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Anonymous wrote:My husband loves me. No matter what I've looked like. For 36 years and counting. And he's supportive. He's bald, we're both aging, I've had health issues along the way, and it doesn't interfere with our actual relationship.

Everyone should be loved.

Try dropping 20-30 pounds and see how much more he loves/lusts after you.

If I dropped 20-30 pounds I’d weigh 80-90 pounds and be dead, most likely.

So what is the point of your, "My husband loves me. No matter what I've looked like" post? Sure he loves your look when you wigh a buck ten.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

If you want to see what your wife will look like when she’s older, take a look at her mother.

THIS! Mother’s appearance will reflect both genetics and ingrained attitudes about lifestyle and physical fitness, etc.

Meh. My facial features look like my mom’s, but that’s where the resemblance ends. We have very different body types.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

If you want to see what your wife will look like when she’s older, take a look at her mother.

THIS! Mother’s appearance will reflect both genetics and ingrained attitudes about lifestyle and physical fitness, etc.

My mom was mentally ill, and was obese due to the drugs she took for schizophrenia. I work out daily, eat well, and am the same weight as my prepregnancy weight and ten pounds up from my wedding day weight. (I also, very thankfully, am not mentally ill.) My mother's mental and physical health had a huge impact on how I care for myself, probably needless to say. So you can't go by what someone's mother looks like as a strict guide.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

If you want to see what your wife will look like when she’s older, take a look at her mother.

THIS! Mother’s appearance will reflect both genetics and ingrained attitudes about lifestyle and physical fitness, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband loves me. No matter what I've looked like. For 36 years and counting. And he's supportive. He's bald, we're both aging, I've had health issues along the way, and it doesn't interfere with our actual relationship.

Everyone should be loved.

Try dropping 20-30 pounds and see how much more he loves/lusts after you.

If I dropped 20-30 pounds I’d weigh 80-90 pounds and be dead, most likely.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'm OP's wife. He's lying about why he doesn't want a divorce. He doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to lose his lifestyle. He didn't tell you that I make all the money in this relationship and he would have nothing if he left me.

I'll admit that I'm fat. I'm trying to lose weight, but I'm tired. And I'm depressed, and he's a huge asshole, and his lack of sensitivity and passive aggressiveness is not helping the situation.

Also, the sex has never been very good, so it's not like I'm missing out on anything. I do a better job of satisfying myself than he ever did.

Get yourself in a good position then to get rid of all that extra weight. I'm talking about the 200 lb dead weight you are carrying.

Good at least you don't have to do the duty sex with him anymore. You'd be happier alone imo. And around people who don't put you down.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband loves me. No matter what I've looked like. For 36 years and counting. And he's supportive. He's bald, we're both aging, I've had health issues along the way, and it doesn't interfere with our actual relationship.

Everyone should be loved.

Try dropping 20-30 pounds and see how much more he loves/lusts after you.

If I dropped 20-30 pounds I’d weigh 80-90 pounds and be dead, most likely.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife is unhappy. Unhappy people become overeating alcoholics. Did she give up her job when she had the baby? I did and was much happier when I went back to work. Also, 99% of the problem is food shopping. If you do ALL the food shopping and cooking and make sure there are no breads, pastas, pastries, sugar, desserts/carb in the house or in the table, what is there? If it’s in the house now, throw it away.

Exercise does not help lose weight. That is a lie. It’s 99% food. So she needs to be drinking lots and lots of water and ice teas and ice coffees (no sugar, no milk, no calories) and eating lots of greens and fish. It will fall off.

Ridiculous. These can all be eaten in moderation. If my spouse threw out a bunch of my food, I’d simply go buy more. And rip them a new hole.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband loves me. No matter what I've looked like. For 36 years and counting. And he's supportive. He's bald, we're both aging, I've had health issues along the way, and it doesn't interfere with our actual relationship.

Everyone should be loved.

Try dropping 20-30 pounds and see how much more he loves/lusts after you.

Anonymous wrote:Wife is unhappy. Unhappy people become overeating alcoholics. Did she give up her job when she had the baby? I did and was much happier when I went back to work. Also, 99% of the problem is food shopping. If you do ALL the food shopping and cooking and make sure there are no breads, pastas, pastries, sugar, desserts/carb in the house or in the table, what is there? If it’s in the house now, throw it away.

Exercise does not help lose weight. That is a lie. It’s 99% food. So she needs to be drinking lots and lots of water and ice teas and ice coffees (no sugar, no milk, no calories) and eating lots of greens and fish. It will fall off.

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Anonymous wrote:Obesity is heavily linked to poor health. Even 20 - 40 pounds overweight is linked to poor health markers particularly in the 40 pound number OP mentioned.

True, but being mildly overweight is associated with better health.

You don’t know where OPs wife started.

If she’s 5’2” and started at 100 lbs, and is now 140lbs, she is barely overweight. To be obese, she would have had to be overweight to start with.

Huh? At 5'2" that is about 30 pounds overweight.

No. 135 pounds is a normal BMI at 5 foot two. Look it up.

Overweight starts at 136. https://www.bmi-chart.info/

Not that I need a chart to tell me a 5'2" woman is overweight at 140. And women that short do NOT carry that weight well at all.

The BMI standard is really quite forgiving. My wife is 5'6" and 120. I remember when she was mid pregnancy and got up to 140. She was... a big girl. I can't imagine someone 5'2" thinking they're any semblance of healthy at that weight. Wife felt HUGE at 140.

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If you've got an entire pool of women willing to date you, what do you care what one 45-year-old thinks?

I care because she might have an interesting perspective on why she thinks what she does. Is that not what this board is about, people sharing perspectives?

Because I do not want to date her does not mean that I do not care what she thinks.

If she does not want to date men over 45, and she is 45, who does she date? I am curious because her outlook is different than mine for any number of reasons (e.g., age, gender, etc.)

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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

If you want to see what your wife will look like when she’s older, take a look at her mother.

THIS! Mother’s appearance will reflect both genetics and ingrained attitudes about lifestyle and physical fitness, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:This is my nightmare as a man

Just don't get married. And if you feel like you might want to get married, read this board for an hour or so and it will cure you of those feelings very quickly, if not forever. it works for me.

If you want to see what your wife will look like when she’s older, take a look at her mother.