Anonymous wrote:I love pills (percs, vicodin). I love my child more, so I don't indulge very often. But I love the feeling.

Dude. Be very careful. Everyone starts out feeling like they are in control and can decide when/if to take them...

I love pills (percs, vicodin). I love my child more, so I don't indulge very often. But I love the feeling.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not a huge fan of his ethnicity's food. I think it's just okay, but except for maybe one dish, I'd never eat it by choice.

Why in the world would you need to keep this a secret? This is not a big deal at all.

He's very proud of it and I really think it would hurt his feelings. For example, I once mentioned preferring a dish from a similar but different culture, and he acted kind of offended!

I was Mormon

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Anonymous wrote:That I was not really born into his culture. My parents are dead and I have no siblings or relatives I'm in contact with. DH wanted a girl from his culture and I wanted him, so I lied. His fault for being stupid enough to let something as stupid as "blood" almost come between us.

What culture? Jewish? I'm having a hard time imagining many cultures where you could make this work because you're last name at least would often give you away.

Yep. Makes me laugh every time I hear my judgmental asshole mother-in-law say that other couples in which only the father is Jewish don't have "real" Jewish kids. I think to myself, "you don't have real Jewish grandkids either."

Are you going to tell your kids, when they are older? What if they become Orthodox, and believe they are obligated to follow Jewish law, but would not be if they were not Jewish? Are you going to keep the lie going for them, and for future SIL's and DIL's?

Judaism is a religion. If my kids become ultra religious and follow all the tenets/requirements, then that's that. I see no reason to indulge idiots who would argue that people just like them with Jewish mothers are fine, but they are not Jewish because the wrong parent is Jewish.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That I was not really born into his culture. My parents are dead and I have no siblings or relatives I'm in contact with. DH wanted a girl from his culture and I wanted him, so I lied. His fault for being stupid enough to let something as stupid as "blood" almost come between us.

What culture? Jewish? I'm having a hard time imagining many cultures where you could make this work because you're last name at least would often give you away.

Yep. Makes me laugh every time I hear my judgmental asshole mother-in-law say that other couples in which only the father is Jewish don't have "real" Jewish kids. I think to myself, "you don't have real Jewish grandkids either."

Are you going to tell your kids, when they are older? What if they become Orthodox, and believe they are obligated to follow Jewish law, but would not be if they were not Jewish? Are you going to keep the lie going for them, and for future SIL's and DIL's?

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Anonymous wrote:That I was not really born into his culture. My parents are dead and I have no siblings or relatives I'm in contact with. DH wanted a girl from his culture and I wanted him, so I lied. His fault for being stupid enough to let something as stupid as "blood" almost come between us.

What culture? Jewish? I'm having a hard time imagining many cultures where you could make this work because you're last name at least would often give you away.

Yep. Makes me laugh every time I hear my judgmental asshole mother-in-law say that other couples in which only the father is Jewish don't have "real" Jewish kids. I think to myself, "you don't have real Jewish grandkids either."

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a huge fan of his ethnicity's food. I think it's just okay, but except for maybe one dish, I'd never eat it by choice.

Why in the world would you need to keep this a secret? This is not a big deal at all.

Anonymous wrote:Back when my kids were in diapers I would change dirty diapers 75% of the time. I got sick of doing the majority of the work so when we went to go eat I told her they didn't have changing tables in the men's restrooms so she had to do it.

I tried that but my husband didn't believe me.

People are really getting creative here. Active imaginations, for sure.

How depressed I am

I don't like kissing him. I love him as a friend and partner, but would be happy never having sex with him again. I am madly in love with another man but won't leave because I want to raise our kids with him.

All true here, too. How do you cope w the guilt?

Guilt?

I love this. DCUM at its finest. If you want how to spot a psychopath, look for the absence of guilt related to their actions.

Read: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/sociopath-psychopath-difference#1

The best is the first poster. She does not mind lying, cheating, etc. to meet her goals (i.e., rasing kids with him) rather than letting him know the truth. Even better, she says she loves him. Wonder if her kids were fathered by her DH?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't like kissing him. I love him as a friend and partner, but would be happy never having sex with him again. I am madly in love with another man but won't leave because I want to raise our kids with him.

All true here, too. How do you cope w the guilt?

Guilt?

Anonymous wrote:I don't like kissing him. I love him as a friend and partner, but would be happy never having sex with him again. I am madly in love with another man but won't leave because I want to raise our kids with him.

All true here, too. How do you cope w the guilt?

Back when my kids were in diapers I would change dirty diapers 75% of the time. I got sick of doing the majority of the work so when we went to go eat I told her they didn't have changing tables in the men's restrooms so she had to do it.