Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:46
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
LOL. Top 5 “things in common” thresholds for sororities:
1) Are you white and Christian
2) Are you pretty (bonus points for blonde)
3) Are you thin
4) Are you down to drink and be verrrryyyy “social” with fraternity brothers
5) Are you likely to STFU and do what you’re told
1) Are you white and Christian
2) Are you pretty (bonus points for blonde)
3) Are you thin
4) Are you down to drink and be verrrryyyy “social” with fraternity brothers
5) Are you likely to STFU and do what you’re told
Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:45
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh no, did these girls get excluded from the exclusive club they wanted to be in? They wanted to be in a system designed to keep “lower quality” people out, and it turns out they don’t meet the standards of quality?
Oh no, I feel so bad for them.
If only they were part of a college community where you can make friends in the dorms, or through activities, or open clubs where the focus is about sharing common interests and welcoming everyone with that interest.
But then they may have to talk to a fat girl, or a poor girl!
Of course they have friends all over and all different kinds of friends.
When you agree to pay THOUSANDS of dollars to join any club, not just a sorority, it is natural to make sure you have things in common with them.
Then they should shut up with their whining when they don’t get in to their preferred club if they aren’t good enough. They wanted to be better than other girls, but it turns out they weren’t.
You can have lots in common with other students in:
-Intramural sports
-The student newspaper
-Hiking club
-Religious club or church or synagogue or house of worship
-Culinary club
-Dance club
-Adventure club
-Chess club
-Theater
And if you bother to get to know the girls in your dorm, you’ll find you have lots in common, or GASP you may learn that you don’t have to have things in common to learn to like and appreciate others!
Tell that to the people who pushed the sororities out for not being "inclusive" enough in the first place. Turns out all those exclude kids just weren't good enough, right? Where were you back in 2020?
Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:44
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh no, did these girls get excluded from the exclusive club they wanted to be in? They wanted to be in a system designed to keep “lower quality” people out, and it turns out they don’t meet the standards of quality?
Oh no, I feel so bad for them.
If only they were part of a college community where you can make friends in the dorms, or through activities, or open clubs where the focus is about sharing common interests and welcoming everyone with that interest.
But then they may have to talk to a fat girl, or a poor girl!
Of course they have friends all over and all different kinds of friends.
When you agree to pay THOUSANDS of dollars to join any club, not just a sorority, it is natural to make sure you have things in common with them.
Then they should shut up with their whining when they don’t get in to their preferred club if they aren’t good enough. They wanted to be better than other girls, but it turns out they weren’t.
You can have lots in common with other students in:
-Intramural sports
-The student newspaper
-Hiking club
-Religious club or church or synagogue or house of worship
-Culinary club
-Dance club
-Adventure club
-Chess club
-Theater
And if you bother to get to know the girls in your dorm, you’ll find you have lots in common, or GASP you may learn that you don’t have to have things in common to learn to like and appreciate others!
Wonderful…and agreed. And no one had to pay thousands of dollars for any of that…. lol
It’s all good, no one is that upset, was just adding perspective to the conversation. Have a great day!
Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:42
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh no, did these girls get excluded from the exclusive club they wanted to be in? They wanted to be in a system designed to keep “lower quality” people out, and it turns out they don’t meet the standards of quality?
Oh no, I feel so bad for them.
If only they were part of a college community where you can make friends in the dorms, or through activities, or open clubs where the focus is about sharing common interests and welcoming everyone with that interest.
But then they may have to talk to a fat girl, or a poor girl!
Of course they have friends all over and all different kinds of friends.
When you agree to pay THOUSANDS of dollars to join any club, not just a sorority, it is natural to make sure you have things in common with them.
Then they should shut up with their whining when they don’t get in to their preferred club if they aren’t good enough. They wanted to be better than other girls, but it turns out they weren’t.
You can have lots in common with other students in:
-Intramural sports
-The student newspaper
-Hiking club
-Religious club or church or synagogue or house of worship
-Culinary club
-Dance club
-Adventure club
-Chess club
-Theater
And if you bother to get to know the girls in your dorm, you’ll find you have lots in common, or GASP you may learn that you don’t have to have things in common to learn to like and appreciate others!
Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:32
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Oh no, did these girls get excluded from the exclusive club they wanted to be in? They wanted to be in a system designed to keep “lower quality” people out, and it turns out they don’t meet the standards of quality?
Oh no, I feel so bad for them.
If only they were part of a college community where you can make friends in the dorms, or through activities, or open clubs where the focus is about sharing common interests and welcoming everyone with that interest.
But then they may have to talk to a fat girl, or a poor girl!
Of course they have friends all over and all different kinds of friends.
When you agree to pay THOUSANDS of dollars to join any club, not just a sorority, it is natural to make sure you have things in common with them.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:26
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Oh no, did these girls get excluded from the exclusive club they wanted to be in? They wanted to be in a system designed to keep “lower quality” people out, and it turns out they don’t meet the standards of quality?
Oh no, I feel so bad for them.
If only they were part of a college community where you can make friends in the dorms, or through activities, or open clubs where the focus is about sharing common interests and welcoming everyone with that interest.
But then they may have to talk to a fat girl, or a poor girl!
Oh no, I feel so bad for them.
If only they were part of a college community where you can make friends in the dorms, or through activities, or open clubs where the focus is about sharing common interests and welcoming everyone with that interest.
But then they may have to talk to a fat girl, or a poor girl!
Anonymous
01/22/2026 08:21
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
I disagree….its not just about the “tiers” although I know that’s how people refer to them. It’s about wanting to surround yourself with people who have similar interests and personalities. I heard wonderful things from many about the lower ranked sororities. But at the end of the day, those sororities did not feel like home to some. Some girls are not doing this to join any sorority. They want it to be a good fit for them. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that….no matter the tier, it needs to be a good fit.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 07:42
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:For many girls whose schools are being discussed on this thread, they were the high school top performers. Being accepted to UMIch, UVA and Northwestern is no small feat, so I am sure that the sting of rush not working out the way they wanted (or even not being accepted to a professional club at a school) can be an especially tough to handle. Hugs to all the mamas helping their girls navigate this phase of life and building resilience.
And hugs to the mamas helping their girls in the “bottom tier” as they build their pledge classes.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 07:41
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Northwestern sorority rush was brutal. Only 50% of girls who rushed got bids.
Brutal.
A lot of Manhattan private school girls didn’t get bids (many SIP) and are now thinking about helping recolonize a chapter that’s coming back.
Is that unusual for northwestern for that many girls to not get bids?
Yes very. These numbers seem more akin to UVA? Or an SEC school than NU.
Rumor/theory from my kid is they have much more interest in Greek life (like everywhere) this year and they’re recruiting a “different” kind of applicant lately.
More Vandy. Less Cornell?
A lot of angry kids and parents. And a lot of demands on university to encourage more Greek chapters to come back.
Does SIP mean suicide bid? Could these girls really only see themselves in one chapter?
NP. Also, familiar with NU rush this year.
By the time you get to philanthropy or pref, maybe yes given the other names on the list?
The cuts were apparently really harsh at NU. Or maybe they are everywhere? Reports that pledge classes are around 40. Why wouldn't the school increase the pledge classes by 10-15 at least?
Very harsh at UVA too. So many really sad girls. There are at least a half dozen on my daughter's hall and that is one hall in one dorm.
Are they sad because they didn’t get invited back to the so called top tier and they dropped? Or because they actually didn’t get a bid after filling out the form on bid day?
From what I saw this year most of the girls were going after the same middle of the road, fun, laid back sororities. They dropped when that didn’t work out because they didn’t find their fit at the tippy top ones or the very bottom ones. Just really hard to get into the ones where they fit best because those were really popular this year I think.
PP.
So- yes. They decided they were too good for the “very bottom” groups. Gross.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 07:14
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
For many girls whose schools are being discussed on this thread, they were the high school top performers. Being accepted to UMIch, UVA and Northwestern is no small feat, so I am sure that the sting of rush not working out the way they wanted (or even not being accepted to a professional club at a school) can be an especially tough to handle. Hugs to all the mamas helping their girls navigate this phase of life and building resilience.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 06:58
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Didn’t the northwestern female students close several sororities in recent years bc of historic racism or other reasons?
