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Anonymous wrote:Guy in 50s - why do you want to leave your marriage?

- she makes her family a priority over me (will never leave the region where they live)
- has no plans for the future except to retire and sit around
- used to be curious about the world, now never reads anything
- has no interest in any of my dreams or ideas (still want to work in my 60s at my own business)
- has no ability to understand anyone's thinking except her own

Translation: alone in the marriage and often think about what life would be like with some of the 50ish women I meet from time to time.

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Anonymous wrote:Many years ago a close GF of mine told me about the amazing sex (multiple O's etc.) she was having with a guy we both worked with. I always liked him but never wanted to risk dating someone I worked with. But now I was intrigued even though I was definitely not someone who slept around. I hit on him soon after and the sex was amazing. We've been married 35 years and the sex is still great. Just this morning I told him that "I missed him" since he's been recovering from minor surgery. He said "I'm back" so I'm looking forward to tonight! BTW, I'm still friends with my old GF. Many years ago I was dumb enough to tell my DH what my GF had said and he said something like advertising does work. They weren't really dating, more like today's FWB, so I never felt like I stole him from her.

That is so great. How old are you now? Are you one of those rare post-menopause DWs who still has sex? 51 here and my DW could be fine never having sex again. I hear stories like yours and I get so jealous and frustrated in equal measure....

Anonymous wrote:I confess to being a little shocked that people grow to full adulthood in this day and age and don't know about masturbation.

Anonymous wrote:Totally crushing on my trainer...no sex with husband, for several months, and barely any for three years. All kinds of trouble. Luckily he seems level headed but ...omg.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never strayed in my marriage. 18 years. But sex has all but stopped and for the first time I am thinking of hiring an escort

It amazes me how women just don't get how damaging the lack of sex is

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Anonymous wrote:Here is mine:

I almost bailed the day before my wedding 10 years ago. But family convinced me to stay. I had some friends tell me I'd likely to get divorced. They aren't my friends anymore but they were right.

I hate him now. He is a loser who can't hold down a job and has a ton of student debt. I pay for everything and do all childcare. He comes home and criticizes everything. He had opinions on EVERYTHING and it's his way or the highway and he's still mad if he gets his way. I cringe when we have to spend time with each other on weekends. I can't wait until Monday. Having sex with him is gross. I secretly wish he'd cheat so it would be easier to justify divorce.

I'm scared to bring up how unhappy I am.He doesn't listen and is angry all the time. Instead I tune him.

I don't want to live like this for the next 40 years.. I don't have anyone to talk to. My therapist said that we need couples counseling and 1 on 1 isn't going to help. My friends and family don't know that I'm ready to bail..

Call up those friends that tried to warn you. They are your true friends and they will listen. Imagine how hard it must have been for them to tell you to bail all those years ago

THIS x1000!
Those friends have probably been carrying a little guilt of their own for all of these years... call them, Facebook them, get in touch... they'll listen.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is mine:

I almost bailed the day before my wedding 10 years ago. But family convinced me to stay. I had some friends tell me I'd likely to get divorced. They aren't my friends anymore but they were right.

I hate him now. He is a loser who can't hold down a job and has a ton of student debt. I pay for everything and do all childcare. He comes home and criticizes everything. He had opinions on EVERYTHING and it's his way or the highway and he's still mad if he gets his way. I cringe when we have to spend time with each other on weekends. I can't wait until Monday. Having sex with him is gross. I secretly wish he'd cheat so it would be easier to justify divorce.

I'm scared to bring up how unhappy I am.He doesn't listen and is angry all the time. Instead I tune him.

I don't want to live like this for the next 40 years.. I don't have anyone to talk to. My therapist said that we need couples counseling and 1 on 1 isn't going to help. My friends and family don't know that I'm ready to bail..

Call up those friends that tried to warn you. They are your true friends and they will listen. Imagine how hard it must have been for them to tell you to bail all those years ago

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so skinny postpartum because I abuse drugs. At least I don't lie outright and pretend I work out or eat well. I just say, "I haven't had an appetite since the baby was born" which is true.

Nice. What's your drug/s of choice?

Small doses of opiates + benzos + nicotine (vape in private). I make sure my DH, a grandparent, or a babysitter is "on duty" when I dose. I'm not a monster, just a person trying to get through day by day. It started because I had leftover opiates from my postpartum pain when the PPD kicked in. Instead of sobbing every evening like clockwork, I took a pill and actually enjoyed the evening grind - loving on my baby, tidying the house, prepping bottles, engaging with DH, dealing better with night wakings. I'm not under any illusions that I'm not headed for rehab or a breakdown. But for now, I'm working FT and being the best mom I can be. And I have to force myself to eat, yes. Please don't assume I'm glorifying this. I'm a train wreck inside.

Anonymous wrote:Here is mine:

I almost bailed the day before my wedding 10 years ago. But family convinced me to stay. I had some friends tell me I'd likely to get divorced. They aren't my friends anymore but they were right.

I hate him now. He is a loser who can't hold down a job and has a ton of student debt. I pay for everything and do all childcare. He comes home and criticizes everything. He had opinions on EVERYTHING and it's his way or the highway and he's still mad if he gets his way. I cringe when we have to spend time with each other on weekends. I can't wait until Monday. Having sex with him is gross. I secretly wish he'd cheat so it would be easier to justify divorce.

I'm scared to bring up how unhappy I am.He doesn't listen and is angry all the time. Instead I tune him.

I don't want to live like this for the next 40 years.. I don't have anyone to talk to. My therapist said that we need couples counseling and 1 on 1 isn't going to help. My friends and family don't know that I'm ready to bail..

Anonymous wrote:Until then I am a sad spinster though. Lets not sugarcoat it

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Anonymous wrote:Guy in 50s - why do you want to leave your marriage?

- she makes her family a priority over me (will never leave the region where they live)
- has no plans for the future except to retire and sit around
- used to be curious about the world, now never reads anything
- has no interest in any of my dreams or ideas (still want to work in my 60s at my own business)
- has no ability to understand anyone's thinking except her own

Translation: alone in the marriage and often think about what life would be like with some of the 50ish women I meet from time to time.