Anonymous wrote:Let’s say you believe that your mid-late 20s are the best time to meet a partner. You may disagree but let’s say for arguments sake. What are the most common mistakes women make that waste the “best” relationship-building years, and how would you advise Gen Z women to not repeat these mistakes? Or if this was you, what advice would you give your younger self?
I’ll start: I always wanted a relationship, but could not move on easily from rejection and breakup and wasted precious months moving over failed romances. I also wasted time trying to change the minds of men who just wanted casual sex. I had been exposed to too much online misogyny and believed that if I held out and proved that I was “not that kind of girl” and that I was the type you would marry, not just sleep with, instead of just ignoring the guys who had this mentality. The best advice to my 25 year old self would be to move on, and move on faster.
Two things:
- I stayed too long with one guy who I knew was not a good match for me. Nothing wrong with him. We just were not compatible. But, I liked the stability of a relationship and was in it too long. I probably missed out on a guy who I was seeing a big before him and was a much better match.
-VERY early 20's . . . first love. Cheated on me. Took him back. We went back and forth for years. He disrespected me badly. But, I let him. I learned a lot from that but I wish I hadn't wasted 3 years figuring it out.