Alum here.
No it was woke BLM stuff.
But yes 4-5 chapters closed during COVID due to lack of members and lack of uni support.
The BLM blamed certain sororities and the school for not supporting black students.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 06:35
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Northwestern sorority rush was brutal. Only 50% of girls who rushed got bids.
Brutal.
A lot of Manhattan private school girls didn’t get bids (many SIP) and are now thinking about helping recolonize a chapter that’s coming back.
Is that unusual for northwestern for that many girls to not get bids?
Yes very. These numbers seem more akin to UVA? Or an SEC school than NU.
Rumor/theory from my kid is they have much more interest in Greek life (like everywhere) this year and they’re recruiting a “different” kind of applicant lately.
More Vandy. Less Cornell?
A lot of angry kids and parents. And a lot of demands on university to encourage more Greek chapters to come back.
Does SIP mean suicide bid? Could these girls really only see themselves in one chapter?
NP. Also, familiar with NU rush this year.
By the time you get to philanthropy or pref, maybe yes given the other names on the list?
The cuts were apparently really harsh at NU. Or maybe they are everywhere? Reports that pledge classes are around 40. Why wouldn't the school increase the pledge classes by 10-15 at least?
Very harsh at UVA too. So many really sad girls. There are at least a half dozen on my daughter's hall and that is one hall in one dorm.
Are they sad because they didn’t get invited back to the so called top tier and they dropped? Or because they actually didn’t get a bid after filling out the form on bid day?
From what I saw this year most of the girls were going after the same middle of the road, fun, laid back sororities. They dropped when that didn’t work out because they didn’t find their fit at the tippy top ones or the very bottom ones. Just really hard to get into the ones where they fit best because those were really popular this year I think.
Anonymous
01/22/2026 00:45
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Didn’t the northwestern female students close several sororities in recent years bc of historic racism or other reasons?
Anonymous
01/21/2026 23:17
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Northwestern sorority rush was brutal. Only 50% of girls who rushed got bids.
Brutal.
A lot of Manhattan private school girls didn’t get bids (many SIP) and are now thinking about helping recolonize a chapter that’s coming back.
Is that unusual for northwestern for that many girls to not get bids?
Yes very. These numbers seem more akin to UVA? Or an SEC school than NU.
Rumor/theory from my kid is they have much more interest in Greek life (like everywhere) this year and they’re recruiting a “different” kind of applicant lately.
More Vandy. Less Cornell?
A lot of angry kids and parents. And a lot of demands on university to encourage more Greek chapters to come back.
Does SIP mean suicide bid? Could these girls really only see themselves in one chapter?
NP. Also, familiar with NU rush this year.
By the time you get to philanthropy or pref, maybe yes given the other names on the list?
The cuts were apparently really harsh at NU. Or maybe they are everywhere? Reports that pledge classes are around 40. Why wouldn't the school increase the pledge classes by 10-15 at least?
Very harsh at UVA too. So many really sad girls. There are at least a half dozen on my daughter's hall and that is one hall in one dorm.
Are they sad because they didn’t get invited back to the so called top tier and they dropped? Or because they actually didn’t get a bid after filling out the form on bid day?
Anonymous
01/21/2026 23:14
Subject: When sorority rush goes wrong
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Northwestern sorority rush was brutal. Only 50% of girls who rushed got bids.
Brutal.
A lot of Manhattan private school girls didn’t get bids (many SIP) and are now thinking about helping recolonize a chapter that’s coming back.
Is that unusual for northwestern for that many girls to not get bids?
Yes very. These numbers seem more akin to UVA? Or an SEC school than NU.
Rumor/theory from my kid is they have much more interest in Greek life (like everywhere) this year and they’re recruiting a “different” kind of applicant lately.
More Vandy. Less Cornell?
A lot of angry kids and parents. And a lot of demands on university to encourage more Greek chapters to come back.
Does SIP mean suicide bid? Could these girls really only see themselves in one chapter?
Yes that is what it means. And the girls are definitely informed of the consequences of doing that.