be an almond mom or dad to know that any processed carbs are not healthy and that lean protein is important. I also find it funny that people think that ethnicity makes their opinions better for some things...my great aunt came from Italy so I'm an expert of pasta dishes. Who cares? Noone cares where your relatives came from. Some relative of mine came from Germany...does that make me an expert on making sausage? It's so ridiculous. The best was the poster who claimed to be part of the junior Olympics growing up...like that makes her/his opinion any better than others.

Exactly! Even the moms in Gaza would turn away buttered pasta since it’s so horrifically unhealthy and lacking in nutrition!

That is so disgusting. Is that supposed to be funny?

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Anonymous wrote:The friend is probably a spoonful of plain yogurt and 3 almonds kind of lunch-eater. Pasta with vodka sauce sounds good to me. There will be fruits and vegetables at the other meals of the day.

No. This friend is a pasta with vodka sauce, side of roasted chicken, veggie and mozzarella salad - kind of gal. Simple, uncomplicated meal that normal people eat.

Who eats pasta? The peasants? Then call it what it is. Poor people's subsistence meal.

That sounds nice for a pre-planned meal. But nobody is roasting a chicken after an impromptu invitation to come back to the house after a playground trip.

Ok. Panfried chicken. How hard is that?

DP. Impromptu pan-fried chicken for lunch? You all are crazy.

We just boiled up a pot of pasta and threw it in boxed chicken broth. Yum.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP, and I think sandwiches would be equally fine, probably with the same sides (e.g. cucumbers and cutie oranges)

Or grilled cheese, or quick quesadillas, or chick fil a dupe nuggets or veggies and hummus, or frozen pizza.

Okay, so I'm judging your nuggets and frozen pizza a lot harder than a bowl of pasta. This just goes to show that what people think is "better" is completely subjective.

OP, please finagle an impromptu lunch invite to your guest's house next time, and see what she serves you. Feel free to raise your eyebrows expressively and give her a long, appraising look before you silently tuck into whatever the F she dishes out.

But why judge that's so rude! See how easy it is? But if you prefer your friends to blow smoke up your not knowing how to cook ass, then that is a personal choice.

It's not rude to judge, only to make apparent that the judging is happening.

Look, if every meal must optimize your protein/fat/carb ratios, then you cannnot accept random invitations to dine. You must decline graciously and go home to feed yourself. If you accept an invitation to dine, you must steel yourself to the fact that the offering is completely out of your control and to be a gracious guest you must eat what is placed before you without comment (unless complimentary), unless you have clearly told the host of your vegetarianism/nut allergy/other well-known, not made up dietary restriction. Christ, I've known this since I was 7, when I choked down tuna casserole at my friend's house even though I really wasn't fond of it. The fact that adults today cannot handle this and would rather let their preferences be rudely known shows a real drop in social etiquette. I think it comes from the rise of people eating out so much, where they get to choose exactly what they want. People are not used to eating at other people's houses anymore and it shows.

100%. It was a lovely gesture to make a pasta lunch. The rudeness and rigidity on this thread is depressing.

1000%. And this is one of the reasons why many people are hesitant to issue invitations and initiate social contacts.

Well, the lady the OP invited is never coming back to her house. And others will know about the shitty hospitality of serving boiled pasta. LOL.

The lady the OP invited will never be invited back. And others will know of her rudeness.

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Anonymous wrote:The friend is probably a spoonful of plain yogurt and 3 almonds kind of lunch-eater. Pasta with vodka sauce sounds good to me. There will be fruits and vegetables at the other meals of the day.

No. This friend is a pasta with vodka sauce, side of roasted chicken, veggie and mozzarella salad - kind of gal. Simple, uncomplicated meal that normal people eat.

Who eats pasta? The peasants? Then call it what it is. Poor people's subsistence meal.

That sounds nice for a pre-planned meal. But nobody is roasting a chicken after an impromptu invitation to come back to the house after a playground trip.

Ok. Panfried chicken. How hard is that?

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP, and I think sandwiches would be equally fine, probably with the same sides (e.g. cucumbers and cutie oranges)

Or grilled cheese, or quick quesadillas, or chick fil a dupe nuggets or veggies and hummus, or frozen pizza.

Okay, so I'm judging your nuggets and frozen pizza a lot harder than a bowl of pasta. This just goes to show that what people think is "better" is completely subjective.

OP, please finagle an impromptu lunch invite to your guest's house next time, and see what she serves you. Feel free to raise your eyebrows expressively and give her a long, appraising look before you silently tuck into whatever the F she dishes out.

But why judge that's so rude! See how easy it is? But if you prefer your friends to blow smoke up your not knowing how to cook ass, then that is a personal choice.

It's not rude to judge, only to make apparent that the judging is happening.

