Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Military wives.

Hard disagree. Life circumstances made it so that I was exposed to military culture/life intimately without being in the military. Military wives have to pack up and move their entire families every 2-3 years, immediately adapt to the new location/culture (and help their kids assimilate), make new friends, find new resources, and generally make up the lifeblood of base activities and community, ALL with an embarrassingly small amount of support. The nature of their husband's career make it so that they themselves are effectually prevented from developing their own careers, but their husbands and kids would be lost without them as a governing force.

I have more respect for military spouses than nearly any other group.

I’m a military brat, married to a Marine, have lived on bases, am very pro-military. And I agree with you about most military spouses. EXCEPT that many officer’s wives walk around acting like they hold the same rank as their husband, and lord it over lower ranked (especially enlisted) wives and it is truly disgusting behavior.

I have seen this, too - also, one is not allowed to say you are from a particular place, only that you are from several places.

Anonymous wrote:Here’s another one, straight from my family;

Women who always recount their foibles, mistakes, embarrassing moments, klutzy moves, inability to arrive on time anywhere,
supposed medical emergencies, lack of planning, etc. in great detail—wrapped up in a supposedly funny story—to show how positively “quirky” and spontaneous and adorable you are in your naïveté and worldview. No. You are not cute or funny or charming. We’re all sick of you thinking you are some intriguing character. You are just immature and unwell.

Sounds like Main Character Syndrome and yes, it is annoying and distinctly immature.

Being pregnant.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Military wives.

Hard disagree. Life circumstances made it so that I was exposed to military culture/life intimately without being in the military. Military wives have to pack up and move their entire families every 2-3 years, immediately adapt to the new location/culture (and help their kids assimilate), make new friends, find new resources, and generally make up the lifeblood of base activities and community, ALL with an embarrassingly small amount of support. The nature of their husband's career make it so that they themselves are effectually prevented from developing their own careers, but their husbands and kids would be lost without them as a governing force.

I have more respect for military spouses than nearly any other group.

I’m a military brat, married to a Marine, have lived on bases, am very pro-military. And I agree with you about most military spouses. EXCEPT that many officer’s wives walk around acting like they hold the same rank as their husband, and lord it over lower ranked (especially enlisted) wives and it is truly disgusting behavior.

Here’s another one, straight from my family;

Women who always recount their foibles, mistakes, embarrassing moments, klutzy moves, inability to arrive on time anywhere,
supposed medical emergencies, lack of planning, etc. in great detail—wrapped up in a supposedly funny story—to show how positively “quirky” and spontaneous and adorable you are in your naïveté and worldview. No. You are not cute or funny or charming. We’re all sick of you thinking you are some intriguing character. You are just immature and unwell.

Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of how awful, uncivil, judgmental our society has become.

How hard is it to just ignore and/or move on? I've loads of people whose "identity" is closely intertwined with some hobby, activity, belief, etc. Many times those are fleeting (like my few Triathlon friends, who have since abandoned that). Sometimes it's not (looking at a few of my friends who are WAY to involved in their kids' lives). But, in any event, I smile, listen for a few min., then extricate myself and move on.

Even if I roll my eyes to myself, the harsh observations and judgments of many on this thread are really, just pretty gross. These are the people in my community? That's really horrifying to realize that y'all are going around like this.

There is a line. Some people cross it.

I am the one who wrote the post on this page about dog people, and I wrote it specifically because I have a neighbor like this whose dog is constantly barking at me or trying to jump up on me ("he's friendly!") when I pass them on the sidewalk. The neighbor frequently lets this dog off leash on the street and in our nearby park (which is NOT a dog park and where there are lots of signs stating that leashes are required).

Recently this neighbor took to leaving those little bags of dog poop from their walks on the curb in front of their house. I noticed two bags one day when coming home and texted the neighbor "Hey, just so you know, there are a couple bags of I think dog poop in front of your house -- not sure if they are yours or not but wanted to make you aware." The response "Yes I know. I prefer to dispose of them at the end of the day. I will get to them tonight." Um, no. I explained that leaving dog poop on public property actually violates city code and can carry a hefty fine ($300, I looked it up) and this guy immediately asked me if I was threatening him and got belligerent. Next day, there were three bags of dog poop on the curb. I am contemplating whether I want to escalate and report him to city services. I would prefer not to because I think that's aggressive, but his behavior is so horrible and anti-social that I feel I have little other recourse.

