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Anonymous wrote:Jesus. If this thread is indicative of the dating pool over 40, I don't know how anyone finds a partner.

Are there no attractive, kind, funny people -w/o a lot of serious baggage- who are interested in a relationship? People just want to be a sugar daddy? Want rich guys? Or to bang young women? And are this judgmental?

Christ almighty. What a depressing thread.

Normal woman in my mid-40s here. I am on OLD and have not experienced what a lot of people here talk about. TBH reading this board made me very nervous about my prospects for dating post-divorce, but the reality is nowhere near the way this board makes it out to be.

I have had no problem meeting age appropriate men who aren’t broke. I make an ok salary, most men I meet make an ok salary. At least ok enough to take me out. Yes, divorced men are often trying to reestablish themselves after divorce, as are divorced women like me.

Thank you for posting this. I'm the poster you are responding to and the posts on here -just found it today- sent me into a minor panic.

Yeah, some people are crazy. If you are halfway decent looking, sane enough, a good enough judge of character to weed through the ppl on OLD like those who post here, make your own $ vs looking for a random man on OLD to support your lifestyle and aren’t looking for a new daddy for your existing kids, you will do fine. You will do more than fine actually 😀 Most men I have met on OLD just want what I want: someone to do stuff with who makes me smile and wants to touch my boobies.

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks.

lmao at women saying this about men, stunning lack of self-awareness.

Especially older women who still think they're going to get the same kind of attention they got at 22.

You must not date. I have to keep my profile on private so men can’t see me unless I pick them or I get 200 some likes a day from men all over the country. I’m 48 and attractive (f)

Getting spammed by thousands of men on OLD is a form of attention. Too bad you're too stupid to realize how meaningless it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus. If this thread is indicative of the dating pool over 40, I don't know how anyone finds a partner.

Are there no attractive, kind, funny people -w/o a lot of serious baggage- who are interested in a relationship? People just want to be a sugar daddy? Want rich guys? Or to bang young women? And are this judgmental?

Christ almighty. What a depressing thread.

Normal woman in my mid-40s here. I am on OLD and have not experienced what a lot of people here talk about. TBH reading this board made me very nervous about my prospects for dating post-divorce, but the reality is nowhere near the way this board makes it out to be.

I have had no problem meeting age appropriate men who aren’t broke. I make an ok salary, most men I meet make an ok salary. At least ok enough to take me out. Yes, divorced men are often trying to reestablish themselves after divorce, as are divorced women like me.

Thank you for posting this. I'm the poster you are responding to and the posts on here -just found it today- sent me into a minor panic.

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. If this thread is indicative of the dating pool over 40, I don't know how anyone finds a partner.

Are there no attractive, kind, funny people -w/o a lot of serious baggage- who are interested in a relationship? People just want to be a sugar daddy? Want rich guys? Or to bang young women? And are this judgmental?

Christ almighty. What a depressing thread.

Normal woman in my mid-40s here. I am on OLD and have not experienced what a lot of people here talk about. TBH reading this board made me very nervous about my prospects for dating post-divorce, but the reality is nowhere near the way this board makes it out to be.

I have had no problem meeting age appropriate men who aren’t broke. I make an ok salary, most men I meet make an ok salary. At least ok enough to take me out. Yes, divorced men are often trying to reestablish themselves after divorce, as are divorced women like me.

Jesus. If this thread is indicative of the dating pool over 40, I don't know how anyone finds a partner.

Are there no attractive, kind, funny people -w/o a lot of serious baggage- who are interested in a relationship? People just want to be a sugar daddy? Want rich guys? Or to bang young women? And are this judgmental?

Christ almighty. What a depressing thread.

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

I being a trust fund and 350k income. Any more questions?

F, 40s

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

Haha - why do you think a young woman would be with rich old man ? Rich men are looking for youth as it’s a value added just like women look for men who can provide. It’s important if a woman wants kids

Right, but OP is asking specifically about men 45+ on OLD who are "broke" - men who are 45+ with money obviously do not want just anyone (and don't want OP). Which is fine, but OP acts surprised about the situation.

There are money hungry young women, just as there are money hungry old women. Which one do you think the rich guy is going to pick?

PP here. It sounds like we agree.

For 98% men over age 45 we are talking about rather average corporate income. They end up finding a woman their age or slightly younger who brings something yo table. Absolutely all men I dated told me that they look for independent woman who seeks an equal partner.
Yes maybe those making over a million/year would date much younger - but please don’t lie to yourself why she’s with you

Well yeah, but some men date for money, too. I don't know where these women think all the rich men are hiding - they are just not into them.