Look, if every meal must optimize your protein/fat/carb ratios, then you cannnot accept random invitations to dine. You must decline graciously and go home to feed yourself. If you accept an invitation to dine, you must steel yourself to the fact that the offering is completely out of your control and to be a gracious guest you must eat what is placed before you without comment (unless complimentary), unless you have clearly told the host of your vegetarianism/nut allergy/other well-known, not made up dietary restriction. Christ, I've known this since I was 7, when I choked down tuna casserole at my friend's house even though I really wasn't fond of it. The fact that adults today cannot handle this and would rather let their preferences be rudely known shows a real drop in social etiquette. I think it comes from the rise of people eating out so much, where they get to choose exactly what they want. People are not used to eating at other people's houses anymore and it shows.

100%. It was a lovely gesture to make a pasta lunch. The rudeness and rigidity on this thread is depressing.

1000%. And this is one of the reasons why many people are hesitant to issue invitations and initiate social contacts.

Well, the lady the OP invited is never coming back to her house. And others will know about the shitty hospitality of serving boiled pasta. LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Peak almond posting is not understanding that normal healthy people eat a variety of foods in a variety of situations. Almond moms think that any internet stranger who is relaxed about food must weigh 400 lbs. They believe that all healthy people are obsessing about food the way they are. It's a mental illness.

+1

These women have mental disorders.

The rigidity around meals is, IMO, setting up the kids for a bad relationship with food. In my family, we have a basic structure around meals and mealtimes, but we can also go with the flow. Sometimes we skip a meal. Sometimes we have pasta now and fruit or veggies later. We even have the occasional day where we don’t eat ANY vegetables (the horror!)

I’ll bet a lot of the rude, friendless pearl clutchers in this thread still think you have to combine beans and rice at each meal in order to get a complete protein. They haven’t gotten the memo that you need overall balance in your diet, but that doesn’t mean everything has to be perfectly balanced every single time you eat…

The two fattest women I know grew up with almond moms. These women do not know how to eat.

That's interesting. I grew up with an almond mom, who was also very into hosting, and following rules. All of my siblings and I have struggled with weight. Our ability to eat intuitively was harmed, in my opinion, by never having any say in what we ate.

I have worked really hard not to be controlling, or rigid with my kids. But part of that is giving them some, but not an overwhelming number of choices, at meals, and letting them decide what and how much to eat. Maybe it worked or maybe I got lucky, but my kids eat a good variety, and seem to know when to stop in a way that my siblings and I didn't.

So, while my kids would never tell OP they didn't like their food, and I wouldn't either, I would probably add something so they had a few choices. I also know that my kids, even the pickiest one, love vodka sauce and would be a little sad if it was served to the adults and not them. My habit is to add fruit and veggies, but honestly that's not so much about nutrition, it's just about variety. Plain pasta and cookies would be better than just plain pasta to me. I don't think that makes me an almond mom.

I will also say that I am only offering food suggestions, because I read the OP to be saying both "Was my meal normal?" and "Was her reaction normal?"

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Anonymous wrote:Peak almond posting is not understanding that normal healthy people eat a variety of foods in a variety of situations. Almond moms think that any internet stranger who is relaxed about food must weigh 400 lbs. They believe that all healthy people are obsessing about food the way they are. It's a mental illness.

+1

These women have mental disorders.

The rigidity around meals is, IMO, setting up the kids for a bad relationship with food. In my family, we have a basic structure around meals and mealtimes, but we can also go with the flow. Sometimes we skip a meal. Sometimes we have pasta now and fruit or veggies later. We even have the occasional day where we don’t eat ANY vegetables (the horror!)

I’ll bet a lot of the rude, friendless pearl clutchers in this thread still think you have to combine beans and rice at each meal in order to get a complete protein. They haven’t gotten the memo that you need overall balance in your diet, but that doesn’t mean everything has to be perfectly balanced every single time you eat…

The two fattest women I know grew up with almond moms. These women do not know how to eat.

The funniest parts of this thread are the almond moms saying what they would have served for a friend at a spontaneous lunch. Ha ha ha! They don't have friends! They don't do spontaneity.

Anonymous wrote:Peak almond posting is not understanding that normal healthy people eat a variety of foods in a variety of situations. Almond moms think that any internet stranger who is relaxed about food must weigh 400 lbs. They believe that all healthy people are obsessing about food the way they are. It's a mental illness.

+1

These women have mental disorders.

The rigidity around meals is, IMO, setting up the kids for a bad relationship with food. In my family, we have a basic structure around meals and mealtimes, but we can also go with the flow. Sometimes we skip a meal. Sometimes we have pasta now and fruit or veggies later. We even have the occasional day where we don’t eat ANY vegetables (the horror!)

I’ll bet a lot of the rude, friendless pearl clutchers in this thread still think you have to combine beans and rice at each meal in order to get a complete protein. They haven’t gotten the memo that you need overall balance in your diet, but that doesn’t mean everything has to be perfectly balanced every single time you eat…