I think this is the kind of thing a lot of people in this thread are talking about. I don't dislike dogs generally, and I know lots of people who are great and have dogs or love dogs. But there are people who go in so hard on one aspect of their personality to the exclusion of everything else (including being a good neighbor or having manners or social graces) and it sucks. I don't think this thread is about judging people for liking things or having passions.

I think it's about people who cross the line.

Anonymous wrote:The kind of dog people who only care about dogs or other dog people. Only socialize with people who have dogs, insist on taking their dogs absolutely everywhere, become indignant when their dog is not allowed in a restaurant or a workplace or someone else's home, believe all outdoor spaces exist primarily as toilets and humping grounds for dogs, think everything their dog does (including jumping on people and other dogs, $hitting in people's yards, and barking at anything and everything it encounters) is cute and not annoying, and believe their love of dogs is evidence of their goodness as humans despite the fact that all of the forgoing behavior is absolutely heinous behavior.

Also, the people I have known like this will be the first people to complain about a crying baby on a plane or a child who moves slowly getting out of an elevator or something.

So not all dog people (I have friends with dogs who aren't like this) but these specific dog people who make owning a dog some kind of weird mission but also have zero interest in training or socializing their dogs in ways that might make it easier for their dogs to be in more spaces.

PREACH!

This thread is an example of how awful, uncivil, judgmental our society has become.

How hard is it to just ignore and/or move on? I've loads of people whose "identity" is closely intertwined with some hobby, activity, belief, etc. Many times those are fleeting (like my few Triathlon friends, who have since abandoned that). Sometimes it's not (looking at a few of my friends who are WAY to involved in their kids' lives). But, in any event, I smile, listen for a few min., then extricate myself and move on.

Even if I roll my eyes to myself, the harsh observations and judgments of many on this thread are really, just pretty gross. These are the people in my community? That's really horrifying to realize that y'all are going around like this.

Anonymous wrote:People whose spiritual journeys are their personality. Those ayahuasca, yoga retreat, crystal, law of attraction people that meditate on their past lives while the rest of us pick up their slack at work.

Oh my god, I think I might be this person? Am I annoying?

The kind of dog people who only care about dogs or other dog people. Only socialize with people who have dogs, insist on taking their dogs absolutely everywhere, become indignant when their dog is not allowed in a restaurant or a workplace or someone else's home, believe all outdoor spaces exist primarily as toilets and humping grounds for dogs, think everything their dog does (including jumping on people and other dogs, $hitting in people's yards, and barking at anything and everything it encounters) is cute and not annoying, and believe their love of dogs is evidence of their goodness as humans despite the fact that all of the forgoing behavior is absolutely heinous behavior.

Also, the people I have known like this will be the first people to complain about a crying baby on a plane or a child who moves slowly getting out of an elevator or something.

So not all dog people (I have friends with dogs who aren't like this) but these specific dog people who make owning a dog some kind of weird mission but also have zero interest in training or socializing their dogs in ways that might make it easier for their dogs to be in more spaces.

People who make parenting their whole personality.

I'm a mom, too, but there are other aspects of my personality.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that Gen Z has been sold this story that they are all anxious, depressed, bipolar, borderline, precious, etc … everyone has mental struggles of some kind. Some more than others. But this is a whole different kind of epidemic we’ve got with this nonsense.

Yes, 100% agree.

On a related note: some University offices of disability are now reporting up to 25% of students have a disability; the overwhelming majority being ADD, ADHD, or “anxiety.” (or another mental disability). The percentage goes much higher when international students are subtracted.

We either have a mental health crisis among university students, or a crisis of mis-diagnosis/ abuse for academic advantage in the US.

+1

How much is nature and how much is (failure to) nurture?

Anonymous wrote:The fact that Gen Z has been sold this story that they are all anxious, depressed, bipolar, borderline, precious, etc … everyone has mental struggles of some kind. Some more than others. But this is a whole different kind of epidemic we’ve got with this nonsense.

Yes, 100% agree.

On a related note: some University offices of disability are now reporting up to 25% of students have a disability; the overwhelming majority being ADD, ADHD, or “anxiety.” (or another mental disability). The percentage goes much higher when international students are subtracted.

We either have a mental health crisis among university students, or a crisis of mis-diagnosis/ abuse for academic advantage in the US.

People whose spiritual journeys are their personality. Those ayahuasca, yoga retreat, crystal, law of attraction people that meditate on their past lives while the rest of us pick up their slack at work.

Anonymous wrote:Tacos
Margaritas

“I’m so quirky, I go crazy for tacos!”

I’ve recently resumed online dating and that is every 3rd profile.

Feed me tacos and tell me I’m pretty tee-hee