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

Haha - why do you think a young woman would be with rich old man ? Rich men are looking for youth as it’s a value added just like women look for men who can provide. It’s important if a woman wants kids

Right, but OP is asking specifically about men 45+ on OLD who are "broke" - men who are 45+ with money obviously do not want just anyone (and don't want OP). Which is fine, but OP acts surprised about the situation.

There are money hungry young women, just as there are money hungry old women. Which one do you think the rich guy is going to pick?

PP here. It sounds like we agree.

For 98% men over age 45 we are talking about rather average corporate income. They end up finding a woman their age or slightly younger who brings something yo table. Absolutely all men I dated told me that they look for independent woman who seeks an equal partner.
Yes maybe those making over a million/year would date much younger - but please don’t lie to yourself why she’s with you

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

Haha - why do you think a young woman would be with rich old man ? Rich men are looking for youth as it’s a value added just like women look for men who can provide. It’s important if a woman wants kids

Right, but OP is asking specifically about men 45+ on OLD who are "broke" - men who are 45+ with money obviously do not want just anyone (and don't want OP). Which is fine, but OP acts surprised about the situation.

There are money hungry young women, just as there are money hungry old women. Which one do you think the rich guy is going to pick?

PP here. It sounds like we agree.

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

Haha - why do you think a young woman would be with rich old man ? Rich men are looking for youth as it’s a value added just like women look for men who can provide. It’s important if a woman wants kids

Right, but OP is asking specifically about men 45+ on OLD who are "broke" - men who are 45+ with money obviously do not want just anyone (and don't want OP). Which is fine, but OP acts surprised about the situation.

There are money hungry young women, just as there are money hungry old women. Which one do you think the rich guy is going to pick?

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

Haha - why do you think a young woman would be with rich old man ? Rich men are looking for youth as it’s a value added just like women look for men who can provide. It’s important if a woman wants kids

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks. The absolute maximum age difference for me back in my 20s where a man still appeared hot was 11-13 years gap.

Same. In my twenties, men over thirty just seemed old to me, and I wouldn't even chat with them in a flirtatious matter. 40-somethings seemed like grandpas to me, and no one wants to sleep with a grandpa. The only person I knew in my twenties who dated someone older was effectively a sugar baby and was in it for the money, and there was a lot of it flowing her way.

Yea I remember being 21 and a 35 year old in a class abroad hit on me. I thought he was old… not dateable.

Women have a tendency to overvalue their value

Woman here. I completely agree. There are some women who only talk about money. Men aren't stupid, they stay far away - is it any wonder? How would you feel if someone was with you because you are am lawyer (for example) and they expect you to bring home a lot of money, so that you can go out and blow it? To keep up with the Joneses? Hell no.

What do these women looking for money bring to the table? I see the same posts every week. These women are too stupid to feel shame. Rich men are looking for young women, who are not with them for their paycheck.

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks.

lmao at women saying this about men, stunning lack of self-awareness.

Especially older women who still think they're going to get the same kind of attention they got at 22.

You must not date. I have to keep my profile on private so men can’t see me unless I pick them or I get 200 some likes a day from men all over the country. I’m 48 and attractive (f)

Same here - profile is invisible I only go out on dates with men I picked myself

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks.

lmao at women saying this about men, stunning lack of self-awareness.

Especially older women who still think they're going to get the same kind of attention they got at 22.

You must not date. I have to keep my profile on private so men can’t see me unless I pick them or I get 200 some likes a day from men all over the country. I’m 48 and attractive (f)

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Anonymous wrote:At 25 it grossed me out to even be asked out by older men

Yes, yakis! I remember thinking they looked so old! Men are just full of themselves, and have no realistic perception of their looks.

lmao at women saying this about men, stunning lack of self-awareness.

Especially older women who still think they're going to get the same kind of attention they got at 22.

When I dated in my mud 40s I was getting way more dates than at 22. OLD changed the game for good looking people - one can get an insane exposure that way! I did meet many nice men and date one of them now. Dated someone else seriously before him, and also met on OLD. It gave me so much confidence that I shouldn’t settle. My average timeframe to find a serious BF once I start dating is 4-6 months. I date men 40-59 yo in my mid 40s. It’s about the same generations as I was dating in my 20s, plus younger men. So my dating range window has widened in my 40s, and it’s not because of older men. I don’t date 60+. When I turn 50, maybe I will